Ladies...Any RUDE/CATTY/SNIDE/NASTY Remarks about your Birkins or ANY Hermès Purchase

[cravin]

I was carrying a Birkin 30 today in NYC and was dressed pretty casually. Jeans, sweater, scarf. A man who seemed to be mentally ill or on drugs started screaming at me after we passed each other on the street. He continued screaming at me (from across the street) while I waited at the crosswalk, and kept screaming even as I crossed the large intersection. At first, I wasn’t sure if he was yelling at me, but it soon became clear that he was because whenever I’d look back at him he’d be staring straight at me, saying things like, “Yes I’m talking about YOU!” or “Don’t walk away from me!”

Also, the things he was screaming were about how wealthy people are corrupt and terrible, etc. Honestly, I couldn’t make out a lot of what he was saying (he was quite far away and I was in fight/flight trying to ignore him and pretend I didn’t hear him) but the wealth aspect made me think that he recognized my bag and was livid about it. I wasn’t wearing anything else with logos.

I felt extremely unsafe while this was happening. The screaming went on for several minutes while I was walking to the crosswalk, waiting there, and then crossing the intersection, and all of the people nearby had their eyes on us.

And the funny part is that I was just walking 5 min to get a cup of coffee. I took a 3-min Uber ride home because I was very scared that I’d run into him again.

For anyone who lives in NYC, has this ever happened to you? I’m afraid to use my bag again for fear that I’ll put myself in an unsafe situation or be berated by someone else. This occurred in West Village, which I’ve always thought of as a nice neighborhood.

Unfortunately, our city has its fair share of mentally ill people, activists, just general weirdos. I can almost guarantee you that it had absolutely nothing to do with your Birkin bag. I happen to be 6’6 and catch the eye of crazy people all the time. Smile and nod and then enter a building if you feel unsafe. NYC in general is extremely safe now from the amount of cameras and cops around. Sorry it happened to you, but it would have happened to anyone. I’m sure it wasn’t personal.

 

[Love Of My Life]

I was carrying a Birkin 30 today in NYC and was dressed pretty casually. Jeans, sweater, scarf. A man who seemed to be mentally ill or on drugs started screaming at me after we passed each other on the street. He continued screaming at me (from across the street) while I waited at the crosswalk, and kept screaming even as I crossed the large intersection. At first, I wasn’t sure if he was yelling at me, but it soon became clear that he was because whenever I’d look back at him he’d be staring straight at me, saying things like, “Yes I’m talking about YOU!” or “Don’t walk away from me!”

Also, the things he was screaming were about how wealthy people are corrupt and terrible, etc. Honestly, I couldn’t make out a lot of what he was saying (he was quite far away and I was in fight/flight trying to ignore him and pretend I didn’t hear him) but the wealth aspect made me think that he recognized my bag and was livid about it. I wasn’t wearing anything else with logos.

I felt extremely unsafe while this was happening. The screaming went on for several minutes while I was walking to the crosswalk, waiting there, and then crossing the intersection, and all of the people nearby had their eyes on us.

And the funny part is that I was just walking 5 min to get a cup of coffee. I took a 3-min Uber ride home because I was very scared that I’d run into him again.

For anyone who lives in NYC, has this ever happened to you? I’m afraid to use my bag again for fear that I’ll put myself in an unsafe situation or be berated by someone else. This occurred in West Village, which I’ve always thought of as a nice neighborhood.

If this should happen to anyone, just cross the street , don't look back at that person & if you can
tuck into a building or coffee shop, if you feel that unsafe or until that person is out of your path.
I would not be afraid to use your bag, you don't know what set this person off & the West Village
is a nice neighborhood.
There are people on the best streets all over the world that scream, carry on etc..
Just try to avoid as best as you can by walking away.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

The best way to survive in NYC is to ignore the ravings of the mentally ill/ deranged.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

I’ve gotten negative comments about my jewelry, but not about my purses. I always reply: “Then it’s fortunate that I have it and you don’t.”

 

[bisousx]

I’ve gotten negative comments about my jewelry, but not about my purses. I always reply: “Then it’s fortunate that I have it and you don’t.”

I’ve never used this line, but one day I may have the courage to!

 

[CMilly]

Since we're talking about behaviors in a few other threads, I want to share mine. Very recently, a female friend of DH, who is known for being passive aggressive, was chatting with DH and, out of the blue she said, "Dude, your wife has so many bags!" DH's response, "No, only Hermes bags, she sold her other ones. So?" to which she said, "Those are the most expensive! Aren't you concerned about her spending?"

For context - DH is cool with all my purchases. We are married but decided to have separate finances. We both make enough (dare I say, I make more) for our family of three to be able to live comfortably while still saving and spending on things we like without thinking too much about it. Also, spoiler alert: *gasp* I actually paid for the H purchases myself.

I really would love to confront her because I'm not passive aggressive, I'm just aggressive , but I probably should just let it go. However, if the opportunity ever presents itself I would tell her that it's the equivalent of me telling her DH that I thinks she eats WAY too much (truth), and isn't he concerned about how much she eats?

Okay, rant over. Thank you for listening.

It’s just not her business. If it were me, I would say our finances are not your concern and I would appreciate if you don’t raise it again. You don’t need to explain or justify anything to her. Would she like it if you asked about her spending?!

 

[Mali_]

The best way to survive in NYC is to ignore the ravings of the mentally ill/ deranged.

I LOL’ed at this one. I don’t live there now but I was born in the City and that’s like the first thing anyone tells you.
Don’t engage, mind your own business, keep it movin’.

 

[Mali_]

I’ve gotten negative comments about my jewelry, but not about my purses. I always reply: “Then it’s fortunate that I have it and you don’t.”

You are really cracking me up. Too funny. They tend to ask me “is this/that/ these/those real” w/r/t jewelry to which I always lied and said no because I didn’t want to get robbed. But that was then, it’s a much better situation now. Surprisingly no one ever asks about the authenticity of my H bags just a lot of “how do you get/why do you have so many?” Umm...because I really like them.

 

[Daosabao]

Yes of course... you can't muzzle other people's mouths but we can control our reactions. Once I was in an elevator with my birkin and 2 women just stopped to glance at me and 1 remarked to the other 'the economy must be so bad now that it is so easy to get a bag from the store these days'. I was really surprised because it was such an outright sour remark that I kinda felt sorry for that poor grape. I just got off my level and walked away because the best thing to do is to ignore such people

 

[jacyh]

I’ve gotten negative comments about my jewelry, but not about my purses. I always reply: “Then it’s fortunate that I have it and you don’t.”

I remember when I was fortunate enough to inherit a B30 from my mother and one of the girls I worked with commented that she didn’t like the Birkin because “it’s such an old lady bag”... I wish I was fast enough to come up with this line!

 

[smileygirl]

I have a recent one to share from a slightly different angle.

I was recently in the store to purchase one of the cashmere jackets that I have shared in this forum. I’m trying it on and chatting with the SA. An older customer comes in, and tries on another coat which I also thought was quite nice, and then she gasps about poor hemming on the Coat that she’s trying on (I agree it wasn’t very good), and demands to see the tailor and then quite loudly just keeps bashing the coat and how it’s not like it’s a Dior/Chanel where she accepts such quality.... she goes on and on about how she’s been shopping with the brand for 30 years and how there has been decrease in quality. She was quite loud and it’s a small store with few customers at the time. And then, as I’m about to pay for my coat, she points to it and says like look at that? It’s not even Hermes style and copied from Armani. And look at the hem on that coat (I thought it was fine), how can anyone buy that? She added that she doesn’t just buy H for the sake of buying H. I was pretty much right next to her when she was saying this and am like ??? She then asked the poor tailor if he agreed and kept badgering the poor man who Just didn’t know what to say. My SA and I were pretty mortified and she suggested we go to another section of the store... I was a pretty good sport about it and just chuckled - wow you guys have a tough job .... she rolled her eyes and just said lucky my clients aren’t like that.

I mean I get it, at these prices you have high expectations, but I think there’s no need to make a scene and offend other people and if you aren’t happy, then don’t buy it!

 

[Purse_Shoe_Lover]

I have a recent one to share from a slightly different angle.

I was recently in the store to purchase one of the cashmere jackets that I have shared in this forum. I’m trying it on and chatting with the SA. An older customer comes in, and tries on another coat which I also thought was quite nice, and then she gasps about poor hemming on the Coat that she’s trying on (I agree it wasn’t very good), and demands to see the tailor and then quite loudly just keeps bashing the coat and how it’s not like it’s a Dior/Chanel where she accepts such quality.... she goes on and on about how she’s been shopping with the brand for 30 years and how there has been decrease in quality. She was quite loud and it’s a small store with few customers at the time. And then, as I’m about to pay for my coat, she points to it and says like look at that? It’s not even Hermes style and copied from Armani. And look at the hem on that coat (I thought it was fine), how can anyone buy that? She added that she doesn’t just buy H for the sake of buying H. I was pretty much right next to her when she was saying this and am like ??? She then asked the poor tailor if he agreed and kept badgering the poor man who Just didn’t know what to say. My SA and I were pretty mortified and she suggested we go to another section of the store... I was a pretty good sport about it and just chuckled - wow you guys have a tough job .... she rolled her eyes and just said lucky my clients aren’t like that.

I mean I get it, at these prices you have high expectations, but I think there’s no need to make a scene and offend other people and if you aren’t happy, then don’t buy it!

I don’t understand people like that, exactly as you said- if you don’t like it don’t buy it!!

 

[Purseloco]

I know. She’s the type that would not say anything to your face but then talk sh*t about you to a mutual friend. I know something was up when she posted all these pics of the meal she had with us at this super trendy restaurant, then pinged us after the meal saying how much she hated it. It’s almost like she wanted to post the pics to show she actually went there. I can absolutely see her playing the victim as you said.

I know - I don’t think I would tell the husband about her obsessive eating habit but if she makes another comment about my Hermes goodies I will talk to her straight up.

I would cross her off my bucket list.

 

[336]

This happened to me yesterday! I'd been reading this thread for years (I have been here a while lol) and thankfully never had to experience this until yesterday, when a colleague made a snarky comment about one of my bags in a team meeting, "well we all know where she goes on her lunch break, to spend thousands of dollars on salad bowls and ugly plates"

 

[Rouge H]

This happened to me yesterday! I'd been reading this thread for years (I have been here a while lol) and thankfully never had to experience this until yesterday, when a colleague made a snarky comment about one of my bags in a team meeting, "well we all know where she goes on her lunch break, to spend thousands of dollars on salad bowls and ugly plates"

WOW- so she does know what a salad bowl and ugly plates are? Jealous aren’t we not to mention way out of line.