"Women want a ring that p*sses off other women"

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#76
skphotoimages said:
Ok, I hate to rant, but being genetically skinny isn't any better than anything or anyone else. Everyone thinks people with an overage of weight are the ones with problems or the only ones picked on. Not true. No one wants to hear a skinny kids rant, but I'm going to anyway. I had the body of a skinny boy most of my life. There are times in my life where I had to eat special diets just to keep weight on. I'm always freezing or getting heat stroke. I spent the better part of my life not watching what I eat because I didn't think I needed to and now at 35 my cholesterol is higher than most overweight 50 year old men. I am soooo unhealthy on the inside. I never ever use the restroom at restaurants because I'm afraid people with think I have an eating disorder. I've dealt with people and even doctors my whole life accusing me of having eating disorders. And now at 35 I find that shopping for clothes is getting harder and harder because the clothes that fit me are meant for 12 year old girls.

I know I know, like I said, no one wants to hear the rant of a skinny girl, but if your going to talk about weight snobbery, please understand that there are extremes on both ends and just about everyone feels uncomfortable about there weight or their shape in one way or another.

Sorry for the off topic rant.

I may have been teased, but was never bullied. I think people knew better. I would have kicked some serious arse. I may not be perfect (who is) but I've always been strong and stood up for myself and for others who could not stand up for themselves. In the end that is what made most everyone friendly with me. They thought it was admirable that I didn't judge and didn't change who I was for anyone elses benefit.

My heart really breaks for those of you who were bullied by classmates and for those of you who were picked on by your family. I'm really not sure which is worse, both are unacceptable and I'm sorry for the pain you had, but so proud of all of you for becoming the people you are today :-)
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I think your comment is a great example of why making comments about weight in general is so ridiculous. We don't know what has gone on in someone's life or why they are skinny/fat/whatever and it seems like a strange barometer of success.... I understand that it's one of the easiest things to notice and comment on.... anyway, I'm sorry for what you have gone through and-- random comment ahead, which you probably already know-- I suggest finding a tailor that you trust and getting the clothing you really want to wear altered to suit your body type. It makes a huge difference, and you won't have to dress like a 12 year old.

I'm really impressed with the amazing comments by everyone here.
 
#77
Yea I won't even go into the stuff my mom says to my sister and I about our weight and worth related to our weight. All I know is that my mother in law thinks so little of my mom after that dinner 4 years ago that she excuses herself from interaction any time she can. It amazes me that I still give my mother the time of day.
 
#78
grammyr said:
Unfortunately ALL my friends were like that...to the degree that I once described my dream ring and before I had a chance to have it made one of my friends showed up wearing it! It's not even anything like she likes, so I have to believe it was to one-up me!
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Wow...to get a ring that you don't even like just to one-up a friend...that's terrible. You know the joke is on her, right? :P

I hope you don't let what she did stop you from getting your dream ring!
 
#80
misshcouture said:
LOL Honestly, I think it is true. If we really thought our rings only filled the purpose of symbolizing our love, would we really care about the carat size & how much it was worth? I don't think so.
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I really do have to agree with you here for the most part...
The BF and I have been talking/looking at rings recently and I personally feel that the size of the ring matters because it shows that the man cares enough to save money/put a lot of thought/and to be proud of the claim that you're his wife. Financial reasons aside, if a man bought a small ring I would think that he isn't proud that you're his. In a perfect world the "Alpha Male" complex would take over and we all would be walking around in HUGE rocks! (One can wish, right? :D )

*"you're his"--I'm not meaning some weird ownership but more of a "Back off other men, she's mine!!!" hahaha
 
#82
seeing a big fat rock on someone doesn't elicit any feelings good or bad on my part. admittedly some women get jealous but i think there are a lot of women out there who do not feel jealousy or envy.

everyone has different spending power, what is there to be jealous about? i'd rather put my energy into making money so i CAN afford that big fat rock (and i still won't get a big fat rock)

now i do know what will piss me off, the unfairness of life blah blah and that is if i exercised to death and still can't be lithe and sinewy as that girl i know who eats a lot and doesn't exercise one minute in her entire life. now that will make me pretty unhappy
 
#83
hoppus37 said:
I really do have to agree with you here for the most part...
The BF and I have been talking/looking at rings recently and I personally feel that the size of the ring matters because it shows that the man cares enough to save money/put a lot of thought/and to be proud of the claim that you're his wife. Financial reasons aside, if a man bought a small ring I would think that he isn't proud that you're his. In a perfect world the "Alpha Male" complex would take over and we all would be walking around in HUGE rocks! (One can wish, right? :D )

*"you're his"--I'm not meaning some weird ownership but more of a "Back off other men, she's mine!!!" hahaha
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I don't agree, you can spend tens/hundreds of thousands and buy a small perfect stone or a larger one that has a a flaw and no one would know but people assume larger means better, it's do you want a green diamond or a tiffany classic? that green will be smaller but your intended would be out significantly more
 
#85
lara0112 said:
we don't have the pissing off situation going on but for some reason it is important to my mother and me (occassionally) to be the first to have something. I think in my case it is really the reaction I have seen from some ladies (friends, relatives) when they have something and you also get that (like a bag or watch). even in our teens my former BFF got really upset over this stuff.

in my mum's circle of friends she used to have everything and a couple of them would just buy everything exactly the same way. it got to the point that my mum stopped buying LV and now just doesn't want to end up buying the same stuff the others already have. oh the drama, sometimes...
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I can so relate.
One of my friend would never disclose where her shoes, bags come from, because she suspect everybody just want to copy her.
If somebody got smth even remotely looking like her stuff, she will runt forever how she can't trust anyone and people are not fair, took advantage of her etc.
 
#86
missD said:
I think deep down and subconsciously inside, we all want to show off a little - but not in a mean way. If this wasn't the case, there will be no reveals of any kind on PF!
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ITA! I have several friends who don't appreciate nice bags, shoes or jewelry. I'm very careful not to appear to flashy in front of them. I just don't want to detract from our friendship. :hugs: I treasure them so much more than my 'stuff'!!
 
#87
we had couple bullies in my class. The first guy end up pretty bad - at 16 he was in jail for gang rape and after release second time in jail, and was killed soon after. The second one went to the army and now he is basically a janitor. The first one was really bullied at home himself. He did to others what was done to him. The second one basically was a very spoiled kid, his mom would scream at anyone trying to tell her of her son inappropriate behavior. She did not believe it. he was perfect. good for him.
 
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