What would you say to this engagement ring?

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#31
Miss Chrisi said:
2manybags & DiorDeVille, i agree. the diamonds arent great but no one should of made harsh comments. and trust me, they were harsh! for example, "let me get my glasses i cant find the diamond"
and "hold on, theres some dust on your ring, oh wait its the diamond." i kid you not. luckily not all of these women are part of the bridal party. we had bridesmaids there and other friends and friends of the bridesmaids. even if they didnt know her well they should of held their tongue. we should of just kept it friends but my bestie is loud and full of life and just wanted people around her.

jeneen, i think she might like the 3rd one with the black diamonds.
she was never a ordinary girl. i think she would like something unique and different. which makes me believe she doesnt need a diamond. (or a center diamond at least)

and i think he might have a small clue because of the fake look she had when she saw it. it could of been spotted a mile away. but he thinks jewelry should of never been invented lol.
guys right? lol
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I mean, it's not really all guys that feel that way - lots of guys painstakingly pick out jewelry for their SOs on limited budgets hoping it will be well received - it sounds like he was kind of lazy, went to the nearest Target, picked out the first ring he saw, and then tried to pretend it was designer... that shows limited thought to her feelings, and sneakiness. I have a male friend who is extremely cheap and detests buying presents, but he loves his fiancee so much, and understands the gravity of an engagement ring, he traveled to every mom and pop jewelry store looking for a beautiful ring in his budget.


and WOW those comments, right in front of her???? :tdown::wtf::shocked::weird::wacko:

I have one friend who's diamond is a chip and grey, not very pretty, but I would NEVER breathe a word about that - her setting and wedding band are lovely though, and she LOVES it, so that's what matters.
 
#32
Miss Chrisi said:
yea it wasnt a smart thing to do. the box said Monique Pean.
she wasnt mad though.
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Prob just a clueless guy. Sounds like her priorities re: guy over ring are in order.

I would absolutely cut ties with anyone who was that catty over an engagement ring. And at a girl's engagement party, no less?!?!?!?! Shocking. Beyond unacceptable, IMO, and one of the few things that merits a total freeze-out. She can deal with the ring later and in private like many other women have done - maybe a first anniversary gift could be a nice upgrade?
 
#35
well he didnt even ask me for advice. and hes not really that tight on cash. im not saying for him to drop a grand but maybe $500? i could of even chipped in a couple hundred.
the point is he didnt and he just got something with the cash in his pocket. excuse me, the credit on his target card.
maybe since this is his second marriage its different the second time around?
 
#36
Jeneen said:
I mean, it's not really all guys that feel that way - lots of guys painstakingly pick out jewelry for their SOs on limited budgets hoping it will be well received - it sounds like he was kind of lazy, went to the nearest Target, picked out the first ring he saw, and then tried to pretend it was designer... that shows limited thought to her feelings, and sneakiness. I have a male friend who is extremely cheap and detests buying presents, but he loves his fiancee so much, and understands the gravity of an engagement ring, he traveled to every mom and pop jewelry store looking for a beautiful ring in his budget.
I totally agree with this. My fiance does not understand jewelry, but he tries his best to get me well made pieces. He is also learning about jewelry so that he can be a more informed consumer.
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#37
okay, at first I was thinking maybe he was very young and didn't know any better... but I think he should know better since he was married before, but maybe he is bitter towards his ex-wife and thinks most women are jewelry grubbing gold-diggers?

Whatever the case, I hope your friend can move forward from this, have some "discussions" with him, and they can figure out future gift giving on their terms as a couple, no matter what I think or any of your friends think. To each their own, and I am putting my judgment away now. ;)
 
#38
Reminds me of an ex, he wanted to propose to me, but he was a cheap guy - he would ask me for gas money if he took me out for a drive. He found the cheesiest cheap diamond ring possible, I declined the proposal (not because of the ring, he had many flaws as a person, and I was in love with another man - my now dh-) but he actually told me to keep the ring. I never wore it and I finally gave it to a good friend of mine as a goodbye gift when she went away to work overseas.

Anyways, can she take the ring back to Target and get a refund and buy something she really likes? It sounds like it is possible and her DF will not get upset about it, he seems to be clueless to this kind of thing. You and some friends & relatives can chip in for a better ring so she feels better!

You are good friend btw! xoxo
 
#40
That's too bad your friend had to go through that at her party.

I can't say I think much of a guy that would put a Target ring into a designer box. That's shady...

However, if he's the one for your friend, maybe you can suggest the layaway route? I am a big fan of the layaway for jewelry that is expensive. For instance, my favorite local jeweler offers 10 month layaway with 10% down. If he went in with your fiance, they could find something in the 1000 range and put 100 down. That way, she gets a better diamond and it isn't such a hardship to come up with the $$ all at once.
 
#42
^ two of my choices! Yes I like them both just not as a set - I like the sapphire better, but she doesn't like blue... show them all to her and see what SHE thinks, then let us know :)
 
#43
Miss Chrisi said:
what about these two like a wedding set? shes not fond of blue...but dont they look good? the sapphire ones.


http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Wat...5/product.html

http://www.ross-simons.com/products/209798.html
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IMHO (and it was stated by other posts) a pearl would not make a good e-ring. They are very delicate, and they are not always great for everyday wear.

I know this is more, but I would recommend this- http://www.ross-simons.com/products/575173.html

Ruby- http://www.ross-simons.com/products/552566.html

Emerald- http://www.beladora2.com/viewitem.asp?idProduct=1124

Pink Tormaline- http://www.beladora2.com/viewitem.asp?idProduct=394

Diamond- http://www.beladora2.com/viewitem.asp?idProduct=239
 
#44
My fiance knows how picky I am about jewelry, so much so that he was petrified at the thought of buying me something. He said he knew that rings should be sparkley and go on your finger, that's it. He told me he knew if he got me a ring I didn't like I would take it and wear it and never say a word to him about not liking it, but he knew I would hate it everyday and he didn't want that for me. Instead, he told me what the budget was and we both went ring shopping. It took us quite a long time to find something we both were happy with but eventually we did it and I love this ring to pieces.

Every woman should have a ring she at least likes and I believe one can be found at almost any price point.

Does she like vintage/estate jewelery? There's a ring on Ross Simons that has a lot more personality than the current one does. The diamond quality isn't spectacular but the vintage diamonds are usually warmer anyway. If she hates yellow gold though it might not work.

http://www.ross-simons.com/products/578779.html

If you think she'd like black diamonds then she could get a full carat size for a bit more than he paid for her current one:

http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=4343520&kpc=1


I guess we need to find out what the situation is. Does he have a Target credit card and that's why he bought it there? Or can he return the ring to Target and use that money toward a ring from someplace else? If they put in a lot of time and effort, looking at various pawn shops could reap some nice rewards when it comes to an engagement ring.


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Or your friend could try a white topaz ring. It's a genuine gemstone so it isn't a cz or anything like that.

For example:

http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Wa...d=123620&fp=F&ci_src=14110944&ci_sku=12046783

Or there's this one at JC Penny's. It's set in sterling silver but it's still a beautiful ring!

http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx...enney White Topaz Ring Sterling Silver White

I dare your friends' rude, horrid, awful "friends" to say they need their glasses to find this one, it's over 10 carats for goodness' sakes!

http://www.jtv.com/Indian-White-Top...d-10k-Yellow-Gold-Ring/334690,default,pd.html

And I really love this one:

http://www.jtv.com/White-Topaz-Rect...-10kt-Yellow-Gold-Ring/334689,default,pd.html

They could always get something like this now, with the thought of upgrading at a later date when they can save and plan for it. :smile1:
 
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