"Women want a ring that p*sses off other women"

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#91
hoppus37 said:
I really do have to agree with you here for the most part...
The BF and I have been talking/looking at rings recently and I personally feel that the size of the ring matters because it shows that the man cares enough to save money/put a lot of thought/and to be proud of the claim that you're his wife. Financial reasons aside, if a man bought a small ring I would think that he isn't proud that you're his. In a perfect world the "Alpha Male" complex would take over and we all would be walking around in HUGE rocks! (One can wish, right? :D )

*"you're his"--I'm not meaning some weird ownership but more of a "Back off other men, she's mine!!!" hahaha
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Yeah I totally agree dear :D I mean we get so excited to show our girl friends and family members the size and quality of our e-rings and it just shows like "Wow she has a awesome DH that really loves her"
 
#93
Intresting topic!

Back before I ever met DH, I worked with a woman. She had the largest rock ever. I mean the thing was huge! She was always talking about the ring, showing it off. We were all single at the time. She would talk about how many carats it was , contantly. She would always say other females were jealous of her because of the ring. How sad we couldn't find a guy, lol. We needed to meet a nice guy that would get us a big ring. We all knew of her DH. He was very abusive and controlling. He made her lose a lot of weight and get bigger implants. She was happy as the "ring" made up for all of it.
Turns out I met her DH in a club on night, he bought me drinks and food. Funny huh.
I then found out it was her slimey DH and I couldn't belive I gave him my number!
My point is yes there are women that want a huge ring to piss other women . Feel sorry for them, they may have married the biggest jerk ever and are very insecure and unhappy. The ring means nothing at all.
My circle of freinds I have now are pretty humble. They are happy to have great relationships with great guys and fathers of thier children, the ring is just a great bonus. None of them have ever been catty with them, ever .
I think as humans we want to be admired because of the nice things we have, it is in out nature. But most of us are happy for each other and realize a material good is just that and the marriage is what counts.
 
#95
The purse forum is a nice place partly because you can show off your stuff without 'showing off' if you know what I mean, and have others be happy for you.

And you can be inspired to 'work hard' to get the things that you admire on here. It is free of much of the angst in life, whether in past years or now.

Not meaning to change the subject again but I haven't been on in a couple of days and wanted to say I was by no means minimizing anyone's experiences--I was just saying that for your own sake, it is best to get over them. I had my own bad experiences (and I bet everyone, no matter what they look like or what size they are, can come up with a few). How about being physically attacked by a group of girls because "you think you're cute because boys like you", having your face scratched, your hair pulled out and being threatened with having your face shoved in a toilet bowl and your earrings pulled out of your ears so that they were torn and your ears bled? I pride myself, however, on having got over experiences like this and not having people live 'rent-free' in my head, which includes not wishing them bad in the present time and not being worried if I meet them (they can't do anything to me now, after all and my life has been just fine in spite of their ill-wishes. Why sink to their level, even mentally?)

ONe thing I like about tPF is that we don't have our pictures posted on here so our appearances don't generate any kind of input, positive or negative and it can be just about our jewelry and a fun place to be. Although I always try to remember that jewelry, whether engagement ring or other jewelry doesn't really mean anything about YOU and a bigger ring doesn't actually mean that "he loves you more' (though people will say that, probably not actually to be mean, just out of not thinking).
 
#96
sjunky13 said:
Intresting topic!

Back before I ever met DH, I worked with a woman. She had the largest rock ever. I mean the thing was huge! She was always talking about the ring, showing it off. We were all single at the time. She would talk about how many carats it was , contantly. She would always say other females were jealous of her because of the ring. How sad we couldn't find a guy, lol. We needed to meet a nice guy that would get us a big ring. We all knew of her DH. He was very abusive and controlling. He made her lose a lot of weight and get bigger implants. She was happy as the "ring" made up for all of it.
Turns out I met her DH in a club on night, he bought me drinks and food. Funny huh.
I then found out it was her slimey DH and I couldn't belive I gave him my number!
My point is yes there are women that want a huge ring to piss other women . Feel sorry for them, they may have married the biggest jerk ever and are very insecure and unhappy. The ring means nothing at all.
My circle of freinds I have now are pretty humble. They are happy to have great relationships with great guys and fathers of thier children, the ring is just a great bonus. None of them have ever been catty with them, ever .
I think as humans we want to be admired because of the nice things we have, it is in out nature. But most of us are happy for each other and realize a material good is just that and the marriage is what counts.
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you do not like her because she is showing off the ring.
why were you accepted her husband drink and food, also gave him your phone number? what was your purpose?
I would get very upset if my dh does that to my co-worker/friend, unless there was a reason that I could accept.
Just think about this, if it were your boyfriend or husband was doing that to her, how do you feel?
 
#97
I think what she was saying is that this man was hitting on her and she had no idea that it was this person's husband. They knew OF him, but never had met him. And when she found out that's who it was, it brought the whole experience full circle for her. That this woman is married to a slime but because she has this ring she can show off, it "makes up for the fact" that she's miserable and married to a total piece of crap.
 
#99
ame said:
I think what she was saying is that this man was hitting on her and she had no idea that it was this person's husband. They knew OF him, but never had met him. And when she found out that's who it was, it brought the whole experience full circle for her. That this woman is married to a slime but because she has this ring she can show off, it "makes up for the fact" that she's miserable and married to a total piece of crap.
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LOL. Thanks!
Yes I did NOT know it was her hubby and no I did not dislike her, but her flashing a ring in everyones face was tasteless and she has a crappy hubby anyway, so who cares what the ring looks like if he is a scum and a cheat!
 
#100
My mom has a pretty big ring, 8ct round brilliant sol, and anytime someone makes a fuss over it she always says, "Oh thank you...my husband didn't cheat on me, I actually just got this when my mother had her upgrade." So, I guess I've always thought that if a woman had just a massive diamond it meant that either her husband cheated on her and had to make up for it or that it was a family piece.
 
#101
918Lux said:
My mom has a pretty big ring, 8ct round brilliant sol, and anytime someone makes a fuss over it she always says, "Oh thank you...my husband didn't cheat on me, I actually just got this when my mother had her upgrade." So, I guess I've always thought that if a woman had just a massive diamond it meant that either her husband cheated on her and had to make up for it or that it was a family piece.
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Most of the time I told people mine is fake if they ask:p

three months ago, one of the new car dealer manager he told me that I will trade this new car for your fake diamond :p. He is a man and can tell I was wearing a real rock even I dressed very casual :p

You have a good dad. My DH does as well. He is never care what I buy as long as he can cover it but no junks he says. I am spoiled :graucho:
 
#102
sjunky13 said:
Intresting topic!

Back before I ever met DH, I worked with a woman. She had the largest rock ever. I mean the thing was huge! She was always talking about the ring, showing it off. We were all single at the time. She would talk about how many carats it was , contantly. She would always say other females were jealous of her because of the ring. How sad we couldn't find a guy, lol. We needed to meet a nice guy that would get us a big ring. We all knew of her DH. He was very abusive and controlling. He made her lose a lot of weight and get bigger implants. She was happy as the "ring" made up for all of it.
Turns out I met her DH in a club on night, he bought me drinks and food. Funny huh.
I then found out it was her slimey DH and I couldn't belive I gave him my number!
My point is yes there are women that want a huge ring to piss other women . Feel sorry for them, they may have married the biggest jerk ever and are very insecure and unhappy. The ring means nothing at all.
My circle of freinds I have now are pretty humble. They are happy to have great relationships with great guys and fathers of thier children, the ring is just a great bonus. None of them have ever been catty with them, ever .
I think as humans we want to be admired because of the nice things we have, it is in out nature. But most of us are happy for each other and realize a material good is just that and the marriage is what counts.
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Interesting! What did she do when she found out?
 
#103
arnott said:
Interesting! What did she do when she found out?
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I never told her I had met her hubby. But they are still married.
A friend told her that her man was always at so and so and out with different females , but they are still together.

As for my ring, or anything that I have. I would never want to piss anyone off at all. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable and one up anyone.
That's why I love reveals here, no one feels bad about them, we all admire and are truely happy and sharing joy with each other.
I see some fabulous jewelry here. Some of you guys have amazing things I probally will never have. But I get to see it here and I love looking at it. If I can have a small part of it, I am happy.

* going to pour over the Van Cleef thread, lol
 
#104
Swanky Mama Of Three said:
But to piss others off? Then we're also wearing nice bags, shoes, drive decent cars, etc… all to irritate others?
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Exactly. I don't think it's gender-specific. And I don't even think it's necessarily object-specific. Bags and jewelry don't bother me -I love seeing people's collections here! But some things - like one-of-a-kind houses and vacations - do make me horribly jealous, I don't know why. My coworker is going on a safari and I don't know if I'll ever have the time to go on one and I found myself feeling envious and being a bit catty about it, when there's no reason not to just be happy for her, KWIM? And you'd better believe, if I were friends with Kate Middleton, I'd be green with envy (not over the choice of husband, but the travel and wardrobe and access to historic locales, etc.). :shrugs:

That said, it might be a tendency for most of us, but I don't think it's one to be proud of and most of the lovely, mature women that I know have it firmly under control and aren't living their lives around one-upping other women.
Guys are just competitive over their jobs rather than their appearances, IMO.

HauteMama said:
I don't doubt that it happens, but it's a pretty sad way to live your life, IMO. Being envious or spiteful changes who you are, and makes you not appreciate the things you DO have. I am genuinely happy for both my friends and people here when they have things to reveal they are happy or proud about!

And it is utter nonsense to imagine that men don't indulge in the same feelings and behaviours. Women like to paint men as simple and assume that they do not gossip or become envious or stab one another in the back, but they do - just as much as women do. They just do it in different ways.

Again, the behaviour is not justified regardless of whether men do it, too, or not. But men are not the simpler, nicer, kinder people many women imagine them to be. Just like women, there are confident, happy and kind men and there are jealous, insecure and spiteful men. We all have the same emotions and feelings.
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:tup: ITA.
 
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