I am saying this figuratively. If she does try to come to me as a friend, I want no part of hearing about why this wonderful guy who waits tables and smells like a dinner menu turned out to be ignorant and careless and then decided to move on arbitrarily. It's not my business. For all I care, she can go find that advice elsewhere. -Nate
I need some advice on this Tiffany ring and situation please
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I am saying this figuratively. If she does try to come to me as a friend, I want no part of hearing about why this wonderful guy who waits tables and smells like a dinner menu turned out to be ignorant and careless and then decided to move on arbitrarily. It's not my business. For all I care, she can go find that advice elsewhere. -Nate
It's classic. I saw it coming a few pages ago, hoped I was wrong. I was not wrong.
"She's perfect and amazing and has flawless skin and amazing smelling hair!"
"Wait, no, she's a user and a *****!"
"Every guy but me is just going to screw her and toss her to the curb! Those are her only two choices."
"I'm the one "good guy" in the pack. And, heck, she deserves to be used if she chooses anyone but me."
I have been here. I have had this guy in my life. This woman is possibly like me, naive and stupid, and thinks she is being a good person and doing him a favor by being friends. She may not realize the damage she is doing.
Ever heard of Borderline Personality Disorder?
So she's gone from being the object of your worship to being "a ***** and a user"? That's hardly "courteous and respectful."
You're going to have many women not interested in you. It's part of life. This doesn't make them awful. It either means you're simply not compatible, or that there's something in you women see and run like hell.
Here's the truth: if a woman likes you--finds you kind, funny, smart, hard-working--you don't need to buy her anything. Women can't be bought. If she doesn't like you, no amount of gifts will change her mind.
She's indicated through completely obvious signs that she thinks of you as only friend material. Either you want to be her friend, or you don't. If not, let her know, and then leave her alone.
So she's gone from being the object of your worship to being "a ***** and a user"? That's hardly "courteous and respectful."
You're going to have many women not interested in you. It's part of life. This doesn't make them awful. It either means you're simply not compatible, or that there's something in you women see and run like hell.
Here's the truth: if a woman likes you--finds you kind, funny, smart, hard-working--you don't need to buy her anything. Women can't be bought. If she doesn't like you, no amount of gifts will change her mind.
She's indicated through completely obvious signs that she thinks of you as only friend material. Either you want to be her friend, or you don't. If not, let her know, and then leave her alone.
Im sorry but I find this a little disturbing - if its meant the way it seems; you shouldn't be friends with someone because you think you're doing them a favour and you definitely shouldn't take any gifts if that is the case. If someone doesn't click with you, be polite to the point of acquaintance rather than asking them to lunch etc.
And perhaps a guy being messed around by a lifelong friend is allowed to have strong emotions upon being rebuffed? Its very difficult to come across well in text format at that time - for anyone. No-one is going to write everything they would say in a conversation and tone is hard to convey, I think we should just cut guys slack in situations like this on a forum is all.
It can be difficult when you are dealing with someone who have known since childhood. Not to mention, they work together. These lunches could be work lunches. Nice people will generally feel obligated to be nice to others, even if they find them a bit off, and doubly so if it's a childhood friend. It might not be the case that she's leading him on, but rather that he's wildly interpreting the scope of their relationship. She has let him down gently seemingly a number of times. He chased her anyway, and now he gets slack to call her names because of his "strong emotions?"
Possible reasons she went to those lunches:
She felt sorry for you, as I'm guessing most people do;
She thought you were a real friend, and not someone who'd call her a ***** and a whore.
Either way, leave her alone. Find a new job. And ask yourself what it is that leads women to not want you.
She felt sorry for you, as I'm guessing most people do;
She thought you were a real friend, and not someone who'd call her a ***** and a whore.
Either way, leave her alone. Find a new job. And ask yourself what it is that leads women to not want you.
Oh yeah I'm just running with your advice.
she's a *****. That's all. I cannot wait to make her miserable at work tomorrow. She should learn her lesson am needs an attitude adjustment. Just because your so pretty doesn't mean you get your way.
God. I want to find this girl and give her a high-five and an all-day ticket to the spa for being able to shake off the likes of you. And frankly, I'm sure that that guy that "smells like a dinner menu", as you so kindly put, will make her a heck of a lot happier than you and your misogynistic tendencies ever could.
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