Bag Insults - Ever Had One?

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#211
Before TPF I was not into bags.
When I was a teen I had a red nylon shoulder bag with some graphic stuff in front I really liked. I loved that bag because it was roomy but wouldn't look bulky and it'd fit a cardigan, my books and my make up/personal stuff... I was meeting some friends at a bar one night and I was chatting with a guy that used to work there and I was friendly with. He asked me "Do you always carry THAT bag with you?" and I said "Yeah it is my bag and I carry it, why?" and he replied "You think it's a cool bag huh? It is the most ugly bag I've ever seen"
Mind you I was 17 years old and fresh out of HS and a tom boy at the time, I didn't even had a BF yet, I was in track suits all the time, probably looked like a tall 8th grader. Boy, did that guy hit a nerve! I was mad on the inside but I laughed it off and said something like why would I carry a better bag anyway I just came from my prep classes.
When I went home I kicked the bag and cried. After a series of other coincidental insults about my clothes and hair I got a job to fund new clothes, accessories, salons and fashion magazines. I was a really late bloomer, others knew about this stuff since 11 or 12.
 
#212
^ that's a sad story :(
so sorry you had to go thorough that. I wish you had more support from your friends. I'm sure you'd change something later but this was forced on you. I just wanna share my story with you, because being different isn't always bad, if you're comfortable with who you are people will respect you and eventually accept it. if they don't - they're not your people.

when I was in primary school I was so proud because I wore the same backpack for 8 years. first people thought it was odd then as the years went by they thought it was pretty cool. :D

in high school I was "different", I'd wear mostly black clothes (some dark blue and gray too but I wasn't "a darker" or goth, actually I didn't wear any make up to school, it was a hassle and I liked to sleep in), I was exclusively into rock (and nothing else at that time, I considered other genres unworthy of my godly attention :rolleyes: yep, 17 was such a fun time...) but whenever someone made a rude comment about my hair or clothes I was never hurt, I felt sorry for them, they were worried by such silly things, I was proud to be different and above it all. and I was, I felt great, invincible. when my new pair of black pants was ripped on a school chair I went home and took a thick bright red thread and made deliberately clumsy Xes to patch it up. and continued to wear it. some girls asked me if they were designer :p

I made a change in my clothes when I felt like it, when I saw a t-shirt that was not black and thought "hey this is cute, it could work". I still get very defensive in my head when someone want to impose their conventions or beliefs on me.

and I got into bags a year ago, no one around me is into bags, so it just happened in my head. I thought one day "hey this is cute, it could work..."
 
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#213
^ You are so sweet! The guy was not my friend but I was talking with him while waiting for my friends, we knew each other but not too well. I'm glad he was honest, but he could be tactful kwim?
My friends never told me anything about the clothes or bag, probably because it wasn't too bad anyway, I was a pretty girl and usually it is enough at that age. But I was getting comments from strangers that were hitting nerves because I was totally clueless at this age and was super sensitive because I had no one to help me with style and fashion (my friends were boys).
My first boss (at the jewelry shop I started working) was a lot kinder to me and explained it to me in a good way , when I asked him what to wear he told me to wear a dress that would be appropriate in church on Sunday morning.
 
#214
An4 said:
^ that's a sad story :(
so sorry you had to go thorough that. I wish you had more support from your friends. I'm sure you'd change something later but this was forced on you. I just wanna share my story with you, because being different isn't always bad, if you're comfortable with who you are people will respect you and eventually accept it. if they don't - they're not your people.

when I was in primary school I was so proud because I wore the same backpack for 8 years. first people thought it was odd then as the years went by they thought it was pretty cool. :D

in high school I was "different", I'd wear mostly black clothes (some dark blue and gray too but I wasn't "a darker" or goth, actually I didn't wear any make up to school, it was a hassle and I liked to sleep in), I was exclusively into rock (and nothing else at that time, I considered other genres unworthy of my godly attention :rolleyes: yep, 17 was such a fun time...) but whenever
someone made a rude comment about my hair or clothes I was never hurt, I felt sorry for them, they were worried by such silly things, I was proud
to be different and above it all. and I was, I felt great, invincible. when my
new pair of black pants was ripped on a school chair I went home and took a
thick bright red thread and made deliberately clumsy Xes to patch it up. and
continued to wear it. some girls asked me if they were designer :p



I made a change in my clothes when I felt like it, when I saw a t-shirt that was not black and thought "hey this is cute, it could work". I still get very defensive in my head when someone want to impose their conventions or beliefs on me.



and I got into bags a year ago, no one around me is into bags, so it just happened in my head. I thought one day "hey this is cute, it could work..."
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I was the same way in high school.

Now back to the topic at hand. I have never been into really high end designers and can't afford them right now. I am happy having my Coach and Rm's though. One day my boy friend, his friend and I went to dinner at a little Italian restaurant together.my boy friend had ran to the bathroom so I was getting something out of my Coach bag. I had started talking about how I collect bags and blah blah. Right out of the blue he asked me "Is that a fake?" by the way it was a leather bag. I thought to myself if I just said I collect bags and how much I take care of them why would he ask this question.
 
#215
:shrugs: If you carry designer bags around people who don't have them, it seems like it would be perfectly predictable that you'll encounter some comments or judgment that may or may not insult you. If you don't understand cars, for example, and go to a car show, you're probably going to say something that will have the car aficionados thinking that you're out of the loop or judging them for their hobby. Bag - or clothes, or house, or car - envy will always exist and, as much as we don't want to admit it, part of the reason we buy nice things is so our neighbors will think "Wow, I wish I had that." So of course there will be comments! How is that shocking?

And, as this thread has amply demonstrated, even if you only carry your bag around other bag lovers, they're still going to be comparing and ranking their bag to yours (and may still be passing judgment on you).

It's just a bag and people will always matter more than accessories. Just do what you can to make those around you feel comfortable and when you've done all you can do, smile and give them the benefit of the doubt. Life is too short to be ostracizing others and carrying grudges over a comment on a piece of leather or nylon.
 
#216
Cindi said:
Yep, A girl told me my Louis Vuitton Denim bag was "so last season". I told her it probably costs more than she made all last season. LOL Childish yes but it made me feel better.
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I love it! I see that you have a quick tongue as I do and can put a person in his/her place and fast. There are times when one just has to fight fire with fire.
 
#217
Not really an insult, but...I am the only one in my family who is "into" bags. I am the only one in DH's family who is "into" bags. I don't even purchase the real luxury goods (I once asked DH for a Bal bag as a college graduation gift and he wouldn't budge from him FIRM no reply). Right now, my collection consists of a couple of Gustto bags, an Anthropologie Miss Albright bag, and I recently purchased a Gerard Darel bag (on its way to me now). My wallet is a Balenciaga and I recently purchased a Gerard Darel wallet as well. My collection is very small and is luxurious TO ME!

Anyway, my mom and DH's grandmother recently started talking about my bag "problem" at a family gathering. I heard my mom saying, "I don't know where she gets it from...It certainly wasn't me...I buy one bag at Wal Mart for $30 and it lasts me until it wears out...YEARS!" DH's grandmother replied, "Yes, me too. I don't see the sense in spending all of that money on bags." Mom proceeded to reflect that her sister is "into" bags too and she buys Coach and Dooney and recently handed down a Jessica Simpson bag to Mom because she didn't like it. Mom thought Jessica Simpson was high dollar. I don't tell them how much my bags cost. If Jessica Simpson had any styles I liked, I wouldn't hesitate to purchase one but I find the quality and styles are just not my taste. However, I would hardly qualify JS as a "high dollar" bag. Then again, I don't see my bags as "high dollar" bags either. I reserve that title for BV, Bal, Prada, etc. The ones that are $1,500 and up.

Anyway, it grates on me sometimes that my family treats my bag appreciation as a disease. Oh well...DH knows I enjoy them and, while he feigns shock and horror when I express interest in a new bag, he recently told my sister that I work hard for my money (I work full time and earn more than he does) and I deserve to spoil myself A LITTLE. :p
 
#218
OH MY! YOU SAID IT BEST, even though i do own the largest speedy for travel purposes.

So this is going to be a short rant. :p

We share our shopping experiences and finds alot, and are pretty close shopping buddies. Just the other day, i was chatting with my girlfriend and i happened to mentioned that i just recently got a Bal bag.. as the reason for being broke.

She asked why i got a "motorcycle bag" and said that it was "such a cliché".

In my head i was going: no a cliché is an LV Monogram Speedy. (no offense to anyone really, it's a more common bag i think!)

But i said: That range of Balenciaga is called the Motorcycle bag. I got the City.
And that was that.

I am nooooott a clicheeeeé.[/QUOTE]
 
#219
People should NEVER NEVER EVER be judged for what they are wearing or carrying !! If they are wearing or carrying something simply because they think it is the thing to do....then you can judge them.

If people really really love something and buy it for that reason then no one, and I mean no one has the right to judge another human being !!!!! My comment has always been...."well, since when did God tell you it's okay to stick your nose in my business". PERIOD
 
#220
I got my first bag insult today. A girl I know came up to me, took one look at my bag, and yelled 'LV?! That's disgusting!'

She said she hated all luxury items and that she would never spend more than $50 on a bag, that mine was just going to get stolen, and kept asking me how much it cost, even though I told her I wasn't comfortable sharing. It was quite irritating.

Oh, well. It's important to remember: haters gonna hate.:okay:
 
#222
Yes I have my fair share of insults from one of my good guy friend. Me, my bf and him went out for lunch, and the conversation started when i arrived with my LV Speedy purse....
Friend: "is that real?"
me: "YESSSSSS its real!" with distrubed look
Friend: "Are you sure it is real? Its looks kinda fake......are you sure you didnt get it in China?"
Me: "No im pretty sure I DIDN'T get it in China!!"
Friend: "Well anyways, I don't think you should carry that bag, it really doesn't suit you! Leave it to those rich old women who has money."

I was seriously pissed off!! What pissed me off is that he doesn't have any interest in buying Logo Branded stuff anyways, and he wouldn't even know how to tell between a real one or fake one. The funniest thing is that I usually carry a Gucci leather bag around, but he never says anything about that one, because he doesnt even know that it is a Gucci bag. Just because he recognize the speedy, and he just have to say something about that!!
 
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