I love this thread and want to thank everyone that has shared their very true and raw experiences.
I am a young Hermes customer and started buying around 2.5 years ago. Fashion is both my passion and hobby and like some of you I came to realize I had too many things in my closet I didn't use and love and decided to switch gears and only buy high quality items that would last a life time. That naturally drew me to Hermes.
My first year was intense. As someone described in a previous post, a lot of "collectors" are intense. I went monthly to the boutique, spent most of my disposable income at Hermes and I let go of a lot of other hobbies that brought me joy.
Needless to say, soon after the first year I felt Hermes anxiety and fatigue. I was stressed I was not buying "enough". I was anxiously planning every visit to try to optimize my spending categories in hope for a bag. One day I cried at home because I thought my spending would never be "good enough" to get a Q bag offer. That was the definitive turning point, I was upset that the whole experience of shopping had created such negative emotions. So I decided to step away for a few months and that gave me so much clarity. I rekindled the love for the items I already had and went back to other daily hobbies that positively contributed to my daily.
I have a great relationship with my SA. They are friendly, polite and never pushy. But somehow still the whole buzz around the brand creates an emotional roller-coaster for customers!
I still go to the boutique every 2 months or so. The difference this time around is that now I feel I have the upper hand because my attitude changed....I don't need anything! Every time I go to the boutique I am filled with joy I get to gift myself beautiful things that I will cherish for years to come. I stopped trying to be strategic about my shopping and simply enjoy the dreamy reality that I am ABLE to shop so leisurely at Hermes due to my hard work!
Have I gotten any bags offered? No
Do I ask every once in a while? Yes
Do I have a competitive spending ratio? Who knows at this point
Last time I managed to take a peek at my profile I was at 2:1
But I stopped worrying so intensely about it all. There are so many beautiful things in this world and I although a BBK might be high on the list, it is not the absolute top and I concluded neither is Hermes.
*Edited to clarify some wording