just a thought but if you set a lower limit how do you regulate what people spend, what happen's if they over or under limit if nothing then there's not much point having a limit kwim? I'm not being ackward just bringing up possible issues
I dont really agree with the whole min/max thing as its just too stringent.
Setting it too narrow will stifle the process whilst setting too wide will defeat the object of setting one in the first place.
RAOK should not be about the difference in gifts, it is about putting a little joy into someones elses day and just seeing how thoughtful some of the gifts are and not the price of them is great.
RAOK is not a competition and who knows how much each person can afford anyway, a min of $20 might be out of range for some people and especially once postage has been added.
Whilst I understand fully the thought process on this we are all different people with different incomes,it stands to reason that gifts will vary.
I am not an RAOK buddy, but the wife is.
Still, here is my thoughts on a way to deal with price min/max. It would require a little more work, but it might be worth while.
Have a few ranges of gift costs, and ask people to mark which range they will participate in. Then match them up with someone that is going to be buying gifts in the same range. That way people are getting something close to what they are giving. You would not really need to worry about someone that spends a fair amount of money on items getting a couple of dollars worth of trinkets.
I understand it is the thought that counts, but it would be a bit more fair if done this way IMHO.
Yea...the dollar amount thing is such a dilemma....I know there are issues with it...but I think, like Lorna said, I'm not going to win over everyone with this.
I know other RAOKs on here have implemented price ranges...not sure how successful it was.
Everyone here comes from such diverse backgrounds....
Maybe the question to ask for everyone signing up:
Do you want a price limit? If so then you'll be matched up with someone else who wanted a price limit. That way I'm the only one who knows it (so no one will know)....and then that person isn't feeling like their feelings are hurt. For those who don't care...I'll match them with someone else who doesn't care. Or no???
I am, however, going to implement a price range on the one-time Secret Santa.
OK...sorry for so many posts....just finished through reading this whole thread and I have a lot of jumbled thoughts so bear with me....
First, I think everyone knows I love RAOK (that's why I started the RAOK/Sunshine committee )....and it really isn't about the money....it is about the thought. I do love giving for the sake of giving and brightening people's days (and I know most of us feel that way).
I have been on the recieving end of some amazing gifts and some small tinkerbelle trinkets I have loved....the point is the person put a lot of thought into the gifts, that's what feels good. I can absolutley open a 1.50 note pad, with a note from someone and have it melt my heart and raise my spirits. On the other hand, I think it is painfully obvious when someone at the end of a deadline throws a box of tea in a mailing box, with no packaging, a slap card and sends it off....it's not the tea, that's the problem, it's the lack of thought and effort, kwim? Am I making any sense? And it hurts when I see others recieving such things...the finally straw for me was the $1 tote, I saw a friend recieve....that's why I sat the last round out....
So Twiggers, I really feel for you....running an exchange is much harder than a true RAOK...with a true RAOK, you know where you stand...you are sending for the joy of sending and not expecting anything in return. With an exchange there does need to be some equality of effort for a happy exchange, JMHO...but as others have said, rightly so, effort doesn't always equal money...but it is a start, a show of commitment at least, kwim?
I really like DH's idea....pairing like minded people together seems like a good solution....
or at the very least a minimum, to show commitment...I have to admit I like to splurge sometimes, so I personally don't like limits, but can see how that might be helpful.
Thanks for 'listening' to my ramble.
Mel: Your Secret Santa price range seems pretty fair. BTW my family does the exact same thing....and we set price limits every single year because of the diversity in income!