Bag Insults - Ever Had One?
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Gosh I don't even know where to start. I appreciate all things non-designer/designer but there are some things that I believe you just get what you pay for. Anyways, I used to work as an executive assistant for a successful practice but had to quit 2 years ago when I started going back to school. Now that I've got the hang of school, I've decided to take on a job as a part-time receptionist at a long term care facility.
One day I was just minding my own business when my boss came out of nowhere and just started appraising my whole outfit for the staff and visitors to hear. "Oh your outfit looks so nice but I'm sure it was expensive! Look at those Michael Kors shoes, that Gucci belt!" and then she turns to this random woman and goes on to say "Timi here always carries designer bags, they cost a fortune!". Mind you, the only logo I had on me was the quarter sized one on my shoes that were being covered by the bottom of my trousers! I try to be more conservative at work so you'll only know the designers I happen to be wearing (if I'm wearing any at all) if you're into them!...Now she's got the woman's attention and it just gets worse from there! "I thought you were in school, Timi. Surely you're not wasting your money on buying expensive things!". I told her that of course I wasn't because I had textbooks to buy for the upcoming semester. Then she continues "It must be from mom and dad then. Yes, ofcourse, I know you can't afford those things." accompanied by a look that implied that I'm basically not allowed to have anything nice or be able to save due to my "meager" salary because I'm only a receptionist. And she just kept going! "Your parents must be wealthy! It must be nice to have rich parents. I never gave my daughter things like that!". It was just so awful and upsetting! My parents work hard for what they have and they deserve every penny. Whatever my parents give me is at their discretion and I try my best to be good to people! Did she ever think that maybe I worked hard to succeed in my previous job and had a great opportunity to save?! I was just so unnerved and po'd because she's the authority figure! I mean, she's the one who should lead by example as to how to treat each other in a workplace! I honestly don't know wth she was lamenting about cuz she probably makes 5-10 times more than all the staff! Plus, her definition of water cooler conversation is her talking about her Harry Winston diamonds and her Cartier watches! UGHHHH! Sorry for the rant but it feels so good to get this off my chest!!
One day I was just minding my own business when my boss came out of nowhere and just started appraising my whole outfit for the staff and visitors to hear. "Oh your outfit looks so nice but I'm sure it was expensive! Look at those Michael Kors shoes, that Gucci belt!" and then she turns to this random woman and goes on to say "Timi here always carries designer bags, they cost a fortune!". Mind you, the only logo I had on me was the quarter sized one on my shoes that were being covered by the bottom of my trousers! I try to be more conservative at work so you'll only know the designers I happen to be wearing (if I'm wearing any at all) if you're into them!...Now she's got the woman's attention and it just gets worse from there! "I thought you were in school, Timi. Surely you're not wasting your money on buying expensive things!". I told her that of course I wasn't because I had textbooks to buy for the upcoming semester. Then she continues "It must be from mom and dad then. Yes, ofcourse, I know you can't afford those things." accompanied by a look that implied that I'm basically not allowed to have anything nice or be able to save due to my "meager" salary because I'm only a receptionist. And she just kept going! "Your parents must be wealthy! It must be nice to have rich parents. I never gave my daughter things like that!". It was just so awful and upsetting! My parents work hard for what they have and they deserve every penny. Whatever my parents give me is at their discretion and I try my best to be good to people! Did she ever think that maybe I worked hard to succeed in my previous job and had a great opportunity to save?! I was just so unnerved and po'd because she's the authority figure! I mean, she's the one who should lead by example as to how to treat each other in a workplace! I honestly don't know wth she was lamenting about cuz she probably makes 5-10 times more than all the staff! Plus, her definition of water cooler conversation is her talking about her Harry Winston diamonds and her Cartier watches! UGHHHH! Sorry for the rant but it feels so good to get this off my chest!!
Oh, IDK. I'd take that as a compliment. Whenever was "you must be wealthy" not a compliment? haha
^ how awful for your boss to go on and on like that!
i hear some of the same things from people i work with: is that real? how can you afford that? i'd never pay that much for a purse.
and when they think i can't hear: why carry a bag with someone's name one it? her parents must have bought that. who does she think she is?
why people are so concerned about what i'm wearing i have no idea
i hear some of the same things from people i work with: is that real? how can you afford that? i'd never pay that much for a purse.
and when they think i can't hear: why carry a bag with someone's name one it? her parents must have bought that. who does she think she is?
why people are so concerned about what i'm wearing i have no idea
Oh man, her tone when she said it was basically "if your parents are so rich, why are you working here?". It was just so irritating b/c it's so far from the truth! I mean, my family's not destitute but we're not swimming in it either. Man, I wish!
It was embarrassing that she did it out in the open for anyone and everyone to hear!
The jealousy is just awful! For me, I think that nice things shouldn't breed ill feelings or take the wrong connotations of success (spoiled, lazy, wasteful, materialistic). Instead, these items should say that we've worked hard to get the best that we can because we all deserve to treat ourselves with a little something nice.
I had that a lot, actually to my face, not implied between lines. So what if your parents have money, it's theirs and you want to make your own.
In a workplace dressing up and in obvious brands it is always a factor to be hated and be singled out, because others will be envious. Not everyone but there is always the occasional hateful person that thinks is entitled to be mean and toxic, just because she believes you don't deserve your job if you spend your money in things she disapproves off.
Your boss is such a HYPOCRITE.
Heavy sigh...unfortunately ladies, there's always someone, who for various reasons, likes to make us feel a bit guilty.
Either they can't or won't spend serious money on bags, as they perceive them only as a carrier for their goodies, not the actual goodie that we tPF'ers crave.
Then there's the jealous friend, who surreptitiously wants all your bags, but doesn't have the money to buy them. Sadly, instead of being happy you can have something you love, some go a little green with envy and make spiteful comments.
Then there are those without manners - it's nobody's business what you pay for a bag. Is it ok to eat steak when others are eating sausages - I think so!! Does anyone ever criticise your choice for lunch or dinner??
Ignore them - love your bag(s) and smile because it's yours!
Either they can't or won't spend serious money on bags, as they perceive them only as a carrier for their goodies, not the actual goodie that we tPF'ers crave.
Then there's the jealous friend, who surreptitiously wants all your bags, but doesn't have the money to buy them. Sadly, instead of being happy you can have something you love, some go a little green with envy and make spiteful comments.
Then there are those without manners - it's nobody's business what you pay for a bag. Is it ok to eat steak when others are eating sausages - I think so!! Does anyone ever criticise your choice for lunch or dinner??
Ignore them - love your bag(s) and smile because it's yours!
^^Catdance is so right. There will always be jealous people with problems about your good fortune, but the problem is their problem, not yours. You've worked hard to attain certain luxuries and you deserve to enjoy them and be happy. Don't let the jealous ones get to you.
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LOL What a jealous beeeaatch. Goes to show you, money and position do not mean class. If she has to talk about her Cartier and Winstons, she has serious class issues. Have you ever seen these baubles or does she just talk about them? Apparently no one knows what they are unless she tells them.
Just go on about your normal business and be proud of what you have. She's the one with major issues. Sounds like she is lacking in the management skills department as well. If she continues, you might want to go to your HR person and file a harassment report - seriously. She is making your work environment uncomfortable.
Just go on about your normal business and be proud of what you have. She's the one with major issues. Sounds like she is lacking in the management skills department as well. If she continues, you might want to go to your HR person and file a harassment report - seriously. She is making your work environment uncomfortable.
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Those babies must be superglued to her! There's no way they're coming off hahaha. And yes, I definitely will take it to HR if it continues. It's too bad that there's not enough wonderful TPFers like you guys to go around. Seriously.
or i hate when people tell me you can get a knock off on the streets for 20 bucks . why pay that much your crazy
It wasn't meant to be insult but I was still insulted. A friend's husband commented on my bag and he was like, 'You're only advertising those designers through your handbags for free'. My jaw dropped!