@Letter,
I have read your posts (#4,362 and 4,370) in this NYC thread. While I am not initiating or engaging in any of discussion threads anymore, I want to share my experiences and suggestions here. The primary purpose is to help you make an informed decision. Second, I hope other people (who are in similar situations like yours) find my responses helpful.
My story begins here -
I started my H journey in early August 2023. (Prior to August 2023, I only had multiple online purchases for my sister, etc. and I was very much ignorant about Hermes or any other luxury brands, etc.) I started from the Greenwich store in CT. The SA relationship was very much transactional (and with no good vibes) and I really wanted to get a B30 (noir/GHW) for my mom for her birthday (12/2023). So, I had a strict personal deadline to get the bag by November 2023 (since I would be flying to my home country in the end of November 2023 for entire December 2023). I did not like my SA in Greenwich and I felt that my SA was a racist. (Note: I am only speaking from my experiences.) Anyway, I asked my SA that I really want to get a B30 for my mom this year (i.e., 2023), and he ignored my request. Meanwhile, I went to Madison maison about 2-3 times to browse, etc. I met some of the SAs there and asked about how to score QBs, etc.
I also joined this Forum in August 2023, where I have gained lots of information. (As you may now know, some are very helpful, some are just pretentious, etc. But, I did get lots of great insight/information about Hermes from this Forum. So, I am trying to help others if I can.) Anyway, I clicked so well with the SA (who is now my current SA) in Madison, and she introduced me about Hermes so well (for 2 hours-ish in our very first meeting without any purchases). Beginning of September 2023, I switched the SA/store from Greenwich, CT to Madison, NYC. (My pre-spend in Greenwich was more than $5,000 [excluding 1 non-QB bag], but when I looked back, it was good sunk costs since I would have never got the B30 by the timeline I wanted anyway.) I also have not regretted switching the SAs/stores because Madison maison has a lot (I mean, A LOT!) more items across all departments. (The stock level in Greenwich store was very much like those of airports.)
When I considered switching stores, I also posted my inquiry on this Forum (under the "maintaining H relationship" thread, and many (if not all) responders said, "No." So, when I read your post, I actually had a different thought.
My recommendation: I would suggest that you go visit the Madison maison, and see if you can find an SA that you can work with. You don't have to buy anything (as I did not), but you can just browse and meet some SAs there. Explore if you like the environment, vibes, etc. You can then make a better decision on your own. I was also upfront and honest; I told the SA (who is now my SA) that, "Look... I don't know much about Birkin or Kelly bags... But, I really want to get a B30 noir/GHW for my mom this year. Are you able to help me with this?" My SA then promised me that she would help me get it.
So, what I want to say here is this: We share our experiences here, but you have to do this on your own and find your own way. In my case, switching a store was not a big deal.
[On a side note: I have also stopped by and browsed the Boston boutique and all of stores in NJ - I actually found some strong SAs who I can possibly work with if I ever switch again from Madison to elsewhere. The
key point here is that it's all about the relationship between you and your SA. Don't bother whether other people had to spend 5X to get a bag offered, etc. It's their stories, not yours. (I also don't care whether others "flex" to show off on here. lol)]
Now, let's move onto the 1:1 pre-spend level stories/rumors in Madison maison:
Most importantly,
the SA relationship beats the pre-spend. The 1:1 ratio is not impossible because it depends on the SA relationship. I got the B30/noir/GHW with a ratio of 0.92:1 in early November 2023. Then, I was away in December 2024. I had some small purchases in January-February 2024. In March 2024, I got a Kelly 42 and also placed a special order. (So, pre-spend was not a concern. It was more about the relationship with the SA and the brand overall.) My SA said that I will get a B35 this year and my pre-spend level will be about 1~2 : 1, depending on the leather type (e.g., Box). My SA also added that she will offer me a B25 or K25 (for my sister) if I don't get a B35 (for myself) of my desired specs this year. While only time will tell [whether I actually get it this year or not], my
conclusion is this: Pre-spend levels in Madison maison are reasonable and are not necessarily crazy (when compared to other stores) if and only if you have the right SA and you have healthy spending habits. Some TPFers will tell you these: "Madison has a lot of rich clients," "Madison is super competitive," "There are so many people who spend $60,000 a day in Madison," "I have VVVIP friends in Madison and said blah blah blah." I would never take these seriously because it's not your story (even if those so-called stories are true or not). It's really between you and the SA to get the QBs you really want.
Additional information that you wanted to know from Madison maison:
I asked my SA today about the questions you had. My SA said that it's "2 QBs a year per account." My SA explicitly told me that a married couple, for example, can get 4 QBs a year theoretically from Madison maison alone if each of them has an account. However, my SA also added that many clients get a 1 QB a year. (So, my understanding is that it's really up to the relationship with the SA...?)
Final side notes:
You have been repeatedly stated that Reddit is awful, etc. I think you may still be able to get good info from there as well. Some people (including myself) are no longer comfortable sharing info/experiences or posting questions on this Forum anymore. (I only ask questions to some of the TPFers privately via DMs when I have.) I found Reddit to be a bit better in some aspects when compared to this Forum. (So...don't hate Reddit too much, lol.) Ultimately, it's really YMMV, but I hope this helps you in making good decisions!