To borrow or not to borrow...to lend or not to lend...

Do you borrow? Do you lend?

  • No, never

  • Yes, always

  • Depends on the bag

  • Depends on the person

  • Depends on the bag AND the person

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#181
A good rule of thumb is to never loan out something that you wouldn't want lost, damaged, or never returned...be it purses, clothes, cars, money, etc.

If you do loan out something, make sure you are able to not hold a grudge against the person you loaned it to (if something happens to it).

If you can do this, then I say "Loan away!"
 
#182
Well, it's depends on situation and who is asking. But lending/borrowing expensive things are not good for any relationship.
You can always tell them to check out "Bag Borrow or Steal (Avelle)".
 
#183
No way!! I may only have 4 Coach bags at this time..But I saved and worked hard to get them..I don't have the funds to replace them if anything should happen.I'am a giving person, but I'm selfish with my bags and accessorie's!! I would do the same, maybe say I know where we could get you a new bag.But I just can't take the chance of something happening to 1 of mine.

Sorry if it seems harsh.I just take pride in keeping my bags in good shape and presentable.:smile1: Just don't feel bad, they are you're bags!!
 
#184
No is the short answer. But, that's just our side of the story. It doesn't stop others from asking us to borrow our bags. I mean, if it's a friend (doesn't even have to be a really good one...because my really good friends know how much I spend on bags and they actually have the courtesy to never ask to borrow mine, even when I offer to let them use it for special occasions...they always pick the ones that are less expensive and usually in darker colors to borrow), I would say something along the lines of "well, I don't mind letting you borrow it if you promise to take good care of it, because it cost me $3000 and it's sold out completely in store and it would cost quite a few hundred dollars to get it refurbished/repaired if something happened to it, and I would hate for you to be on the hook for that." I know to some it may sound tacky, but it's better to get over the ugly facts up front then having to be stuck with 'how should get let her know she spill red wine on my $1500 white lambskin clutch'? If it's an acquaintance, I would just say something like "Thank you for the compliment, but I'm really attached to my bags and I don't even let my mother borrow them(not exactly true of course, but sometimes a white lie is better than shutting the door in someone's face)".
 
#185
gladiola1167 said:
I agree with this.. None of my friends value their bags the same way I do mine, so absolutely not! I imagine the bag I lent out being kicked under a table, tossed on the floor, etc. And my biggest concern would be if something happening to the bag, would that person not being prepared to replace a costly item? Probably not.
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This is most of my friends as well. I have one friend I do sometimes share things with but it's always when we're together that day and he's a guy so it's usually like sunglasses, not bags. He has a lot of designer items too so I know he won't be reckless with mine. One of my best friends however is SO abusive with her bags it blows my mind. They're not designer but regardless, she's so rough with them! LOADS them up, and I mean loads to the brim and these are big bags. Just full of crap that doesn't fit. Wallet, bathing suits, various shoes/dance shoes, boxing gloves (yes, boxing gloves), it's so bad that more often than not she can't find her house keys and has to call her sister to let us in. She's broken straps clean off a bunch of times too bc they're so overloaded all the time, you can't even lift them with one hand, seriously. I always think of her while I delicately handle my bags and gently place things in them lol. She told me she wanted a Speedy and I can't help but think of the poor bag if she gets it! It's going to throw up from being loaded and stretched! lol
 
#190
Of course not. I'll not lend my bag or borrow bag from my good friends. So why should I lend it to my co-worker. I only exchange bags with my sisters or mom. It's gonna be "NO" when other people ask. At first, they should ask at all......
 
#191
I would not lend my bags to anyone other than my sister. Sometimes accidents does happen and you wouldn't want that to ruin your relationship with your coworkers. I'd just say sorry and help her look for something that's nice and she can afford.
 
#192
Nope I wouldn't loan it to her. I find it odd that she asked. I would loan a bag to my best friend but she has designer bags of her own. I wouldn't loan a designer bag to my roomie. We have been friends for over 10 years but she doesn't value her own designer bags. Plus she has a tendency to leave her bag alone in public just waiting for anyone to pick up.
 
#193
I once let a co worker borrow an expensive pashmina shawl, and after she used it, it came back with the smell of smoke and crumpled. That's the end of lending anything to co workers. And nobody is allowed to use my purses other than myself, I just think the other people won't use them as careful as I do since its not theirs and they care less.
 
#194
I'm pretty relaxed about lending my bags out to my close girlfriends, my mom and my sister- they all know how special they are to me and I haven't had an issue yet. Even my friends who don't 'get' my bag psychosis treat my purses with respect when they're borrowing and I would be shocked and totally appalled if they didn't. Bags are made to be carried and I don't baby my bags, but there is a different standard of care exercised with an item that you saved up for for three months than one you bought on impulse; I make sure to clearly explain how I expect my bag to be treated if I think the person I'm lending to isn't sure.

There are a few bags in my arsenal that I won't lend out- my HG Bal Tomato RH City, my super old and frail Rebecca Minkoff Black Basketweave MAB and a few others- but most of them I'm happy to loan out to loved ones and family members. I'm all about spreading the love, though I will admit that if I'd had the unpleasant and unfortunate lending experiences that are described in this thread, I'd definitely guard my bags a little more zealously. All that being said, unless the co-worker was also a REALLY good friend, I wouldn't loan out a designer bag. You just don't know what could happen and I think any harm coming to your bag would make for a situation far more awkward than some mildly (and unwarranted) hurt feelings on the part of your co-worker.
 
#195
And I totally agree with the other ladies who said it's inappropriate that she even asked. Really weird and overly familiar, if you're not super good friends with her.
 
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