I just don't get why everyone continues to blame her parents. We're not talking about a minor child. This is an adult who obviously has a very volatile relationship with her parents. The article posted on the previous page even goes so far as to say that her parents can't restrain her & medicate her against her will, so if she insists on defying them, what exactly are they supposed to do? Comments placing blame on her mother because of her comments last year - that's her belief and that's on her, but who's to say that Amanda would have (or ever was) willingly taking her meds and cooperating with her parents when they were designated her conservator? Maybe it was easier to think that way than to have a daily battle with her daughter to keep on taking meds. Even if her mother never made those comments, would it still be her fault that Amanda had a relapse and stopped taking her meds? No one knows what goes on behind closed doors and this constant insistence that this is all on her parents and finger pointing is ridiculous. If Amanada were 16 years old, then yea, I could see the blame being placed on her parents - but these things never even came to light until Amanada was an adult, out on her own, no longer under their care and watchful eye. Who knows how long they've been dealing with this - I'd say they did a pretty good job since no one knew about this until last year, when Amanda was 26/27 years old.
Celebrities put themselves out there and want our attention, but their families don't ask for this. Amanda's parents aren't granting interviews to Barbara Walters, or the Today Show or Anderson Cooper. They're not discussing these matters with TMZ or Vanity Fair or People Mag. They're not asking for our sympathy or understanding. They're not public figures. As far as I'm concerned, their parenting skills or family choices are no more my business than the ones made by my neighbors or the parents of my children's friends. I wouldn't want total stranger casting doubt or making public proclomations about my parenting skills, and I think its really unfair for anyone to call into question the parenting skills of Amanda Bynes parents - especially when they're not parenting a minor child.
When Robin Wiliams took his own life, did people go knock on his parents door and blame them for his mental state? When Shia LaBeouf showed up on the red carpet with a paper bag over his head, did people start asking where his parents are and why they weren't doing anything? When Joquin Phoenix had an apparent meltdown (later said to be a stunt), were people constantly saying that it was all his mothers fault? When Robert Downey Jr was so high he landed his a$$ in jail, were people calling for his mother to become his conservator? When other adult celebrities admit to being alcoholics or suffering from depression or have other mental health issues, why don't people go running to the parents of those celebrities and start pointing fingers & place all the blame them? That would be ridiculous right? Why? Because they're adults and its not their parents responsibility any more.
Amanda's parents cared enough to come to her "rescue" last year. They got her admitted to a healthcare facility and seemingly back on track. First chance she had, Amanda got out from under their care and took off, suffering a major setback - I wouldn't blame her parents if they don't want to go through that again. None of us know what went on behind closed doors, what wasn't reported on TMZ. In my opinion, they have done nothing to deserve the constant finger pointing that goes on in social media circles, but have actually done all they could - that they are legally able to do - to help their daughter. Its sad and a shame its turned out the way it has, but this constant blame being placed on her parents - or more specifically, her mother - should really stop because its unfair and uncalled for.
There's some shade being thrown their way because of their obvious denial at the start of all this about Amanda's issues and what caused it.