To borrow or not to borrow...to lend or not to lend...
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So what if you have a number of designer bags -I have lots too but its still NO -let her spend her own cash on one, I think unless they have saved to buy it they won't respect it and you will fall out over it anyway she put you in a bad position.
Nope Lips, you're not alone.
I too am quite comfortable lending my bags out. I recently loaned my LV mono pochette to a colleague/friend that was going to a big party in Florida and I loaned my tomato Bal Day for a week or so to a girlfriend who was feeling low. But then again, I'm the gal that left my Hermes Bolide on the floor of Nordstrom SF while I went to look in the mirror with a coat I had tried on (much to the horror of one of my friends). I think a) I'm too trusting (which is not a bad thing); and b) I view my things as simply things. Sure, they're nice and some are expensive, but it's still just a thing and things come and go.
I agree with this.. None of my friends value their bags the same way I do mine, so absolutely not! I imagine the bag I lent out being kicked under a table, tossed on the floor, etc. And my biggest concern would be if something happening to the bag, would that person not being prepared to replace a costly item? Probably not.The only person I would trust with one of my bags is my mother (she's seen me baby my bags enough times; she knows they have to have their own chair, not go on the floor, etc) and she doesn't have the same taste in bags as me so that's a moot point anyway.
If I had friends that valued handbags the same way as I do, I'd consider it. None of my friends do, though, so again, no. As for co-workers, absolutely no way! Then again, my co-workers are all male, so I'd be a bit worried if one of them came up asking to borrow one of my bags...
And on a side not to what another person had mentioned in the other post about a co-worker wanting to borrow her car. This same thing happened to me as well. My husband and I had just purchased a new car, we had not even made the first car payment yet. My MIL asked if "her" relatives coming in from out of state could borrow MY car for 4-5 days, because it is roomier than hers. I was so taken back I didn't even know what to say. I eventually said no that I wasn't comfortable letting complete strangers borrow my car for almost a week. But still, the nerve!
The only person I would trust with one of my bags is my mother (she's seen me baby my bags enough times; she knows they have to have their own chair, not go on the floor, etc) and she doesn't have the same taste in bags as me so that's a moot point anyway.
If I had friends that valued handbags the same way as I do, I'd consider it. None of my friends do, though, so again, no. As for co-workers, absolutely no way! Then again, my co-workers are all male, so I'd be a bit worried if one of them came up asking to borrow one of my bags...
LOL. I'm another that doesn't like to loan my things out. I am very, very careful with all my possessions because I've worked to earn them and don't want to risk it being damaged/lost/etc by someone else. I would not want a friendship to be ruined by me loaning out a bag, then it getting damaged and the loanee not wanting to replace it. I respect and appreciate everything I have, and I can't be sure someone else would respect my stuff as much as I do.
I have also had friends/acquaintances at car shows ask me if they could drive our car down the road before, and I kinda feel like it's rude for someone to even ask. That question has always been met with a resounding "no" as well. I don't ever let anyone borrow our cars, but I'm definitely not letting someone borrow a heavily modified car that can be very dangerous if you've never handled that sort of power before.
My sister, yes. A co-worker, no. My bags are an investment in my own happiness, and I would never let someone borrow them. If something were to happen to it while its out of my hands, it could cause personal problems with the co-worker, and you could be out whatever you paid for the one she borrows. I don't blame you for not going for it.
I was thinking this too, pandorabox. A lot of people don't know how valuable some bags can be (or how some of us are so protective over them!) so she may have considered it a small request & not meant to be forward.
OP, I don't think your answer was rude
Exactly. I mean I am new to this all still and before I had NO idea how much these designer bags cost.
I remember the first time I saw a flute in person, I asked the gentleman to hold it. He was very hesitant and said no. I could not understand why, until he then saw my confused look and told me this was a 3000.00 piece. WHOA!!! Never mind I said, I was afraid to touch it at that point.. LOL. I was innocent to it all.. kwim?
Sadly we were doing our research in legal ethics...
She was my best friend and I expected to get my book back and she knew it took me a long time to hunt down a copy because there were very few existing copies and the publishing house no longer exists. It was a very old text (I collect rare and limited edition books). I had a feeling she kept my item to sell because her father partially cut off her funding when he discovered she was abusing both of his credit cards. It wasn't so much the worth of any item, so much as the dishonesty involved.
My brother lend out his expensive digital camera to a co-worker and it came back damaged and his co-worker didn't care to replace it or to give money for repair. Another time, my brother lend is video ipod to another co-worker and it came back damaged and not working at all. It's not even that these people wouldn't know how much these things cost, it's just simply they don't care about other people's property because it's not their own.
I also just think it's rude to ask someone to borrow items like handbags, clothes, cars, expensive jewelery, etc. Maybe it's just because I don't go around asking my co-workers to borrow those personal items from them.
Wow definitely not! And I wouldn't feel guilty about it either, I had a friend that left her LV on a table next to a tea light candle and by the end of the night a small part of the leather shrunk and the bag was ruined! No one will take of your bag as good as you will. I can't believe she even asked...
That is SO bizarre to me!!!! I just can't fathom going up to someone and asking if I could borrow their brand new car/bag/whatever. That's a lot of gall right there.
