I wouldn't be offended, but I think it'd be weird if someone asked me if they could try my jewelry on... I mean, if you tell someone they have a nice cardigan you don't proceed to ask if you can try that on right??
Dealing with Others when Wearing Jewelry
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That's a good analogy...I don't know if I would be offended I would just think it would be a strange thing to ask someone you don't know well.
The only time someone ever asked to try on my jewelry was in Tiffany. My SA asked to tried on my VCA Lotus ring, and I was okay with her request because I knew her for a long time. Maybe I give off an unapproachable vibe, but really, no one else ever asked to try on my jewelry. 
I get uncomfortable when I am asked how much something costs. I usually say it's costume and thank the person for the compliment. Unless I know the person well and they obviously know it is NOT costume. lol
All very interesting stories. I don't often get asked about my jewelry because where I live/work (LA/Beverly Hills) it's nothing special. But when people do ask me about price or size of my jewelry I always respond that they were gifts from my husband and that I do not know the specifics. When asked about bags/clothes I always say they came from ebay or that I bought the item with several other items and so I don't know the exact price.
My nanny asks about the cost of EVERYTHING, and these are my standard answers to her. You think she'd get the picture, since I've never actually told her the price of anything!
My nanny asks about the cost of EVERYTHING, and these are my standard answers to her. You think she'd get the picture, since I've never actually told her the price of anything!
It's so interesting to see this discussion here. I'm a newlywed who has experienced several uncomfortable moments recently as well. As some people are drawn to my wedding set because of size, I'm personally drawn to it genuinely for an entirely different, very meaningful reason. When we first got engaged, I spotted a ring in a window display that I loved and called it my dream ring. I never even asked for it and went on to choose a very simple and practical diamond band as our engagement ring. The band was beautiful to me, and I was totally ecstatic about it. Long story short, I unexpectedly fell very ill during the wedding planning and ended up enduring open-heart surgery and fighting for my life across the country from home, with him by my side throughout 
. The whole journey set us back over a year and bonded us beyond words. Anyways, after I was in the clear, he surprised me with that same dream ring from the window, rededicated himself and his proposal to me, and we cut the hoopla and got married in a simple courthouse ceremony. Sorry for the saga 
The point I'm trying to explain here is that when I look at my rings, regardless of what they look like, they are symbolic to me of so much more than just our wedding day. To me, it is a symbol of what we overcame together. With all that meaning behind it, I get extra offended when people react rudely. I have experienced everything from the aunt asking if she can "borrow it to wear to a party", to the dental assistant actually trying to pull it off my finger to try on (while I'm in the chair in the middle of having work done!!), to all the very hurtful "I can see why you married him" comments. DH is my prince charming in many ways, none of which have anything to do with jewelry, and I would adore him just the same ring-or-no-ring. I am typically very shy and non-confrontational, so when these moments occur, I am too busy being uncomfortable to say anything to them. It makes me quite sad that I have actually recently been thinking that I may be better off just parking the ring in the safe and not wearing it at all anymore, simply because it has put me in so many awkward situations. Apparently jewelry can instigate quite the experiment in human psychology, am I right ladies?
. The whole journey set us back over a year and bonded us beyond words. Anyways, after I was in the clear, he surprised me with that same dream ring from the window, rededicated himself and his proposal to me, and we cut the hoopla and got married in a simple courthouse ceremony. Sorry for the saga The point I'm trying to explain here is that when I look at my rings, regardless of what they look like, they are symbolic to me of so much more than just our wedding day. To me, it is a symbol of what we overcame together. With all that meaning behind it, I get extra offended when people react rudely. I have experienced everything from the aunt asking if she can "borrow it to wear to a party", to the dental assistant actually trying to pull it off my finger to try on (while I'm in the chair in the middle of having work done!!), to all the very hurtful "I can see why you married him" comments. DH is my prince charming in many ways, none of which have anything to do with jewelry, and I would adore him just the same ring-or-no-ring. I am typically very shy and non-confrontational, so when these moments occur, I am too busy being uncomfortable to say anything to them. It makes me quite sad that I have actually recently been thinking that I may be better off just parking the ring in the safe and not wearing it at all anymore, simply because it has put me in so many awkward situations. Apparently jewelry can instigate quite the experiment in human psychology, am I right ladies? 
Aww thanks for that Ame!!!
You're so right--it's the BEST!!!I also totally agree with you on how it can bring out the "real" side of some people. I've certainly taken notice of some different and surprising sides of some people who I would've absolutely SWORN I knew inside and out...
Some people just cannot contain their hate for anyone else being happy or having anything better than they do, and the medusa comes out. They don't know anything about your life, your experiences, your finances, and I really wish people would just keep it to themselves! Wear it proudly. You survived, you beat it, and you deserve it. F them in the eye if they have something negative to say about it! yeaaa!
I have some "friends" that say SO many ignorant things to me, and my stone is not that big. One specific person.
The medusa!!! 
You crack me up!
Ultimately, I think the root of many peoples' behavior is just a reflection of their own insecurities. "Stuff" can fun, but it shouldn't define us and certainly shouldn't be a basis for judgement. It can come and go just as easily (and in this economy, unfortunately I'm sure we've all seen several instances where it has), and the only thing that remains is our character on the inside.
On another note... anyone know of any cute evil eye bracelets?? Out of necessity, of course
jk.
You crack me up!Ultimately, I think the root of many peoples' behavior is just a reflection of their own insecurities. "Stuff" can fun, but it shouldn't define us and certainly shouldn't be a basis for judgement. It can come and go just as easily (and in this economy, unfortunately I'm sure we've all seen several instances where it has), and the only thing that remains is our character on the inside.
On another note... anyone know of any cute evil eye bracelets?? Out of necessity, of course
jk.
It's so interesting to see this discussion here. I'm a newlywed who has experienced several uncomfortable moments recently as well. As some people are drawn to my wedding set because of size, I'm personally drawn to it genuinely for an entirely different, very meaningful reason. When we first got engaged, I spotted a ring in a window display that I loved and called it my dream ring. I never even asked for it and went on to choose a very simple and practical diamond band as our engagement ring. The band was beautiful to me, and I was totally ecstatic about it. Long story short, I unexpectedly fell very ill during the wedding planning and ended up enduring open-heart surgery and fighting for my life across the country from home, with him by my side throughout
Your DH sounds like an amazing guy! I'm having a hard time imagining any male of my acquaintance doing something like that. Wear your ring with pride.
When someone comments, I'd just say "My husband bought it for me when I recovered from open heart surgery".
Most people will stop judging or commenting at that point -
1) They don't want to be seen as beating up the survivor (while attacking the person with different priorities is considered acceptable?!?)
2) They will understand that you do have an emotional connection to the ring. And 3) that it was your DH's decision; he wants to treat you well, it wasn't something you demanded or purchased for yourself.
As for the other circumstances - I'd complain to your dentist, and either change dentist or demand a new hygenist. Someone trying to take your jewelry from you while you are in the chair is threatening, and you should feel safe when you go to the dentist!
I have no recommends on family, other than simply saying "NO!" and giving the lemur face.