I only have one moussie in the stole format, I wear it casually, just once looped around my neck and both tails to the front NO knot (the jacket collar will keep it on). Have you tried the infinity tie @bunnycat suggests for the MT? It won't be as long but it should be more 'puffy'.
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Those are pretty much what I do. It's ok, but it's not really 3x-the-cost-of-a-90 awesome. I suppose spray starch is a bad idea?
