Would you ever let your 12 year old borrow your designer bag?
- Thread starter sonya
- Start date
TPF may earn a commission from merchant affiliate
links, including eBay, Amazon, and others
Absolutely not-kids these days get too much of whatever they want. How do they ever learn to appreciate and earn things that they want?
I would let her borrow it if we were going to someone's house together. That way she's always in my sight and there's no chance of it being damaged. I wouldn't let her borrow it if she was going somewhere by herself, or if there was a chance that it could be stolen.
IMO handbags should be treated like expensive jewelry.
IMO handbags should be treated like expensive jewelry.
Probably not. Borrowing could lead to wanting designer handbags and going down a road that doesn't seem right. I want them to enjoy their childhood and not get bogged down by label branding so early. There's plenty of opportunity of exposure for that from the media, peers, etc. . .so I'd rather not be an additional factor during their childhood. Albeit, some might come from me indirectly by what I carry, but its not something I would actively encourage at that age.
When I envisioned a daughter asking and recieving a bag to borrow, I can see a 16 year old girl wanting to borrow her mothers bag for say her sweet sixteen or formal dances. Even then it would depend on her maturity. I don't understand the need for a 12 year old to borrow a designer bag from her mom if she already didn't have any of her own.
12? No. Maybe a no-name designer bag. When I have a kid, I would want them to know the value of what they're getting. I want them to know exactly what this $200 Coach bag is/entails. This is the only way they will take care of it and treat it as what it's worth. I don't think they'll get that at 12. $200 is a lot of money to me even at 24.
I was just thinking what would coco chanel have to say about young girls carrying her bags, and so I found this quote:
Elegance is not the prerogative of those who have just escaped from adolescence, but of those who have already taken possession of their future. Coco Chanel
Elegance is not the prerogative of those who have just escaped from adolescence, but of those who have already taken possession of their future. Coco Chanel
Why do kids have to grow up so early? The only time when life is simple an uncomplicated is when you are a kid, when what you carry, what you wear or what you do in your free time is not all-important, and you are not part of the rat-race that is adulthood. The simple fact that 12 year olds do ask for designer items means that they already recognize that 'some things are better than other things' a concept that is normally alien to childhood. I consider it an extension of the materialism that is already rampant in this part of the world.
The age of majority and sexual consent is placed above 12 years, and it is placed at a higher age for a reason. Youngsters are bucking even those norms because there is a societal pressure for themselves to prove themself as 'adult like' as possible as soon as possible.
Why are we enablers for that kind of situation?
The age of majority and sexual consent is placed above 12 years, and it is placed at a higher age for a reason. Youngsters are bucking even those norms because there is a societal pressure for themselves to prove themself as 'adult like' as possible as soon as possible.
Why are we enablers for that kind of situation?
Guys..if this topic has already been ..ummm..BEATEN to death in the Chanel forum..WHY OH WHY would you start ANOTHER thread on it???Especially after a MOD had to close it??
I think it totally depends on how mature and responsible she is. In general, I don't think most 12 yr olds are mature enough. I sometimes let my 16-y-o stepdaughter borrow my bags, and she has been very responsible with them. But there is a big difference between 12 & 16!