Pug... My dh knows that I always give more than I keep. That makes him upset, but he never told me. He did however since we've been together that I need not worry about my little obsessions. And that things I buy need not be hidden from him. That it would not make for an honest healthy relationship. He really likes to ask me what I want for my personal holidays and always ask is there an LV I would like. With the self imposed ban of one bag a year it's hard to break that habit. Guess my family makes me feel more guilty than my dh. Plus I am super picky of my LVs.Pinki that is soo sweet of him. Maybe I went overboard this year with LV by getting 5 bags so dh is worried that I may want 5 new bags a year which I will not. I tried to explain that they are classic and that they will never go out of style and the prices go up a few times a year. Infact I chose iconic bags for the most part because I knew that they would be in style year after year after year. One bag a year sounds super reasonable. Maybe I will share your little story with dh and he maybe he will go for that one LV treat a year.
I just hate feeling so guilty over my handbags and hiding purchases.
You know exactly how I feel. The fact that dh hates me spending so much as a nickel probably made me want to go out and buy more than I normally would. THis year I bought 5 handbags too...you go gf. When dh buys stuff I say nothing infact I am happy for him. Why does it bug him so much when I use my own money and not joint funds . It is like he wants me to save wear old ugly clothes and handbags...for what to save a few bucks so he can go buy electronics or sports stuff. Even when I took pilates classes he *****ed about it and downloaded pilates off the internet for free..weird...I prefer going doing pilates with others not alone. Ohh well dh is frugal frugal frugal and it is annoying because I would like to be open about my LV but, he complains too much and takes the joy out of getting them. I will try to teach him....he just makes me soooo at times...I feel better...thanks .Six year of marriage and listening to him say, "how much does that cost? You don't need that. Why would you want that?" about anything I buy (and I mean anything) has made me very resentful. He can buy a new computer every couple of years, and have TIVO, and have his little toy GPS, but if I buy something he gets really annoyed. Well, this year I bought 5 handbags and may buy one more (I want a Chloe paddy). I have also been eying an epi mandarin wallet. He argues that everything he buys "we can all enjoy." Yeah, but we really didn't need the TIVO. We have a VCR. It works. And trust me I will never use your little GPS because we almost NEVER GO ANYWHERE where we will get lost. And I always say, "oh, that's good." about his purchases. Now I don't tell him I bought anything until I break it out. Then he looks a little stunned and says, "Oh, OK," since now he knows better to say anything else.
I am teaching him slowly that it is better to let me buy a few things for myself than it is to get divorced.
^ Well said, Nita.Pug, DH used to say I should get 1 LV in every 5 years and gave me hard time anytime I got one. Anytime he said it's the last one sweety, I said yes it is .I made him believe that I agreed with him but I keep buying anyway. I told him those bags make me happy, that breaks his heart such as he can't make me happy, I told him he makes me happy too and even happier if you get it for me . So now he just support my habbit infact bought them for me sometime
Tips: Let him thinks that he won the case . Tell him that the bags make you happy. What hubby don't want to have happy wife. Happy wife = happy hubby . My DH knows it very well