Teenagers and younger girls with designer handbags

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No, a laptop is useful, a macbook is for show

a purse is useful, a designer handbag is for show.

same principles are at play here.

i agree with this even though i have a macbook and designer handbags!!! i would never use another laptop apart from apple macbook's and also would not carry normal purses!!! just sayin!! its a status thing too!!!
 
I'm 21 and I live with my boyfriend who has bought me my entire collection. I own ysl, CLs, Alexander wang, Gucci, GZ, AW shoes, prada, Isabel marant etc whats the problem with a man supporting his woman? That's what men are supposed to do! If he ain't spending it on you he gonna spend it on the next lol

HAHAHAHHAA!!! LOVE THIS!!!! "If he ain't spending it on you he gonna spend it on the next lol" ----THIS!!!!!!!!
 
I think 16 year olds and younger definitely don't need designer bags...

As we get older, our taste changes, so a huge investment into something that a teen probably wouldn't like a few years/seasons later seems such a waste of money.

I'm 44 and my 2 oldest bags were both bought when I was 31- I don't regret either and still use both frequently, just as much as my recent bags.

But my taste as a teenager was very different...
 
I think 16+ is ok, if they appreciate the brand, value it and look after it.

If not, no way!

Also the bag must be age appropriate. I think a teenager with a smaller, simple LV or a Chanel wallet on a chain looks ok.

But a 17 year old with a Chanel jumbo, or birkin? :nogood:

I just think, where do they go from there?! They've nothing to look forward to!

My mother was in her late 50's before she got her first dream Chanel 2.55, and I will be buying her first LV tote for her for Christmas, 4 years later.
 
I grew up without a lot and dreamed of all things designer. So now as a mom I like to share my love with my daughters. I do think it's important that they learn to appreciate every little thing they have and that sometimes things are just too expensive. My 5 year old saw the three bags that I got from the Rebecca Minkoff sale and said "If you see a little one that's not too much money can you please get me one next time?" I told her we'll see :) Whenever I go out thrifting I look for cheap little designer bags for my girls LOL. My daughter has a LV pochette, vera bradley, kate spade, some Dooney, my old prada, and my first retail bag - my Fendi baby baguette as well as dozens of her little kid purses. Why is a bag any different then a $100 doll? Kids need to know money does not grow on trees. If I felt she wasn't taking care of them or appreciating them I would just take them away.

But Chanel or Hermes for young kids - no way, it's just too much IMO. Even if I had a Birkin I wouldn't get my girls near it.
 
Well, I know I'm not over 21 so my opinion may not be of value...but I am 18 and saving up for a Speedy 30 (DE). I have enough money, but want to save more so I still am financially stable after I make the purchase. I work at a boutique in my home town (still a student), and chose to save my money for one nice high quality purse instead of going with my friends to forever 21 on the weekend for little shopping sprees. I think if a young person wants to save their money responsibly and they work for the item, they can purchase it just like anyone else. However I do kind of disagree with young people having expensive items handed to them...because that doesn't teach the morals and work ethic that one might need once they grow up and are on their own. I guess it just depends on the situation.
 
Coming from a 3rd world country I have something different to add. Well, I don't really care who's wearing what, actually. I don't think that mentally, age matters. The thing is, here in Brazil, it's very dangerous to walk on the streets with a designer's bag. If you are young it's even worse because you might be kidnapped. There are some places where is less likely you'll be robbed, like some neighbourhoods and malls, but to allow a teenager to go everywhere with an expensive bag is a too high risk to take.

Also, here we are victims of the 3rd world, only recently some famous brands started selling here. And it's crazy because it's as if people have been private from having the items. Now is very common to see people wearing Louis Vuitton (common in some places) for example. At the same time I see too many people using fake LV bags. This probably happens because of the social gap we have here.
 
If you're judging other people by the objects they carry, then you are just as bad if not worse than they supposedly are - after all, you are reducing them to what they own. That's just shallow. It never makes sense to judge what someone else deserves or what's even considered a luxury for other people. Unless you've gotten to know the person and have heard them rant on and on about status and material goods, then how can you judge them?

People who have problems with other people's spending tend to be the jealous type. If you have your code of ethics and way of life, fine, teach your kids that, but why does anyone else have to live by your standards? "Luxury" is a relative term. We all buy things that cost a bit more than the cheapest option available. If we really lived our ideals about saving money and being frugal, we'd all be shopping at Walmart. It's not for us to judge what's reasonable and what's out of budget for another family.

It's totally nonsensical to try to infer someone's attitude about what they have simply by its price tag. There are brats from families that can't afford anything who think that they deserve everything, and there are grateful kids in wealthy families. In the end, no kid really "deserved" the poverty or the wealth that they were born into, that's just what they got. There is no law of nature that says everyone must have personally worked for every object they've ever owned.

We should all be teaching our kids to take a look at what standard of living they are comfortable with and to aim to support themselves at that level, not to look at others and decide whether the money they've spent is justified. Just focus on yourself and your own life. Who cares if so and so if trying to show off?

My family is middle class and if my parents bought me a $100 device for a gift, that would be pretty normal. But in some households, that would be an extravagant gift that they could not afford. Just like in my family a $1000 gift is rather extravagant. But there are some households where goods that are considered luxury to most people are just the norm. To the third party it looks like spoiling your kids, but on the inside, it just is each family's own standard of living and the kids have not known anything else. If they expect to go into professions that allow them to continue this standard of living for themselves, I don't see what the problem is. They are living realistically within their means and their kid's projected means.

My parents covered my tuition and computer when I moved to college, but that doesn't make me a spoiled brat who doesn't appreciate the value of money. I still understand it's important to save and plan for the future so that you can in fact make those purchases. I'm so sick of hearing people kvetch about entitlement when it's really just them having some feeling of the world being unfair because they had to pay for things that other people didn't have to pay for. Yes, that is too bad but just cuz you feel bad, doesn't give you the right to judge others.

I can't believe that other people would hold it against me that I had generous (at least financially) parents. They had a terrible marriage and the one thing I really wanted when growing up was just for them to stop screaming at each other. That never happened. So it's hard to weigh everything simply by the price tag. I find it cruel that someone could say I was spoiled just because my parents could afford things while in reality my childhood was rather miserable because of their bad relationship. I did not come out of that experience feeling entitled. Instead, I learned that things don't in fact always work out and you don't necessarily get what you want in the least.
 
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If you're judging other people by the objects they carry, then you are just as bad if not worse than they supposedly are - after all, you are reducing them to what they own. That's just shallow. It never makes sense to judge what someone else deserves or what's even considered a luxury for other people. Unless you've gotten to know the person and have heard them rant on and on about status and material goods, then how can you judge them?

People who have problems with other people's spending tend to be the jealous type. If you have your code of ethics and way of life, fine, teach your kids that, but why does anyone else have to live by your standards? "Luxury" is a relative term. We all buy things that cost a bit more than the cheapest option available. If we really lived our ideals about saving money and being frugal, we'd all be shopping at Walmart. It's not for us to judge what's reasonable and what's out of budget for another family.

It's totally nonsensical to try to infer someone's attitude about what they have simply by its price tag. There are brats from families that can't afford anything who think that they deserve everything, and there are grateful kids in wealthy families. In the end, no kid really "deserved" the poverty or the wealth that they were born into, that's just what they got. There is no law of nature that says everyone must have personally worked for every object they've ever owned.

We should all be teaching our kids to take a look at what standard of living they are comfortable with and to aim to support themselves at that level, not to look at others and decide whether the money they've spent is justified. Just focus on yourself and your own life. Who cares if so and so if trying to show off?

My family is middle class and if my parents bought me a $100 device for a gift, that would be pretty normal. But in some households, that would be an extravagant gift that they could not afford. Just like in my family a $1000 gift is rather extravagant. But there are some households where goods that are considered luxury to most people are just the norm. To the third party it looks like spoiling your kids, but on the inside, it just is each family's own standard of living and the kids have not known anything else. If they expect to go into professions that allow them to continue this standard of living for themselves, I don't see what the problem is. They are living realistically within their means and their kid's projected means.

My parents covered my tuition and computer when I moved to college, but that doesn't make me a spoiled brat who doesn't appreciate the value of money. I still understand it's important to save and plan for the future so that you can in fact make those purchases. I'm so sick of hearing people kvetch about entitlement when it's really just them having some feeling of the world being unfair because they had to pay for things that other people didn't have to pay for. Yes, that is too bad but just cuz you feel bad, doesn't give you the right to judge others.

I can't believe that other people would hold it against me that I had generous (at least financially) parents. They had a terrible marriage and the one thing I really wanted when growing up was just for them to stop screaming at each other. That never happened. So it's hard to weigh everything simply by the price tag. I find it cruel that someone could say I was spoiled just because my parents could afford things while in reality my childhood was rather miserable because of their bad relationship. I did not come out of that experience feeling entitled. Instead, I learned that things don't in fact always work out and you don't necessarily get what you want in the least.

I absolutely agree!
 
I'm 21 and Have been studing and working at the same time without my parents support since I was 16. I remember my my first job being a waitress, I had seen so many classy ladies and gentlemen wearing items I would have loved to die for. Their clothes, their watches, their bags, their shoes..everything was just so pretty!! I then told myself to study hard so I could be able to afford something nice like those...

My boss has a daughter and damn that girl, she was so spoilt. She had everything. It seemed to me like all the prettiest, and most expensive items in the world were owned by her. And damn! She was only 15. I told myself that one day, I would be able to afford something like that..

I grew abit older, been through different jobs and hardships (to me and my age, anyway lol), I started to realise those brand items could just be very superficial if you don't know how to appriciate the beauty, the hard work designers and their craftsmen have put into it.

Now that I have learnt a little bit more about life and have a stable job relating to what I am studying, I start to look into those items when I was younger I always wish I had...I still can't always afford most of them anyway, but wifh the one I can, I purchase them because I know they have excellent quality, and are a work of art. I also make sure I get the most use out of them..

I believe that they are many many girls out there who are like me. So sometimes it's not so much of an issue for a teen or a young lady to carry a designer bag. Even though I know, and I agree with you there are girls out there who just carry them for a social status.. That is, then, sad.

Omg I wrote too much, but this thread just got me so emotional.. I don't know why. Sorry about the long post guys :( :)
 
If you're judging other people by the objects they carry, then you are just as bad if not worse than they supposedly are - after all, you are reducing them to what they own. That's just shallow. It never makes sense to judge what someone else deserves or what's even considered a luxury for other people. Unless you've gotten to know the person and have heard them rant on and on about status and material goods, then how can you judge them?

People who have problems with other people's spending tend to be the jealous type. If you have your code of ethics and way of life, fine, teach your kids that, but why does anyone else have to live by your standards? "Luxury" is a relative term. We all buy things that cost a bit more than the cheapest option available. If we really lived our ideals about saving money and being frugal, we'd all be shopping at Walmart. It's not for us to judge what's reasonable and what's out of budget for another family.

It's totally nonsensical to try to infer someone's attitude about what they have simply by its price tag. There are brats from families that can't afford anything who think that they deserve everything, and there are grateful kids in wealthy families. In the end, no kid really "deserved" the poverty or the wealth that they were born into, that's just what they got. There is no law of nature that says everyone must have personally worked for every object they've ever owned.

We should all be teaching our kids to take a look at what standard of living they are comfortable with and to aim to support themselves at that level, not to look at others and decide whether the money they've spent is justified. Just focus on yourself and your own life. Who cares if so and so if trying to show off?

My family is middle class and if my parents bought me a $100 device for a gift, that would be pretty normal. But in some households, that would be an extravagant gift that they could not afford. Just like in my family a $1000 gift is rather extravagant. But there are some households where goods that are considered luxury to most people are just the norm. To the third party it looks like spoiling your kids, but on the inside, it just is each family's own standard of living and the kids have not known anything else. If they expect to go into professions that allow them to continue this standard of living for themselves, I don't see what the problem is. They are living realistically within their means and their kid's projected means.

My parents covered my tuition and computer when I moved to college, but that doesn't make me a spoiled brat who doesn't appreciate the value of money. I still understand it's important to save and plan for the future so that you can in fact make those purchases. I'm so sick of hearing people kvetch about entitlement when it's really just them having some feeling of the world being unfair because they had to pay for things that other people didn't have to pay for. Yes, that is too bad but just cuz you feel bad, doesn't give you the right to judge others.

I can't believe that other people would hold it against me that I had generous (at least financially) parents. They had a terrible marriage and the one thing I really wanted when growing up was just for them to stop screaming at each other. That never happened. So it's hard to weigh everything simply by the price tag. I find it cruel that someone could say I was spoiled just because my parents could afford things while in reality my childhood was rather miserable because of their bad relationship. I did not come out of that experience feeling entitled. Instead, I learned that things don't in fact always work out and you don't necessarily get what you want in the least.

Thank you so much for posting! I feel exactly the same way. People never look at what they have, to the extent as they should, and to understand that no one has everything. Believe it or not, I have had people resenting me for the financial security that my father had worked so hard to create. What they had never seen, or cared to see, was how much my mother was mistreated by her mother-in-law and sister-in-laws. They were in our home at least 1/3 of the time, during the time I was growing up, to the point that my mother almost went insane. This is in the environment, where she was expected to cook three full-course meals a day (six dishes), when she had two young babies/toddlers to take care of, and was never allowed to talk back to her abusers in any way. Whenever people envy my mother's current situation (financial security, outstanding kids, etc.), I always think to myself that they could take the whole package, if they like!

Don't just look at the positives in others' situations, and expect that things literally fell out of the sky. There are brats of all ages, and walks of life; I have seen adults from less-privileged families acting like they own the world, and kids from wealthy backgrounds being very polite/courteous to everyone they meet.
 
mmmm....i think my opinion vacillates. but for the most part i am mildly annoyed when I see young girls (not young women) of 14-17 or so walking around with a designer bag. At that age you know its unlikely they paid for any or all of the cost, and so they dont understand the value of money,be it earning or spending it. I am 26- turning 27, and i am just starting to purchase designer/high quality items because I feel that at this age, i should start investing in items that will carry me 10-20 years down the road.

However, i feel that this is a reflection of something greater, a worldwide issue where the youth of societies feel entitled to the luxury and the goodies that previous generations worked hard and saved to afford- and they demand and expect instant gratification. But i digress.

Thats my 2 cents :)
 
I'm actually 17, and have had luxury purses for a few years. My friends tend to go through designer bags(Burberry, Louis Vuitton, Chloe ect...) on a pretty regular basis and then whenever see them again. My first 'expensive' purse was a MK Hamilton that was a Christmas present and that I still use regularly. Since then I have paid for every single purse by working(babysitting, pet sitting, gutter cleaning, and mowing). It's given me a different attitude about money and why it's so important to save. The other gift my parents have given me is making me pay my own phone bill. Which means I have to pay it monthly and choose what features I want for my own money.
 
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