I find it's not ME who is judging them, it's them judging ME.
I head a mid-size agency's interactive design department. I am very careful with how I dress/accessories I carry, as I know what I wear is who I am superficially to those who don't know me. I'm perfectly happy wearing a paul frank t-shirt, shorts and flip flops on weekends, but I know that's totally impossible for me at work now even though my agency does not have a dress code. For if I walk into work in my weekend garbs:
1) those who have to get approval from me will think "who is this little girl bossing me around?"
2) my clients will think "who is this little girl telling me i need to spend half a million bucks on a website?"
And yes, like it or not, we're being judged all the time by those around us. When I see a jr. designer come in with a bag I wanted to buy, the bag is on immediate "no" list.
I guess we can agree to disagree on this one. I don't let it bother me what people think of me or how they judge me. I developed a knack for nice designer bags when I was starting out as a jr. rep in the company i was working for. I started with coace and by ends year i was sporting 2 fendis and a prada. Till this day my collection has by far exceeded what i ever dreamed it would be. Did people talk? maybe? Did they snicker? possibly? do they still do it? i'm sure! life is short. enjoy what you like and what you spend your money on.
i'm sure alot of people i come across have that "who does this woman think she is" attitude about me, however its only made me more thick skinned. Those are the desks and offices that I pass holding my bag up higher.
