Ok on the shoe theme.
Soramillay was saying she is hard on shoes. And thedeesr as well! I have the opposite problems as those moms ---this mom never wears through shoes in under 12 years. I just tossed a pair I bought in 2004 and I actually secretly ruined them in December on purpose by wearing them with no socks for an entire 3 week trip to the US until the inside heel got shredded from friction. They were shearling boots that managed to go with anything and be comfortable always and warm always and just perfect but I could not consider owning them for another dozen years. I sabotaged them so I could throw them out because Oh good lord that was enough of those. They are very high quality Pertti Palmroth by the way in case anyone wants to know the brand.
Anyway, this drives me crazy that I have shoes from my early twenties still in the closet not worn out yet. I occasionally buy a pair of boots (I get lots of winter) and occasionally a pair of shoes and if you do this for fifteen years since college you end up with dozens of shoes and with so many to rotate through they really never wear out. Ever.
I found jimmy choo shearling knee high boots in Manhattan in 2009 and bought them in black and camel so three thousand for the two pairs and I'm starting to get sick of those but I am INVESTED. Plus they are 110% me in style and needs so why would I toss? I rarely buy but when I do I invest and then it takes ages for me to be done with them emotionally and physically. Ages!
I am so irritated by this because I wish I occasionally needed to buy footwear. But I never do.
The same with my winter toscana shearling collection (see a theme?)....I have been also adding different colors in the same style toscana shearling coat since I was 24, now i have 4 of them and the only one that starts to look worn is my first one, the black. And at what point do I decide it needs to be donated and get a new one? Besides maybe it just needs to be cleaned and I do not know how to do that or where to take it. I'm lazy so I just keep rotating and not care. It's usually so dark out this time of year that no one would be able to notice that my coat is not so brand new looking.
But now I have the same issue - no excuse to coat shop. I have outerwear that is perfect for me and perfect for every situation in my life and none of it seems to need replacing ever. Boo! No fun!
I also did a wardrobe overhaul in the last decade and now have everything in my 3 favorite natural fibers and in one specific flattering palette and everything that is not very flattering & comfy is gone so I can't seem to whittle down my wardrobe nor find any holes to fill. Bah!!!!
Worst thing for never needing to shop is that I have a sewing room and can alter and repair anything.
I also have already collected the jewelry I want and feel it is enough. I scratched that itch and it's done. An occasional pair of fashion earrings and I am fine.
My shawls and scarves I honed in on my favorite fibers and colors and styles and now have enough. Ditto for hats.
I built up my grown up collection of matching bra sets in my twenties and have a zillion ; although they do occasionally wear out. Maybe one day I can justify a new bra but I need to get out of nursing bras first. Definitely new panties on occasion but I found hanky pankys years ago and bought a lifetime collection of them so I'm kind of set there too.
I have a fancy gown in my closet from 2000 that I can still rock, or when I stop breastfeeding will be able to again and I anyway never have need for a fancy dress. A few other full gowns. I have a couple dozen less full on formal dresses but again, never need them.
So formalwear is covered. Even premier heels to go with them.
I have shopproofed my life!!!!!!! Help!!!!!!!
Gloves and sunglasses though, that I could use more of. I have one glorious pair of Miami Jim sunnies (aviators) that are perfect but scratched; need more. And I'm awful about losing gloves. But I don't know when I'll ever splurge on them. I get so few sunny days per year.
I did do something to try to curb the urge to buy a bag though. I bought tickets to America for the summer and am choosing now a beach house to rent with a college friend and her kids. I can tell myself budget needs to go for that!!
And......I scheduled a renewal of my eyebrows (they are the 'permanent' tattoos that last only 3-5 years) for next week and a leg lasering session as well, to zap the follicles on my legs so I can exercise these next few months without needing to check if I need to shave my legs for public exposure, and then just before summer vacation I will do it again for a hassle free summer of hairless legs (and then let's see next autumn if I do it again or if the hair has been already reduced so much that it isn't visible anymore). I hate to shave or wax so I've been slowly investing in permanent hair removal and I'm finally embarking on the legs. So worth it to permanently reduce the amount of unwanted hair that grows in unsightly places! If you are very lazy like me.
Aaaaand bed is covered in baby vomit.
I [emoji173]️ you and your posts. They are the Kenya break this mama needs from the sick baby! [emoji8]
(or at minimum I should replace them with a bag with the same elements). So I have to keep reminding myself that it's better for me to get rid of a bag I use never or many once every 18 months and replace it with a bag I'll be excited to use 10, 20 or more times a year.
