I just want to make sure you don't get heartbroken! I would suggest you two be alone with you give it to her, if you go through with it, and tell her your thoughts. Hopefully she takes you seriously, and doesn't laugh and walk off like in the past. Prepare yourself though, for what could happen.
I need some advice on this Tiffany ring and situation please
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hahah jk i'm sure she will looooove it!! It's a very serious gift so hopefully it works out really well for you This is an incredibly extravagant gift, usually exchanged between people who are dating. I'm not exactly sure what you are trying to say with this, but it comes across a little as if you are buying her affection. You say you have showered her with gifts, flowers, etc and she still doesn't get the hint, but I find that hard to believe. I think the time is now to step up and seriously tell her how you feel, preferably when it's just the two of you and preferably leave out this gift. You can take her out for a simple dinner (or make dinner yourself) and then over desserts, tell her your feelings.
This is just my take, without knowing the specifics of your relationship.
Best of luck to you, whatever you decide to do!
This is just my take, without knowing the specifics of your relationship.
Best of luck to you, whatever you decide to do!
The ring is beautiful and not at all engagement looking. That said, I think it's just knowing what the happy "middle ground" is. You don't want to come on too strong and scare her off yet you want to show her that you have feelings. It's a tough call. No one here knows the types of gifts that you are accustomed to giving each other. This one is an incredibly generous gift. I wonder if there is something else you could gift her that still shows your interest and at the same time, write her a poem or letter to let her know your feelings for her are more than platonic. Most girls love that kind of show of romanticism. Then, if the feelings aren't mutual, you ego and heart may be bruised but your wallet won't be
.. Hope that helps you- good luck and keep us posted.
This is an incredibly extravagant gift, usually exchanged between people who are dating. I'm not exactly sure what you are trying to say with this, but it comes across a little as if you are buying her affection. You say you have showered her with gifts, flowers, etc and she still doesn't get the hint, but I find that hard to believe. I think the time is now to step up and seriously tell her how you feel, preferably when it's just the two of you and preferably leave out this gift. You can take her out for a simple dinner (or make dinner yourself) and then over desserts, tell her your feelings.
This is just my take, without knowing the specifics of your relationship.
I really like both of these pieces of advice...worth serious consideration. I would not give her the gift til you've had "the talk".
I think the ring is lovely and not engagement-y at all. I had a best friend growing up who was a guy. We would often give each other FANTASTIC gifts during our 20s when we were both single. I have some great David Yurman jewelry from him. Anyway, we are both married to other people now, and we are still great friends- obviously we do not do gifts like this anymore, but during our early 20s it was great. I do not think either of us ever had feelings for the other though, so it was a different situation in that respect.
Well the ring is gorgeous, first of all.
But I would be uncomfortable receiving something so extravagant from a platonic male friend (and I have a very close male friend). I don't think this is a "normal" gift for a friend to give. I would have the talk first. I think what you're doing isn't working, and you need to be direct about your feelings and stop beating around the bush.
But I would be uncomfortable receiving something so extravagant from a platonic male friend (and I have a very close male friend). I don't think this is a "normal" gift for a friend to give. I would have the talk first. I think what you're doing isn't working, and you need to be direct about your feelings and stop beating around the bush.
Trust me, you don't want me to begin to write a poem. You're talking to someone who pretty much daydreamed his way through AP Literature.
Thanks for all the advice, it's greatly appreciated. Seriously.
Ive invited her to dinner tonight for Valentine's Day, along with a couple of her friends so it doesn't seem romantic. I have a valentines day gift for her, no flowers, along with a really ornate card. I just want to see how receptive she is to this. Then I'll know whether to scratch the birthday gift and change it or not.
Ive invited her to dinner tonight for Valentine's Day, along with a couple of her friends so it doesn't seem romantic. I have a valentines day gift for her, no flowers, along with a really ornate card. I just want to see how receptive she is to this. Then I'll know whether to scratch the birthday gift and change it or not.
this is an incredibly extravagant gift, usually exchanged between people who are dating. I'm not exactly sure what you are trying to say with this, but it comes across a little as if you are buying her affection. You say you have showered her with gifts, flowers, etc and she still doesn't get the hint, but i find that hard to believe. I think the time is now to step up and seriously tell her how you feel, preferably when it's just the two of you and preferably leave out this gift. You can take her out for a simple dinner (or make dinner yourself) and then over desserts, tell her your feelings.
This is just my take, without knowing the specifics of your relationship.
+1
Before I go cry on my desk at work tomorrow morning, I wanted to briefly say what happened at this awkward and screwed up lunch since it's the polite thing to respond to others.
To leave out the details, her response to what I said to her was "yes we should definitely hang out more I just adore you" followed by her teasing giggles and look that just read "poor boy I know you're desperate"
And if that wasn't even enough, she had to mention that the bracelet would compliment her outfit perfectly well tonight - when she goes out on her Valentine's day date - wait a minute, she said date? Oh yeah a fellow med school guy she met through a friend.So he gets to see her beautiful self in her outfit, and MY bracelet, and they are both med school students, and I'm sure he's probably way better looking and I get to sit at home thinking about what she looks like!?! Yes, you'll find me sobbing in the corner.
To leave out the details, her response to what I said to her was "yes we should definitely hang out more I just adore you" followed by her teasing giggles and look that just read "poor boy I know you're desperate"
And if that wasn't even enough, she had to mention that the bracelet would compliment her outfit perfectly well tonight - when she goes out on her Valentine's day date - wait a minute, she said date? Oh yeah a fellow med school guy she met through a friend.So he gets to see her beautiful self in her outfit, and MY bracelet, and they are both med school students, and I'm sure he's probably way better looking and I get to sit at home thinking about what she looks like!?! Yes, you'll find me sobbing in the corner.
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Sorry to hear that. I hope you find a special girl who really deserves a gorgeous Tiffany ring.
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