I think the intrigue of the journey gets us to spend, somehow justifying our appreciation of the house and their exorbitant prices. Nowhere else can I justify paying 5000 for a windbreaker....When we get caught in the rabbit hole, usually it's too much spend to turn back and go resale bc we have already "invested" in the journey too much. We then spend more with the hopes that the bag of our dreams will be just around the corner. The shock once we get the bag and the amount we actually spent is usually daunting. Especially when a mini kelly in excellent condition is 23k-28k now and my ratio is already 5:1. My path is the traditional competitive store in the US. Never 1:1 or a wonderful surprise in Paris. I do appreciate my new, 100 % authentic bags but the journey is not for the faint hearted.
It is like a casino, the house always wins. Like you, I spent too much money for the bags I got. I could have most blue boxes now with my prespend, I have none.
I am lucky that my friend did so well on resale, and then focused all her prespend on special bags (and it is working very well for her), so she is trying to get me used to buy these bags on resale, and teaching me a lot as well. It is a process. She helped me reduce the list of the bags I really would love to have to 8-10.
In that process I also learned that most bags I have do not work for my lifestyle. Unfortunately I haven’t met the best SAs, hence I’ve struggled a lot and would accept anything that was offered. It has been a pain to get any offers, let alone the right ones.
If I had to do it again, I would have never set foot in a store after Covid.
If you really wanted the windbreaker and bought it resale, you would have paid brand new max $1,500-2,000, someone would run to the store to buy it for you to help with her prespend. If you do that math with all products you got, you would have the MK by now and saved some money. I gift a lot of Kelly belts, scarves and mini bags, and it makes no sense for me to buy these in store unless it is for prespend. Kelly belts go for $800 on resale now, brand new. Scarves 90 cm $420 and $900 for the cashmere/silk shawls. All including shipping.
If it became better with time, great, but all the posts I’ve seen here and in other places so far, everyone needs to keep spending at least 1:1 for bags even after 20 years.
Also, I don’t want to be 100 years old buying stuff for a bag, and the way it is going, even with very high spend, that is where I would end up.😅