I need some advice on this Tiffany ring and situation please

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#32
That's sad. She's unworthy of the ring and the bracelet, and frankly, unworthy of you as well. Return the ring, and the bracelet if its in your hands, and let that be done with. Grieve the hurt and find a worthy girl!
 
#38
I'm so sorry you're going through this. But am I the only one who thought the outcome was completely obvious? When you hint to a girl that you have feelings for her and her response is a giggle, act awkward, and an "oh silly boy" you, it's quite clear that she's trying to avoid hurting your feelings and bluntly turning you down. She sounds like she knows how you feel and wants to remain friends and doesn't mind the free gifts but has no intention of it being anything more ever. I would return the ring and any other gifts that you bought her and then get some distance from her for a while because she's clearly not at the same place as you are and probably never will be.
 
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acrowcounted said:
I'm so sorry you're going through this. But am I the only one who thought the outcome was completely obvious? When you hint to a girl that you have feelings for her and her response is a giggle, act awkward, and an "oh silly boy" you, it's quite clear that she's trying to avoid hurting your feelings and bluntly turning you down. She sounds like she knows how you feel and wants to remain friends and doesn't mind the free gifts but has no intention of it being anything more ever. I would return the ring and any other gifts that you bought her and then get some distance from her for a while because she's clearly not at the same place as you are and probably never will be.
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#40
I'm sorry she didn't share your feelings for her. And I'm really shocked she would take your gift when it became clear what you intended it to mean; shame on her. However, in the future, try to understand that gifts are not how you win over women or create relationships.
 
#41
vintagefinds said:
I'm sorry she didn't share your feelings for her. And I'm really shocked she would take your gift when it became clear what you intended it to mean; shame on her. However, in the future, try to understand that gifts are not how you win over women or create relationships.
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Isn't it kind to treat someone you like generously? I mean I can be a jerk too, and not give a **** about anything like most guys my age. Just sleep with her and kick her to he curb!?!
 
#42
I'm glad you found out before giving her the birthday ring. To be honest, she doesn't sound like such a great friend either. If you have made albeit softer romantic gestures that she didn't take seriously because she wasn't interested, I don't think she should have accepted your gifts, especially jewelry. That statement she made at lunch just irks me...your giving jewelry and a valentines day card was clearly aimed at wanting to take the relationship to the next level. Her accepting the bracelet and then telling you she's going to wear it out with another guy for valentines is just throwing it back in your face. Sounds like she just wants the attention and doesn't mind the free gifts.

I say lesson learned, and stop the gravy train. You sound like a really sweet guy that deserves a girl way more considerate and worthy of you than she is.

Blessing in disguise I say!
 
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*NYC Princess* said:
I'm glad you found out before giving her the birthday ring. To be honest, she doesn't sound like such a great friend either. If you have made albeit softer romantic gestures that she didn't take seriously because she wasn't interested, I don't think she should have accepted your gifts, especially jewelry. That statement she made at lunch just irks me...your giving jewelry and a valentines day card was clearly aimed at wanting to take the relationship to the next level. Her accepting the bracelet and then telling you she's going to wear it out with another guy for valentines is just throwing it back in your face. Sounds like she just wants the attention and doesn't mind the free gifts.

I say lesson learned, and stop the gravy train. You sound like a really sweet guy that deserves a girl way more considerate and worthy of you than she is.

Blessing in disguise I say!
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I am also shocked that she took the bracelet, and then making a hurtful comment when it had to be obvious (if it wasn't already the last time) without formally addressing the situation.

Your intended gift has to be one of the most beautiful rings I have ever seen. I hope that you are able to return it easily - if you haven't already and I've missed it in the thread :p

You always deserve someone who has a basic set of values, and in my opinion based on the situations you have described, you deserve better than someone who cannot take a few moments to be real with you and spare your feelings by not mentioning a date.

I wish you the best of luck going forward though...and strength.
 
#45
dude, i'm sorry she didn't feel the same way. you seem like a great catch. i'd definitely nix the ring for the b-day. it's stunning but...yeah, not gonna happen. especially if she mentions a date after you give her such a stunning bracelet for a v-day gift, lunch, talk, etc. that might not have been the most classy or appropriate thing for her to say to you at that moment in time, as i'm sure at least a small part of her must've sensed you liked her a tad more than complete and utterly platonic friends who enjoy gifting sessions. But I digress..

keep on keepin' on, still gift stuff to each other if need be, but maybe on a lesser scale for now? JMHO on that. good luck in finding a lady who will love you back just as much in the future! =)
 
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