Dealing with Others when Wearing Jewelry

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#31
Totally understand. I remember at 6yo when my mother has finished her masters degree and her convocation was within the week, I went everywhere proudly telling people we'd meet that she was going "on vacation" because I couldn't say convocation. It's not the same as bragging about an object, but my mother was still embarrassed enough =P

Geez, I gotta stop going OT here. Sorry OP.
 
#32
Thanks for sharing everyone, it seems there are a few strategies for dealing with these people---it also seems that I'm not alone with having people I know be rude/pushy/whatever about either cost or trying something. I'm still searching for that appropriate line to say. "It was a gift" works well enough for strangers, but not for friends/family. Last night my neighbor kept trying to guess how much my ring cost. Sigh.

I really really appreciate you all sharing stories and ideas here. Thank you.

I find that I wear my jewelry less and/or turn the rings around as ame mentioned.

Perhaps it *is* the economy?
 
#33
I do think the economy is part of it. I've had comments even in good economy too but around my office it is definitely economically driven.
 
#34
my friends always asks me if they can try on my e-ring...NO!!!! haha, most likely though because none of them are engaged, so they don't realize this is a stange thing to ask! (I let them try my yurman pieces and even let one of my friends tried my diamond studs because she was deciding on size.)
 
#35
prettysquare said:
Good call. Random OT: I went to a random jeweler near me to get my gold chain extended. He gets to work at the counter trying to balance the awl on the hard counter top glass and failing miserably because the awl handle keeps sliding around. This goes on for 2 minutes as he's desperately trying to get the links apart. I finally tell him that he should put something soft under the awl handle, and the man looks at me like I'm a genius. *facepalm* He gets a padded jewelry roll and the job is done in 30 seconds.
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omg...well there's good goldsmiths and bad ones too! we found two of the latter:laugh:
 
#36
I kind of think that there are just some people who don't know what is and is not appropriate and just lack boundaries at times, like someone you don't know well just grabbing your hand and trying to pry off your ring in order to "try it on" or get a closer look or a stranger asking if a piece of jewelry is real or asking what it costs. I have mostly just been complimented about a piece of jewelry but I once had a female Dr. who noticed my Rolex and my LV bag sitting on the chair and said "wow, you treat yourself very well", I was sitting on the table in the gown and felt very uncomfortable. The next appointment she made comments about how I had such a muscular and strong stomach and was just awkward. I decided to see another Dr. LOL
 
#37
Where I work, if it isn't an e-ring, then it doesn't get noticed. No one notices my Love bracelet at all, they just know its a gold bracelet (I don't say much).
I can count on one hand what compliments I have received. I got a compliment on a silver heart Tiffany ring I have, on a silver Tiffany key pendant, and on a clover pendant I had before I bought my VCA clover.
I usually only wear my Love bracelet and a necklace at work, since I work with my hands and wouldn't want my rings to get banged up.
Honestly I really never receive any compliments; just those three times in the year I have been working at my job. The only time I did get a compliment on my Love bracelet was when I was in Tiffany's picking up a necklace I had gotten shortened, and the man eyeballed my bracelet and told me how much he loves Cartier and how much he really wants a Love bracelet too.
I have no problem with compliments... I do not like being asked how much I paid for something while I am at work or by a family member, because I KNOW I will be judged.
 
#38
I get only compliments, and people always look kindly when I say I treated myself for whatever occasion. If someone tried to make me feel bad about what I wore I would ask them what made them have such poor self esteem as to try to make me feel bad about something they are obviously jealous about and walk away, they aren't work my time.

Most compliments I get are either one of my rings or all the beaded jewelry I wear because I make jewelry. I love diamonds (who doesn't!)so most of my jewelry has something glittering, but I mix high end jewelers with simple fun beads, so I always have a relaxed and casual look. It's just my style.
 
#39
saligator said:
Thanks for sharing everyone, it seems there are a few strategies for dealing with these people---it also seems that I'm not alone with having people I know be rude/pushy/whatever about either cost or trying something. I'm still searching for that appropriate line to say. "It was a gift" works well enough for strangers, but not for friends/family. Last night my neighbor kept trying to guess how much my ring cost. Sigh.

I really really appreciate you all sharing stories and ideas here. Thank you.

I find that I wear my jewelry less and/or turn the rings around as ame mentioned.

Perhaps it *is* the economy?
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I do think the state of economy is playing a factor. But I am actually using this to my favour at the moment with my family. They were a bit disapproving when I bought my Cartier rg cuff (could have paid off car, extra mortgage payments etc) but since then Cartier has had 2 price increases and my cuff is nearly £500 more. So when I tell them that, they actually approve! So much so, my boyfriend is thinking about buying some gold jewelry for himself which is unheard of!!
 
#40
All of my friends/family know I am addicted to e-bay so I just say everything is an bay score (which is very often true). I just say I placed I low-ball bid or offer and got lucky.
 
#41
prettysquare said:
Strangely enough, it's my not-that-expensive-or-glamourous Bulova watch that gets the most comments. I get compliments and questions on cost from co-workers, people in elevators, random family friends. And people always want to try it on!! It's a pretty watch, I'm just surprised some people I know with super fancy watches find mine desirable.
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It doesn't happen as much anymore, but one of the most complimented things I own is my Bulova watch too. Even jewelers comment on it.

ame said:
I do think the economy is part of it. I've had comments even in good economy too but around my office it is definitely economically driven.
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Thats why I stopped wearing my ring for a year and a half. My ring wasn't a representation of where we were anymore and it felt wrong to wear it. I got weird looks when I did.

I got over it :-)

lanasyogamama said:
I have some standard responses. When people comment on the size of my ER, I say "yeah, but he made me wait a million years for it!". Someone asked how much my Love was and I just said "Ugh, I don't want to say, I'll be embarrassed". The thing I'm struggling with right now is that my 5 year old likes to show off my stuff, probably because she knows how much I love it, but it's kind of embarassing when she shoves my wrist at someone and says "My Mommy has a REAL GOLD BRACELET."
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My 2 year old daughter at the time announced at a dinner party with friends that "Mommy went to the doctor to find out about getting bigger boobies." It doesn't get much more embarrasing than that.
 
#42
My 2 year old daughter at the time announced at a dinner party with friends that "Mommy went to the doctor to find out about getting bigger boobies." It doesn't get much more embarrasing than that.[/QUOTE]

:laugh: Love kids!
 
#43
Kids are so honest its so funny watching them in action, but I would have turned so red from being embarrased.

No one notices jewelry where I live but I live surrounded by farms. I took my Cartier love ring to be sized up, I didn't want to pay Cartier to do it, the ladies at the jewelry store had no idea what Cartier was. I couldn't understand how they could work there and not know Cartier. People look at my e-ring but they won't say its nice. I find though that so many women are so competative that giving a complement somehow makes it seem that you are one up on them. When I see a notice a ring or bracelet I complement it because I love jewelry but that's not the case with many women. Thankfully there is this forum where we can show our items and get great advice from jewelry lovers alike.
 
#44
I started a new job two months ago and I've recently stopped wearing my e-ring everyday. My diamond is not that large, but it is bigger than most of ones I've seen other women wearing. I often noticed during meetings that women would be blatantly staring at my ring, so that made me uncomfortable. Now, I just wear it 2-3x/week (if I remember to!).

Similar scenario happened at my old job. My mom gave me her old Rolex with diamond markers and was very excited to have it so I wore it to work everyday. My manager and my manager's manager wore Rolexes too. During my one on one meetings with my manager, I would notice her staring at my wrist for extended periods of time and lose her train of thought when speaking, which made me uncomfortable, so I wore it sparingly after that. :)

Now, at my new job, I have been alternating between my Cartier ballon bleu mid-size SS watch and a cheap Stuhrling watch, both are not bling-y, and seems that no one has noticed so far.

Maybe I'm a bit paranoid about all this, but I am still quite young, always the youngest person in my teams, and I don't want to make a wrong impression on the people I work with, for whatever reason.

But when it comes to bags - no one notices the Goyards I bring to work, so that makes me happy!
 
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