Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase
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Thank you for the wisdom ❤️❤️❤️ So legit! I’m glad I got TPF here to share my love of bags, especially the Hermes sub-forum.
AngLin - I know this happened a while ago - but this situation is definitely not ok - but to go to your husband and to potentially cause a marital problem about spending decisions- Is an indication that she is unhappy in her marriage and wants to check what others do in theirs... my husband pays for my H and has absolutely no qualms- and I refuse to feel shamed when we decide to indulge in H or anything else.Oh I totally agree with you! It's just so odd that she would go straight to him about this, when she could've come to me. I chalked it up to her being passive aggressive and instead of talking to the person that she's supposed to talk to, she talks about it with other people (who know the person she's talking about) instead. In this case it's DH. You are right she is closer to DH as they are in the same field and they talk shop with each other.
It's still odd and DH and I actually had to laugh at her because, seriously, who does this kind of thing?
Also, as someone whose weight is an issue- If you retaliate to her husband or to her directly - it means she was successful in hitting nerve of yours - I would just smile , laugh and say with a wink and a pat on her arm : “ oh, I know you want one too - and when you are ready - I am happy to hook you up with my SA” - now, she will NEVER take you up on the offer - but at least you are confident- both in carrying H as well as in your marriage ...zing zing !
I've been thinking about taking my Blue Jean Evelyne to the spa again and recalled an incident from a few years ago. This was from an H SA at my home store upon seeing my Evie, by far my most used bag. I'd never seen him before or since, but when he was taking my info, he looked at my well-loved Evie w/ such disgust, holding it out w/ his fingertips and then at me w/ such disdain for its condition (mostly just scuff marks). I was embarrassed and ashamed...for about a second. I have no qualms about using my bag as I see fit and need. 
Smile at the SA and say “Don’t worry, the purse won’t catch any STD’S.”I've been thinking about taking my Blue Jean Evelyne to the spa again and recalled an incident from a few years ago. This was from an H SA at my home store upon seeing my Evie, by far my most used bag. I'd never seen him before or since, but when he was taking my info, he looked at my well-loved Evie w/ such disgust, holding it out w/ his fingertips and then at me w/ such disdain for its condition (mostly just scuff marks). I was embarrassed and ashamed...for about a second. I have no qualms about using my bag as I see fit and need.
Aww, thanks
You slay! There should be a thread for @Madam Bijoux-isms!
Aww, thanks Cocomlle and Bobcat 
Ladies some people will always talk, wether you are carrying LV Chanel or Birkin, I had plenty of Positive & Not So Positive Comments from strangers, i’m so used to it, to the point I don’t even pay attention anymore, especially with Birkin bags, the stares, in the streets people whispering in ques . I use my Birkins everyday, supermarkets, post office, to work everywhere, to the point I forget that I’m carrying one. Some people will say it’s Fake bhlah bhlah, I don’t care because I love my bag so much to even care about negative comments from strangers. I can’t stop using my bags because of fear what others think or say, as long they are not physically hurting me, i don’t care. Carry you bags with confidence. Birkins are meant to be seen!!
I was carrying a Birkin 30 today in NYC and was dressed pretty casually. Jeans, sweater, scarf. A man who seemed to be mentally ill or on drugs started screaming at me after we passed each other on the street. He continued screaming at me (from across the street) while I waited at the crosswalk, and kept screaming even as I crossed the large intersection. At first, I wasn’t sure if he was yelling at me, but it soon became clear that he was because whenever I’d look back at him he’d be staring straight at me, saying things like, “Yes I’m talking about YOU!” or “Don’t walk away from me!”
Also, the things he was screaming were about how wealthy people are corrupt and terrible, etc. Honestly, I couldn’t make out a lot of what he was saying (he was quite far away and I was in fight/flight trying to ignore him and pretend I didn’t hear him) but the wealth aspect made me think that he recognized my bag and was livid about it. I wasn’t wearing anything else with logos.
I felt extremely unsafe while this was happening. The screaming went on for several minutes while I was walking to the crosswalk, waiting there, and then crossing the intersection, and all of the people nearby had their eyes on us.
And the funny part is that I was just walking 5 min to get a cup of coffee. I took a 3-min Uber ride home because I was very scared that I’d run into him again.
For anyone who lives in NYC, has this ever happened to you? I’m afraid to use my bag again for fear that I’ll put myself in an unsafe situation or be berated by someone else. This occurred in West Village, which I’ve always thought of as a nice neighborhood.
Also, the things he was screaming were about how wealthy people are corrupt and terrible, etc. Honestly, I couldn’t make out a lot of what he was saying (he was quite far away and I was in fight/flight trying to ignore him and pretend I didn’t hear him) but the wealth aspect made me think that he recognized my bag and was livid about it. I wasn’t wearing anything else with logos.
I felt extremely unsafe while this was happening. The screaming went on for several minutes while I was walking to the crosswalk, waiting there, and then crossing the intersection, and all of the people nearby had their eyes on us.
And the funny part is that I was just walking 5 min to get a cup of coffee. I took a 3-min Uber ride home because I was very scared that I’d run into him again.
For anyone who lives in NYC, has this ever happened to you? I’m afraid to use my bag again for fear that I’ll put myself in an unsafe situation or be berated by someone else. This occurred in West Village, which I’ve always thought of as a nice neighborhood.
OMG no...and I hope it never does- sounds like an awful encounter - happy to hear you are safe - but don’t let this deter you from enjoying your beautiful things ...
Oh my gosh... so so sorry to hear about such a scary experience. Glad you’re otherwise okay!! But yes, don’t let this take away from wearing anything lovely!
I was in Nice, walking around the Promenade and this man started following me & DH around yelling about my B! We were so startled & ducked into a nearby store where he STILL followed us continuing to offer me deals for my B. Luckily I walked straight for security and he backed off... we didn’t want to do too much outside for the rest of the day & ended up getting cute outfits in the same store. Still shook us up for the rest of our trip though!
"a man who seemed to be mentally ill or on drugs"
He could be yelling at someone for licking an ice cream nevertheless.
Enjoy your bag...but it must have felt terrible surely being screamed at.
He could be yelling at someone for licking an ice cream nevertheless.
Enjoy your bag...but it must have felt terrible surely being screamed at.
It is highly unlikely this has anything to do with your Birkin bag. Men in general don't care about fashion and 99.99% wouldn't recognise a Birkin if it hits them in the head. Let along a man who might be "mentally ill or on drugs". It's just random. I hope you won't be experience this again but if you did, please call the police and they might either be able help him or find people who can help him.
So sorry this happened to you! Unfortunately, there are quite a few mentally unstable people wandering around as well as many highly critical people who feel entitled to voice their opinions to total strangers at the top of their lungs. The times we live in I guess where filters on speech and behavior seem to be non existent or much looser than before. I’ve been screamed at in NYC by random people a few times times about various things including my dog peeing on the sidewalk. While it is upsetting and frightening as long as they keep their distance and don’t approach or follow me, I just ignore them. I remember wishing my dog would hurry up and finish peeing so we could walk away from the idiot screaming at us! I mean where do they think my dog should pee if not on the sidewalk? If my dog had peed on them then I could see a reason to scream but the sidewalk? Give me a break smh. I’m not sure which H is your home store but there is a panhandler who often lurks outside Madison and begs from anyone coming out of the store with an orange bag. I always feel a bit uneasy when I walk out with a purchase and he immediately asks for money so I cross the street immediately. I hope you don’t let your recent experience make you uneasy about using your nice things in the future. Who knows why that person chose to harangue you that day. You’ve never run into him in your neighborhood before so just chalk it up to an unlucky encounter and keep doing what you usually do. Wear your bags in good health!