How long should I let this go on?
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I think if you sent a wire transfer on the 27 and it was posted into her account on the 28th, wow, you should have had that bag at the beginning of this month.. I wonder what the hold up was on her sending? But she said 'the bag was in transit' when you contacted her. That is what is confusing me. Was the bag being shipped to her to be sent to you so she must return the bag before wiring you back your money?
According to her emails, the bag was in Asia, and she was having it sent to the US...and then to me. But, there has been plenty of time for that. I just sent another email, asking her to confirm that she is going to wire the money to me. I guess what I will have to do, is tell her that if the money isn't wired back to me by the beginning of next week, I will have no other choice but to report it to the police department. I really don't want it to get to that point. But, I really don't know what else to do. I don't want to put her ID out there just yet. I don't want to make business hard for her...I just want her to make this right.
I have a hard time with the fact that resellers might have never seen or touched the bag and they are being shipped sight unseen. how do you really know???? I refuse to buy that way.
wow, golden's mom, when you said it had been "a few days" ... your patience is astounding, but this is not proper behavior from the seller at all 
At the very least she could be MUCH more prompt about communication and allaying your fears about the delay. Do write to her immediately and state firmly, as you considered doing, that you will report her to the PD if she does not wire the money back to you by the end of the week.
At the very least she could be MUCH more prompt about communication and allaying your fears about the delay. Do write to her immediately and state firmly, as you considered doing, that you will report her to the PD if she does not wire the money back to you by the end of the week.
Is it possible that she already wired the money to Asia, and she is waiting for it to be wired back to her and then to you?
BTW I am really sorry that you are going through this, I am just looking for reasons that there could be a hold up with the funds.
BTW I am really sorry that you are going through this, I am just looking for reasons that there could be a hold up with the funds.
I'm not certain what the hold up is. If she would email me, and tell me that she has to wait until she receives a refund, or whatever, then at least I would have some information. When I first agreed to purchase the bag, she indicated that several other people were also interested. Now, I wonder if that was a game, or has she sold it to more than one person. I don't want to send too nasty and email, I don't want to put her on the defensive. But, I've put an email in my "draft" folder...advising her that I need to know the status, or I will be forced to make a police complaint.
I'm sorry to hear about your ex and I'm sorry to hear about all this mess. I agree with others that you have waited long enough. I would write to her and let her know, as you said, that you need the details of her wire transfer to your bank account by the 15th - or some other date like that. I would also remind her that you have been trying to work with her under personally trying circumstances and you've been very fair to let her keep the deposit. I'd remind her that you got her name and know of her good reputation from TPF and that many of your TPF friends are concerned about you and additional stress on your at this time. Something like that which stops short of saying you are going to rat her out to every H bag buyer on the planet. That is for the FIRST em. If you continue having problems, I would definitely mention that you feel compelled to post of this experience on TPF to let others know of your experience.
You have been very fair and generous with her on the deposit issue and very fair and generous about the elapsed time. Now she needs to step it up!
I wouldn't mention the police just yet...don't want her to get her back up ... yet... as the primary goal is getting your $$ back.
If you'd like help wording a stern em, let me know and I'll be glad to give you some thoughts!
Good luck with all this!
You have been very fair and generous with her on the deposit issue and very fair and generous about the elapsed time. Now she needs to step it up!
I wouldn't mention the police just yet...don't want her to get her back up ... yet... as the primary goal is getting your $$ back.
If you'd like help wording a stern em, let me know and I'll be glad to give you some thoughts!
Good luck with all this!
We have similar issues on the Maltese forum that I am an admin. on. There is one group that wants all names given to protect others and then there is the other side that is concerned about not being able to hear both sides and ruining someone's reputation.
If she doesn't respond fairly soon, I do hope you will feel comfortable sharing the name as I don't think any of us want to put ourselves in this situation.
I sure hope you get this worked out. These types of situations can be so upsetting.
Oh dear...haze slowly clearing. Internet fraud isn't a police matter, it is federal and there is some sort of group like an Internet Fraud Squad that the feds have set up. Forget the name, but we could find it easily enough.
I obviously don't know the seller that you are dealing with, but it seems to me that if this individual makes a living (or at least a hefty amount of $$) selling H bags, the notion of you spreading the word would be an extremely powerful deterrent. Probably even more so than the cost of this one bag, given she has repeat sales. Just my take.
I obviously don't know the seller that you are dealing with, but it seems to me that if this individual makes a living (or at least a hefty amount of $$) selling H bags, the notion of you spreading the word would be an extremely powerful deterrent. Probably even more so than the cost of this one bag, given she has repeat sales. Just my take.
Wow I'm sorry this has happened to you.
You have been more than fair & patient. Its been over 2 weeks now.
She deserves to be exposed at this point. She isn't showing alot of concern for you.
You have been more than fair & patient. Its been over 2 weeks now.
She deserves to be exposed at this point. She isn't showing alot of concern for you.
Yes, I agree that this probably isn't a police matter. Golden's Mom .. in your letter to her you may want to say you will be "forced to take legal action" rather than "a police complaint." That way you can exercise whichever option is appropriate.
You know, I have been thinking about this whole ordeal today. I really am amazed that given your situation with the untimely passing of your ex that this seller didn't volunteer to send back ALL of your money, keep the bag and call it a day.....especially since they are considered a reputable seller. That would just be the right thing to do at a time like this. Something smells "fishy" to me....I am so sorry you are having to add this to your already full plate. I hope they come to their senses and soon!
Yes, I think the least she could do would be to give you back your money less transaction fees. There are so many H bags sold on Ebay every day that the issue of missing out on a sale is pretty much moot.
I hope she gives you some satisfaction soon! Good luck.
I hope she gives you some satisfaction soon! Good luck.