Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

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#376
fatcat2523 said:
Just want to clarify CocoB's Comment...the almost unkown style is referring to other H styles other than Birkin and Kelly...H do release other style...such as Massai (CocoB referring) / Evenlyn / Victoria / Garden party etc.
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right, got it now. still think those are quite noticeable though as they are more often in the shops ?

massai is quite identifiable no? in any case - I get where she was going.. but as valid as her statement may be, how many of these women really make up the H customer base. I think the Korzinka is speaking of women who carry Hermes in general rather than the exceptions

apologies to CocoB
 
#377
How identifiable an item is should not dictate how you treat people, nor should it justify questionable actions and speech. iPhones and iPads are expensive, but look how many people own them...surely you aren't implying that all iPhone and iPad owners are flaunting their riches? Come to think of it, Hondas are as identifiable as Mercedes Benz, and I'm thinking that to someone who can't afford a car, a beat up Honda looks like an extravagant luxury. What should matter, if you're wanting more than a passing judgement, is how that person acts or speaks, yes, where that
 
#378
kensingtonhguy said:
Birkin bags are not almost unknown. very many "common" people know what a Birkin is, believe me. Whether from rap music, stupid mtv lifestyle shows, or fashion magazines... The guy at the counter of my Walmart photo processing place knew what one was and could identify it by shape alone. I have to admit he was slightly confused as he did call it a "Birkenstock" bag, but you get my point.

It would be interesting to see how many of the people who put Hermes quality as the first reason they buy H could list one or more additional makers of (arguably) higher quality goods than H (small french makers or otherwise) ????

not a provocation :) just sayin' :D




As all actions have a reaction, all reactions also have to have an action. I would just use common sense when deciding what to carry/wear. For instance, I'd not tote an H along to work at a regular (50-75k annual) job unless I wanted everyone to secretly hate me - plain and simple.

EDIT: sorry, I figure I should add in an actual answer to the thread to not disrespect the OP :) - So far all I have got from H is scarf, and yes I have gotten some nasty comments on it! are you stupid for paying so much, whats the point etc etc, more nasty comments than admiration actually, but i like my scarf :) I am quite careful now to where I will wear it out, or at least how I tie it (to make it more discreet)
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Absolutely agree...

What I was trying to say was not that all H. wearers mean to give this message of "show off", but that such a message is often perceived by other people, regardless of whether the bag owner realises this or not.

H. bags - all of them - are indeed status symbols, there is no doubt about that. For whatever reason you choose a status symbol bag (for quality, or gift, or investment, etc), it still acts as a status symbol and may provoke reactions, positive and negative.

I do not believe that people who comment are stupid/jealous. No. Some of them are just bag-obsession free. They truly think that spending more than something on a bag is insane.
I know a lot of such people, some of them are quite rich, some not, the rich ones would buy property, jewellery, but not bags. They would choose to buy a rare diamond 10 times over buying a H. Why think that they are jealous?

On the other hand, some of my friends consciously buy and carry a status symbol bag in order to "defend" themselves from arrogance of other rich women in their circles, who look down on everyone not "equipped" with an expensive car, bag, shoes, etc.

It is all very complicated. But even if you do not have a faintest idea that your bag is a Birkin, and you carry it as just any bag, the message "I am so rich" is still being given out for people who can decode it.

I think, a good answer to a negative comment "how can you spend so much money on a bag" would be a simple "because it holds value better than most cars". It is true, and will satisfy any "curious" person.
 
#379
No worries kensingtonhguy. While there are always exceptions to the rule, I was just trying to point out that there are some people who aren't status obsessed who carry Hermes for the love of the brand, simple as that. Just because you can afford something nice does not automatically suggest that you're shallow or status seeking. And if you are, that's fine too - different strokes....

Ouijaboard, what a fantastic sentiment - I agree wholeheartedly.
 
#380
ouija board said:
How identifiable an item is should not dictate how you treat people, nor should it justify questionable actions and speech. iPhones and iPads are expensive, but look how many people own them...surely you aren't implying that all iPhone and iPad owners are flaunting their riches? Come to think of it, Hondas are as identifiable as Mercedes Benz, and I'm thinking that to someone who can't afford a car, a beat up Honda looks like an extravagant luxury. What should matter, if you're wanting more than a passing judgement, is how that person acts or speaks, yes, where that
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Couldn't saying it better...I think people just don't have the right to be rude or nasty to does who own Birkin or expensive items...most of us work hard to get these items...as we said in Chinese 'there is always a mountain higher than the mountain'
 
#381
korzinka said:
The whole point of owning/showing those bags is their exclusivity, huge value and status symbol nature. Nobody would buy a Birkin to wear on a desert island. It is the reactions of other people that make the H. bags so desirable. They make the owner come across as well off, successful, dominant, lucky etc.
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I may be in the minority, but I would buy a Birkin to wear on a desert island...I appreciate H bags because of their quality and design and not because they attract attention. In fact, I would probably not buy a Birkin or Kelly for my current lifestyle since they are too on the radar.
 
#382
Well, I must LIVE on a "desert island" as my Kelly has only been recognized by 3 people in the 3 1/2 yrs I've had it and that's just fine with me!

I cannot imagine EVER commenting on how others choose to spend their own money. What business is it of mine? I have no idea how much they have, whether they are generous with charities etc, nor do they know anything about me! I have carried my Kellys in NYC, London, Paris, LA to name the "big ones" and I don't think very many people have even noticed my bag or me. I don't know where those of you who have had nasty comments live, nor who your friends are, but it's sure not in my world! I used to carry Gucci and Vuitton and never had comments then, either.
 
#383
Here is a little timely anecdote which supports the fact that Hermes has made it’s mark on many people: today when leaving work, one of the garage guys I see each day said “ You always have the nicest bags....is that another Hermes?”. I’ve never discussed my bags with him before, yet he knew.
 
#384
VickyB said:
Here is a little timely anecdote which supports the fact that Hermes has made it’s mark on many people: today when leaving work, one of the garage guys I see each day said “ You always have the nicest bags....is that another Hermes?”. I’ve never discussed my bags with him before, yet he knew.
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That's a really sweet and meaningful compliment. :smile1:
 
#385
A few thoughts:
Many people who work very hard still cannot afford H bags.
H bags are iconic, beautiful and well-made.
Buying fakes is always wrong and flaunting that in front of the ones carrying the real thing is extremely tacky.
H bags can be adored and appreciated and admired (even from those who don't have them) without jealousy or inferior feelings.
I live in an area where H sightings are rare feasts and always am tempted to strike up a conversation since it is such a rare occurrence and I love seeing H bags, belts or scarves on people around here.
Basically, it all comes down to tact and good taste on everybody's part.
 
#386
Maedi said:
A few thoughts:
Many people who work very hard still cannot afford H bags.
H bags are iconic, beautiful and well-made.
Buying fakes is always wrong and flaunting that in front of the ones carrying the real thing is extremely tacky.
H bags can be adored and appreciated and admired (even from those who don't have them) without jealousy or inferior feelings.
I live in an area where H sightings are rare feasts and always am tempted to strike up a conversation since it is such a rare occurrence and I love seeing H bags, belts or scarves on people around here.
Basically, it all comes down to tact and good taste on everybody's part.
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Very well said, Maedi!
 
#387
ouija board said:
How identifiable an item is should not dictate how you treat people, nor should it justify questionable actions and speech. iPhones and iPads are expensive, but look how many people own them...surely you aren't implying that all iPhone and iPad owners are flaunting their riches? Come to think of it, Hondas are as identifiable as Mercedes Benz, and I'm thinking that to someone who can't afford a car, a beat up Honda looks like an extravagant luxury. What should matter, if you're wanting more than a passing judgement, is how that person acts or speaks, yes, where that
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in the areas where the situation is beat up honda vs. beat up sandals, the people with the sandals make the same remarks and comments at the people with the hondas though :)

I get where you are going of course, and I think we are thinking the same way. I realize everything is relative right, the point of it is not hermes vs. non hermes, I think its just wearing the appropriate thing at the appropriate time

as you would not wear a baseball outfit to a black tie party, things should go the other way as well
 
#388
I just had a huge fight with my sister-in-law (she owns just 1 LV speedy). I don't know why she hates me so much, maybe she's just jealous of my growing H bag collection. so in the middle of our fight she just blurted out "I can afford a BIRKIN, i just wouldn't spend that much for a bag coz i'm SMART!" so i answered back "hahaha... ok, I admit i'm STUPID coz i'm RICH! and you're SMART coz you have to be smart coz you're POOOOOORRRRR!!!" She walked out! hahahaha....
 
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