Teenagers and younger girls with designer handbags

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#91
I dont mind the handbags.... If you have it flaunt it. I do worry younger generations in general i feel they are a bit more materialistic than when we were teens. I see more teens wanting easy access to luxury just to fit in or copy images they see on tv. Sorry if write something wrong english is my second language.
 
#92
mockinglee said:
Not my money, not my business. I don't know why people make such a big deal out of what other people, often strangers, possess. Maybe she was just handed a designer purse, maybe she paid for it herself, maybe she earned it by making her parents proud. What difference does it make to someone else?

When I was a teen, my mom would always buy designer bags for me and would try to make me carry them, even though I had absolutely zero interest in anything designer. I was a total thrift store rat. SHE liked to buy me these things because SHE liked them and wanted me to like them, too. After I pulled a 180 and started liking designer bags, we still had completely different tastes in brands, but I still carry the bags she bought me when I see her, for her sake.

Also, as someone who looks way younger than her age (seriously, I'm 34 and I got carded buying a lottery ticket the other day), why is someone's apparent age so important in determining "worthiness" of owning designer goods? Would someone see me walking through the mall and think "ugh, another kid with a designer bag who doesn't appreciate what she has," when instead I paid for it with my own hard earned money (and am not "a kid", but rather HAS a kid)?

Oh, nooooooooooooo way. I work in graphic design and there is absolutely no comparison. My Macbook is completely for function, not show. I've used both windows PC and Mac, and each has its functions. I am sure there are people who own Macbooks just to be trendy, but there are those of use who need them for a purpose. I get what you are saying about a generic purse vs. a designer bag, but PC vs. Macbook is the wrong analogy to use.
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I have to agree about the MacBook being for function. We are entirely a Mac / apple household. We buy and use Apple because they meet our needs like no other. We have been an Apple household for over 8 years. Both my husband and I work in the computer tech field. He was a graphic designer for years and is now director of mobile apps at one of the largest publishing firms globally. I hold my degree in computer science. Hands down there is no comparison between Mac and PC. Macs are totally not for show.
 
#94
katlun said:
^ I can answer the textbook question, most schools give you a copy for home and one for school or they have an online version of the textbook, so really you never have to bring the book home or have an excuse of why you couldn't do you homework

As for young girls or teenagers with expensive purse - no comment, just don't look in my daughters closet
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Man, so that's it about the textbooks; the younger kids sure have it nice! :p Now that you mention it, I just remembered my mom telling me about our HS's new addition of the extra set of textbooks, when I was already in college. Would have been so nice if the school administrators adopted that policy earlier; my shoulders were this close to getting long-term problems! Or wait, I'm sure they would already be busted by now, if my mom didn't take it upon herself to drive my brother and I to school everyday. Haha :D
 
#95
anthrosphere said:
It's unfair to compare a young girl/boy who carries a designer bag/accessory because their parents buy it for them, when unemployed Wives beg their HUSBANDS to buy expensive designer goods for them, too. SAME THING.
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Nope. Not the same thing. Not even close to the same thing. I may not work for pay, but I run the entire household, doing hours of chores each day, on top of errands and volunteering. My husband and I are equals with equal rights to our finances. We "earn" it together. The idea that when I buy a bag it's the same as a teen getting her parents to buy a bag... very offensive, honestly. My husband is not my daddy, and I've never begged a day in my life.

I have no problems with teens having nice bags.
 
#96
^Agreed. For all the sweat and toil that went into managing her marriage (my mom had very abusive MIL and three SIL's), I always thought it was harder than working in an office. My mom earned her position today, and I always think she deserves so much more for all the investment she put into it.
 
#97
Speaking as a "younger" person here (I am 20)

I will be 21 next June and I have asked my parents for a Mulberry handbag- Mum has said yes and I think she is working on my Dad who doesn't understand why I can't use a bag for life to carry my things in.

If I don't get it, I won't throw a hissy fit- its not my god given right to have that bag, it will be a privilege. I should also maybe point out I have wanted it for a while- surely if I was a spoilt brat my parents would of brought it for me the second I asked? It has been 2/3 years.

I will certainly be appreciative (very much so) if I get it....I will probably buy them both a bottle of their favourite drink as a thank you because that it is the sort of person I am- I am not trying to brag, merely point out that some "young people" who carry these things aren't brats.

I don't really understand the comment about the Macbook either- this was my 18th birthday present. A special birthday, so my parents brought me a special present- again it was something I had wanted for a long time and I eventually got it when my parents believed it was something I truly wanted and would love and respect.

Status and wealth doesn't come into it here- my parents buy us nice things for special birthdays, if people have a problem with that at the end of the day I can only put it down to jealousy.

Aside from food and board I have been financially independent of my parents for 3 years- in fact, Mum frequently comes to me for a sub until payday. Aside from birthday and christmas presents I have had to borrow £70 off them and that was because I had to take my phone abroad with me last year.

Who on earth has a right to judge another person? If your doing that your not so crystal clear yourself- and as they say, only judge a person if you have a clear conscience yourself.
 
#98
My daughter age 13 1/2 has quite a few Coach bags her aunt has bought her. Super great outlet buys or older bags she no longer wears. My best friend her Nana must have bought her at least 6 JuicyC. bags through the years because she got them super cheap at work when people did returns and the bags were marked down so low. I gave her a few designer bags I don't like or wear. She has a pretty Mulberry bag which is just too heavy for me. I gave her my old Kate Spade bags too. Funny thing is it really doesn't matter to her. She is just as happy carrying a bag from the dollar store. A designer name means nothing to her. I tried to give her 2 Louis Vuitton bags and she told me they were ugly.
She does say many of the girls at school carry Coach small messenger type bags and some do judge those who don't--funny thing is the ones who do this have fake bags because my daughter says they look fake compaired to hers at home and break so easily. My daughter does not care what others have but hates if people try to make fun of other people for what they wear or do not wear.
 
#99
gypsiemagic said:
exactly, but 99.9% of 16-20 year olds own macbook's because they are expensive and cool (and this is from my very own personal very large sample size) the "poor" kids had PC laptops, and god forbid you give off the impression that your family is poor. It's shallow and silly, but its a personal choice between parent and child.

for comparisons sake it is a completely valid comparison
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I just want to chime in here and say, that I'm sure that your 'very large sample size' validates your point in your mind. But I would like give my opionion on YOUR response regarding Apple computers. Where my sister goes to highschool the school give the children laptop computers, one per child, they are required to bring the laptops to school everyday instead of textbooks, so they do not damage their backs. This is a government funded school, not a private one. The laptops they give out? apple notebooks, why? because they believe that they best fulfil the children's needs, particularly their media/creative subjects but including ALL subjects. Are you saying that they and the majority of other public schools in the state are just consumerism obsessec idiots who rather have fashionalble show off students than use tax payer's money effectively?

food for thought
 
#100
I try not to judge but it irks me bc I'm 18 and work hard as a waitress to buy myself the luxury things I've always wanted that my parents would never buy me and some kid has the same thing as me that I worked so hard for and their parents just handed it to them ya know
 
#103
^^^ I agree more of a jealousy thing because I was a lot older than them when I got my first bag. But at the end of the day good for everyone who gets to experience the feeling of walking down the street with a designer bag on their arm - a girls true best friend ;)
 
#104
i think that at the end of the day, its every single person's personal decision to make whether you are 16 or whether you are 40. you are responsible for yourself and there's no need to judge and make assumptions about other people with their purchases even if they are a teenager.
it is more so about the process of them purchasing it and the REAL question each person should be asking themselves whilst pending over it is
"is this purchase within my own capability"
i think the problem is whether people are spending beyond their means and capabilities. i don't think there is a problem with teenagers owning an expensive item may it be a handbag, phone, coat etc as long as they are aware of
-how this affects them/parents if they do purchase it.
-whether there are any negative consequences from purchasing it.
-whether it is affordable and within their means
-whether it is practical and they will actually use it or if it will be thrown in the corner
-how significant the purchase is and whether it is really as valuable as the amount of money they are spending on it.
$10 is valued differently by every individual. $10 to myself is probably worth a lot less to someone who earns 10x as much as me as well as someone who earns 10% of what i earn.
we live in a world that is constantly changing and where society's population are influenced by so much media. it would be unrealistic for us to push for the next generation to be on the same wave length as us and see things exactly how we see them. every person's situation shapes them to be who they are and what they want. we can't force teenagers to view things the way we do because their experiences are different to ours. we can't replay life for them as it was for us in exactly the same way.
we all need to learn to adapt, be more understanding and less judgmental.
shouldn't we shift the focus on who they are as individuals rather than whether or not their handbag costs a fortune?
 
#105
I'm 21 and I live with my boyfriend who has bought me my entire collection. I own ysl, CLs, Alexander wang, Gucci, GZ, AW shoes, prada, Isabel marant etc whats the problem with a man supporting his woman? That's what men are supposed to do! If he ain't spending it on you he gonna spend it on the next lol
 
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