What would you say to this engagement ring?

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#46
AntiqueShopper, his ex did get a better ring because briana (her name lol) told me she remembers from a conversation a while back. he paid about 1000 for her wedding set.
he got married when he was 17 then went off to the marines.
hes is now 35. briana is 22.

i called target customer service and they said it can only be replaced or damaged but no refund.
the question is if he will spring for another ring.
 
#47
Jeneen said:
I found a TON of stuff online in the price range of the ring you showed... there's a lot of stuff out there if you have an open mind and a limited budget. You can always save together and get a diamond after a few years of marriage. I even found some three stone diamond rings with better quality diamonds. Maybe he just didn't know where to look? All of these are from overstock - but there are other venues for pretty rings out there of course.
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You have great taste! I can never find so many nice affordable rings on OS when shopping for my mom. :nuts:
 
#49
Ok. . .so if I never met this guy I would give him a piece of my mind. He is 35 years old, and he should be able to get her a better ring considering he spent $1000 when he was 17. I thought he was 20-23 when I first read this post.

I know times are bad, but seriously how many times do you get engaged. Put a ring on lay-a-way. Buy a used piece of jewelry. There are so many options out there, and since he is old enough to know this, then this is what he should have done.

Furthermore, he should have known that his ring box was misleading. He is 35, and he has done this before. Don't mind me girls, but I am a bit annoyed with him. I do not know him or your friend, but I know she deserves a better ring.

I know many will feel that the ring is not important, which it is not the most important thing, but if you feel embarrashed to show your ring to your family and friends, then it becomes an issue. My mother has fingers that are around a size 8-8.5 (strange for such a small woman). When she got engaged, my father bought her a ring that was less that 1/3 a carat. The stone was also set poorly, so the ring looked tiny on her finger. She was very happy to get married, but she was embarrashed to show her ring. Others would make comments about the stone. Over the years she had upgraded, but one should still feel excitement about sharing her ring. Knowing that this person had purchased a ring in the past makes me feel he should know all of this.

Sorry for the rant, but I really do feel for your friend.
 
#50
good rant! i feel bad for her too. she wont tell him "i dont want it" shes shy with her mouth around him.
i agree with your statement above. she should be proud of her ring.
id rather skip on a wedding present and buy her a ring for $400.
and who knows what the wedding band will be like. :(
 
#51
You go AntiqueShopper!

Jeneen, I was also super impressed with your finds.

Miss Chrisi, do you think he'll be a good husband, but this ring thing is just his "growth area"? I hate to say it, but I'm sensing there is more to this.
 
#52
shame on those girls... why come for the party then?

DH comes from a culture where jewellery for the bride plays a big role and the groom is contracted in the wedding contract signed how much he has to spend :rolleyes: most of which is due to other people talking... OMG as if that really matters. maybe he doesn't have the cash right now but he will have in the future.

for your friend - I would get a simple white gold band with one small diamond inserted, i am sure there should be a few reasonably priced ones out there. wish I could post a link but don't live in the US to make a suggestion.
 
#53
howardu09 said:
You have great taste! I can never find so many nice affordable rings on OS when shopping for my mom. :nuts:
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lanasyogamama said:
You go AntiqueShopper!

Jeneen, I was also super impressed with your finds.

Miss Chrisi, do you think he'll be a good husband, but this ring thing is just his "growth area"? I hate to say it, but I'm sensing there is more to this.
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Thanks :blushing:

I'm always amazed at what all of my tpfers come up with - we are such a resourceful crowd!
 
#54
lanasyogamama said:
You go AntiqueShopper!

Miss Chrisi, do you think he'll be a good husband, but this ring thing is just his "growth area"? I hate to say it, but I'm sensing there is more to this.
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Agreed. He should know better all around. I'm concerned that he may be taking advantage of her young age and inexperience here. There are red flags.
 
#56
Uh-oh. Is she only shy like this around him? This is concerning.

Miss Chrisi said:
good rant! i feel bad for her too. she wont tell him "i dont want it" shes shy with her mouth around him.
 i agree with your statement above. she should be proud of her ring.
id rather skip on a wedding present and buy her a ring for $400.
and who knows what the wedding band will be like. :(
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#57
Yeesh. It's like he didn't give any thought to the ring at all! I feel like he might be taking advantage of your friend because she's younger than him. :/ An engagement ring should be special and if she's not happy with it, she should definitely tell him that she appreciates the effort, but it wouldn't be something she would wear in the long run.

I feel that if he is willing to give the ring a second shot, maybe give her something like this: http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Ite...1424819-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+heart+ring&search=1

for now, and promise to upgrade when he has the money... if he doesn't have the money right now.
 
#59
Can't fault the fiance if he can only afford so much. Are they a young couple? There is always time for an upgrade. *Oh... I just read the age 35 part. Okay, that's not trying really hard at all and from Target? I thought I was reading about a teenage couple initially...

Well, if this is negotiable, she could always have it returned and go look for a sturdy CZ 14K ring. I have an "upgrade in size" e-ring, and it is a cubic zirconia on a palladium cathedral setting ring. It is gorgeous. I've been married 18 years and I don't mind wearing a durable 14K ring with a synthetic stone. Swarovski Signity, Winfield's, there are some nice ones out there.

Here's an 14K cz example, about $100 more than the Target ring:
http://www.freecz.com/images/store/WST140309H.jpg

It's up to your girl friend, there are really beautiful 14K CZ options available. The metal will hold up well and who cares about the stone? One can always upgrade when they have the finances for a diamond.
 
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#60
:shrugs: I'm not a big jewelry girl most of the time. I wouldn't even have recognized the jeweler's name on the box, and my knowledge of diamonds would fit on a pin head. I probably wouldn't be upset, either. So I can see where your friend wouldn't make a big deal out of it.

That said, two things seem upsetting: 1. as noted above, if she's shy only around him, that's a bad sign. She should be able to more or less be herself around a man she's promising to spend her life with. And 2., I would go up in flames if my SO got his ex a better ring than he got me. Petty, yes. But :mad:. What's your read? Do you think she mostly wants to get married and he's the first to ask? Is it a good relationship aside from the ring issue?
 
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