^^ 1.5 would look like a knocker on my hand, i can't imagine a 3 ct, that could be seen like a block away.
People Staring At Your Large Rocks????
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I had a customer come in yesterday with the most enormous stone i have ever seen IRL... i found myself staring at it, i eventually asked what the carat weight was out of curiosity, 3.5!!!! however she had it set on a really wide band almost as wide as the stone itself and it really didnt complement it. nonetherless it was an amazing peice.
I've had it happen-I try not to notice and will not wear it in situations I deem inappropriate-volunteering, etc.
I dont really mind them staring, it just makes me uncofortable when strangers walk up to you and grab your hand to get a better look at it. That is so rude! Hello! I dont walk up and grab you! Some people have no manners. 
I dont really mind them staring, it just makes me uncofortable when strangers walk up to you and grab your hand to get a better look at it. That is so rude! Hello! I dont walk up and grab you! Some people have no manners.
If a stranger does walk up and grab your hand--immediately curl up your fingers so they can't slip the ring off of your hand! That happened to my mom--crazy!
I wear a 3.65ct antique cushion (avatar) and haven't really noticed anyone giving it undue attention. One time, though, I wore a 3+ carat that happened to be a really flashy headlight type of stone (something about the way it was faceted the thing was so blingy and bright! My current stone is way more understated) - this wasn't my ring, but one I was wearing to show a potential buyer (I sell antique diamonds) but this guy noticed it and made me really uncomfortable asking, is it real, how big is it, etc. I was on guard half expecting him to be waiting by my car to jump me, lol, then felt really guilty later when I spotted him having lunch with his wife and kids. I guess he was just being friendly, but it kind of freaked me out.
I have always worn 2+ carat stones, though, and that's the only time anyone stopped me to talk about it.
I have always worn 2+ carat stones, though, and that's the only time anyone stopped me to talk about it.
I think it comes with the territory..it's big, sparkly and for me anyways when I see something sparkly I always look..I'm just drawn to it for some reason. however if you are in a sketchy area I would turn it around so people can't see it.
I too stare. But I usually just say "I love your ring, do you mind holding your hand up so I can see it better?" I never touch, and I never ask too many questions, I just admire.
I notice people staring at my set sometimes and my solitaire is not quite a carat and it still makes me feel weird. Somehow good but someone uneasy wondering if they're judging me somehow.
I notice people staring at my set sometimes and my solitaire is not quite a carat and it still makes me feel weird. Somehow good but someone uneasy wondering if they're judging me somehow.
LOL!
Most rings that I see are quite modest, like my own. I never see/notice any rings that are like, 3 ct. Of course, I'll be the first to admit that I'm not really able to tell carat weight by sight alone, so what do I know? But if I happen to glance at a woman's hand and see a large stone, I would NOT stare. I'd look away. I mean, what if it's not a real diamond or something? The person might be uneasy and self-conscious if you stare at it!
i love to stare but i think i'm pretty discreet about it. my friend got taken aside by two young guys and asked if her 1.5 was real. it is a very sparkly ring, and she has small hands, so it looked huge.
My diamond isn't huge. It is only a little over 1.5 cts, but most people guess 2-3 cts because I have a size 3 ring finger, so it just looks bigger. And people do stare at it and do the head to toe thing. A few people asked me years ago if it was real, but nobody does anymore. I think people assume it's fake. I'm a SAHM, and I dress accordingly (no offense to you SAHM's that get dolled up every day..I wish I had that devotion and energy, I just don't). So usually I'm running around in old tennis shoes, or uggs, or flip flops, regular stretchy not overly fashionable jeans, and whatever shirt I can find clean...lol. No make up, and only a brush through my hair. That being said I'm a diamond nut, and if I have 5 spare minutes, I'm ultrasounding or jet steaming my diamond. So it's always shiny and clean. Ah priorities, huh?
But I don't care what they think...if I cared what they thought I wouldn't go into public that way..haha.
But I don't care what they think...if I cared what they thought I wouldn't go into public that way..haha.
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Honestly, I kept staring at my own engagement ring when we were first engaged so much so that I almost had several traffic accidents (embarrassing, huh?). Large, sparkly things should come with warning labels! Of course, I was also thrilled out of my mind to be marrying the love of my life so I had a good excuse 
I wear my eternity band in lieu of my engagement ring on my left hand when I don't want to draw too much attention to myself (it's usually on my right hand when I have my engagement ring on & if I'm not wearing a cocktail ring). I know my engagement ring diamond is large & large diamonds garner attention - wanted and/or unwanted.
I don't think I stare at other women's hands, but I do admit that I check out their jewelry discreetly (I hope). I can't help it - I'm like a myna attracted to sparkly pretty things.
I wear my eternity band in lieu of my engagement ring on my left hand when I don't want to draw too much attention to myself (it's usually on my right hand when I have my engagement ring on & if I'm not wearing a cocktail ring). I know my engagement ring diamond is large & large diamonds garner attention - wanted and/or unwanted.
I don't think I stare at other women's hands, but I do admit that I check out their jewelry discreetly (I hope). I can't help it - I'm like a myna attracted to sparkly pretty things.
Wow, that is awful. I am so sorry to hear that happend to her. Thank you for the advice though. It is crazy what some people will do!