Anniev28 said:Chanel is a very expensive hobby. A lot of folks have the cash to spare but opt not to coz it's not a necessity in their life. A lot can pay for it on their own but opt not to either coz their money can be used for better things. If you're financially stable now and in the future, then it's a well deserved purchase. If buying a bag means instability, debt, or taking a chunk out of your nest egg, then it's not wise. The bag will always be there. It's a thing. Not as important as the people who love u and looking out for your best interest. If your BF is being unreasonable and controlling, then that's no good. If he's looking out for you, the you need to think twice. Good luck and hope u resolve it.
Swou said:I think I can relate to the guy. Up until late last year, I would have never in a million years thought I would be spending so much on a bag. And my husband was used to this. The first time I bought a Chanel, a lambskin mini, he was shocked at the price. And so was I
I'm on my 5th bag now, with the latest one having cost 3,750 euros. Once you start it's hard to stop, because you can't really go back to "normal' bags. My husband had real reason to be concerned Also, it's funny how guilty I felt buying my very first one, and how I didn't even skip a beat buying the 3,750 euros one.
Maybe he worries because he wanted you guys to put money together to invest in your future? I mean, maybe he think he's going to be left to handle everything financially while you use your money for gifts? It wouldn't be very fair in that case. Just my opinion!
Anniev28 said:Chanel is a very expensive hobby. A lot of folks have the cash to spare but opt not to coz it's not a necessity in their life. A lot can pay for it on their own but opt not to either coz their money can be used for better things. If you're financially stable now and in the future, then it's a well deserved purchase. If buying a bag means instability, debt, or taking a chunk out of your nest egg, then it's not wise. The bag will always be there. It's a thing. Not as important as the people who love u and looking out for your best interest. If your BF is being unreasonable and controlling, then that's no good. If he's looking out for you, the you need to think twice. Good luck and hope u resolve it.
My hubby doesn't like my handbag addiction too but whenever I buy a new bag he never really gets angry, he does complain a bit but only for a minute or so. I always say to him that the price of my handbag is nothing compare to his hobby of buying and racing race horses
IMO he should not react like the way he did since firstly it's not his money and he shouldn't tell you what you should or should not do with your money
It doesn't seem that you have the same view on finances as your significant other which is a big red flag.
While we don't get his side of the story, I can understand why he would get riled up over the cost of a luxury bag. It is also unrealistic for any woman to expect men to be ecstatic when spending a lot of money on bags. Men generally do not get bags and the ones who appreciate luxury bags are a rare breed. That being said, for an issue as small as this one, you should be able to discuss a purchase in a mature and calm manner if you are really compatible.
Hi ladies! OK after i saw my friend carrying the chanel lipstick patent bag i just had to get one! This will be my first Chanel bag; I don't own any high end brand name bags/stuff except the LV WC speedy 30....I buy stuff w my own money never ask my BF to pay/buy for me; so I was on the hunt and found a Chanel lipstick vinyl/patent bag for like $1600 and told my BF I want to buy it and he went ballistic. WTF?? I told him calm down dude I'm not asking you to buy for me etc then he went on and on asking me if another expensive bag is necessary, $1600 for a bag is ridiculous, etc etc...and i got pretty mad; anyways what do u guys think should i just get it (or any other Chanel bag pre-owned since I can't really splurge too big) and if i get another high end bag my BF probably gonna keep *****ing at me etc; or should i just not buy
i just don't understand what his problem is...i can afford another bag what's it to hiM? i fear he might "break up" with me if i buy
If he really break up with you because of a $1600 bag and you are using your own money to buy it, i advice you to leave this control freak asap.