What would you say to this engagement ring?

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#76
theres not much i can do risingsun, just look out for her i guess. im sure they will be happy, he treats her well. and im sure if he had thousands for a ring he would spend it.

Thank you Stephie2800 :)
 
#77
I find this entire thread a bit odd.

I might be inclined to help a family member.....a sibling perhaps, but to take on feeling responsible for a guy who can't afford a decent ring?

something doesn't quite add up here in this story.
 
#78
Contessa, i love my best friend with all my heart, the only difference between her and a sister is blood.
im actually closer to her than both of my sisters.
ive known her since i was 6 years old and we have grown up together. my home is hers and her home is mine. and being her maid of honor i wanted to see that everything following up to her wedding made her happy.
a couple hundred bucks isnt the end of the world and she has given me gifts twice the value over the years.
i didnt feel responsible for him but i knew she wasnt happy with the quality of the ring. and i know she takes everyones opinions to heart so nasty comments made it worse.
i didnt realize what a tight financial postition hes in though, its not something many advertise.
and to be fair, sometimes we cant afford the things we want if we have other priorities. to many, a decent ring would be a piece of wire folded in the shape of a circle if it came from someone they loved.
when you say that you might be inclined to help a family member or a sibling, i agree. and thats what briana is to me.
 
#79
oh and i forgot to mention we got to put the money from the old ring to this one after some complaining to customer service..had to be done lol.
he got a link sent to him to print out a return slip and he just dropped it off at the local store :)
 
#80
Miss Chrisi said:
theres not much i can do risingsun, just look out for her i guess. im sure they will be happy, he treats her well. and im sure if he had thousands for a ring he would spend it.

Thank you Stephie2800 :)
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I don't mean to sound harsh about it, but she is quite young and I can't help but wonder what a man this age and in such difficult circumstances is doing proposing to her. Something seems off about it, but that is only my opinion. You are being her friend. Have you ever wondered why the two of them are together?
 
#83
risingsun, dont worry about it :)
thank you for your concern, i use to worry enough for both of us though :) best thing to do is wish for the best :D

i am just happy she likes the ring.

most of my jewelry is SS. the only thing i hate are those little scratch marks the surface gets all the time. after a while you can totally tell whats white gold and whats sterling. :/
 
#85
lily25 said:
I would say yes to my DH even with a ring from a coca cola can.

If you don't like the particular ring you can say so (in a nice way ;)) and try to find a ring you like within his budget. Why settle for bad diamonds and low carat gold when you can get another gem stone (birthstone is a good idea) and /or metal? If his budget is extremely low you can always wear a nice Swarovski ring, I really like the Dazzle ring as engagement ring. http://www.swarovski.com/Web_US/en/953107/product/Dazzle_Ring_.html?CatalogCategoryName=0112


Don't waste your money on bad quality.
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ITA with you! I'm very sentimental and I (personally) would never trade anything my DH had given me at the time of our engagement, even if it had been a bead on a string. It's not the ring you are saying yes to, but rather the man giving it. I think other gemstones and CZ rings are excellent options if budget is a problem! So I guess to answer your question, I'd say yes to the ring depending on the man handing it to me! :p


Edit: Sorry...I hadn't read the whole thread!
 
#86
Yeah, have to agree with some of the other ladies on this one.

He buys a cheap and kinda nasty ring that doesn't work after round one and then suddenly afterwards there is the thought to go designer?! Umm.... being an engagement and all, how come the thought of designer didn't come before the initial piece of tin he bought?

Furthermore, you as friend pitches in? Don't get me wrong it is nice that as a friend you would do that but its not up to you. I would help out with a gas bill or picking up the lunch tab but going in for the engagement ring - NO. That's his job. Its not a necklace for a birthday, its the engagement. Its a little (actually alot) different!!!

At the risk of sounding like a scrooge - its not off to a good start.............
 
#87
zh1va said:
Yeah, have to agree with some of the other ladies on this one.

He buys a cheap and kinda nasty ring that doesn't work after round one and then suddenly afterwards there is the thought to go designer?! Umm.... being an engagement and all, how come the thought of designer didn't come before the initial piece of tin he bought?

Furthermore, you as friend pitches in? Don't get me wrong it is nice that as a friend you would do that but its not up to you. I would help out with a gas bill or picking up the lunch tab but going in for the engagement ring - NO. That's his job. Its not a necklace for a birthday, its the engagement. Its a little (actually alot) different!!!

At the risk of sounding like a scrooge - its not off to a good start.............
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Great post.

See......I look at it more in the sense of a man wanting to retain his pride as a man......& so I find it odd that he would accept a hand-out on one of the most important and significant experiences in his life.

I can justify donating a kidney.......but $$$ to help him purchase a better ring? No way.

I'm actually shocked and surprised that he accepted your money. Think he'll do the same for his Kids' College fund? Or when he wants to buy a house?

Apologies for the sarcasm, but unless there's more to the story you're not sharing, it's still 'odd' to me. Do you have a history with this man?
 
#88
from the time ive known him he just doesnt seem to get too excited or make things like this a big deal. even though an engagement should be, i guess its not like that with everyone. maybe its different with guys. maybe some of them dont put in so much effort in preparation and all that.
im sure he cares, i dont think he would of felt like he needed to purchase another ring if he didnt care.

Ive known him for 3 years this coming october.
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#89
First, let me say that it's beyond nice of you to chip in for a new ring for your friend. :smile1:

I still don't quite "get" the situation though. Not sure why it matters to me except that I'm stubborn and like to understand things. *LOL*

I can completely understand someone not having a lot of money for a ring, especially in this economy. That being said though, why couldn't he save up for a long time in order to afford a better one? I mean, if he truly doesn't care or understand about the ring then that's fine, but once he's been told that it does matter to her, he should take the other back then save for something nicer, instead of accepting money from you for it..Is your friend pushing him for engagement and marriage and being impatient during the process or was the engagement his idea?

Also, if he doesn't even have the money for a ring, why on earth is your friend going wild in planning an extravagant wedding that he is also supposed to pay for? Does she not know about his financial situation and that's why she wants a designer ring and a big wedding with favors, etc.?

It just doesn't add up to me. If they have really tight finances then I understand the ring thing but then they should have a very paired down wedding.

Perhaps as her maid of honor you should talk to her about being realistic in her expectations for this wedding, because going into debt or causing a lot of financial stress over it is not a good way to start a marriage.
 
#90
it was her idea of being "married" and she wanted to at some point but the engagement wasnt planned, it was all him from what i know.
i cant speak for them all i know is what they tell me :)
 
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