Thanks for this 880 - it’s really helpful. As to the VIPs you noted "relatively high spend", what does that translate to, annually, that is? Sorry to be so granular, but this is the only oasis of info.
some TPFers on this thread do not believe high spend is necessary at all. They insist that they are not VIPs, and they don’t spend much, and they get box and barenia QB offers, and SO offers, IDKH.
I do not have a wishlist. I have no desire to SO, bc I commissioned a bag by Duret.com once, and while I love it, I nearly had a nervous breakdown making the choices. I was 5X before my SA got a 25B gold sellier, phw, that he thought I would love. He did offer me several 30Bs (I accepted one and rejected the others) and other bags that I rejected before that 25B came in (I have a number of 28k/30B already). However, he is not a leather SA, and I understood that he also doesn’t get the same opportunities as a leather SA. In other words, he can only offer his clients what he is allotted himself.
One of my friends who gets very coveted offers spends at least quadruple or more? times what I spend. She isn’t limited to 2 QBs a year, and she gets multiple offers, including collectibles, the likes of which I will never get. (While I did get three QBs last year, two came from my FSH SA, one, in between the FSH offers, from Madison). My other friend who is a long standing regular at Wall Street, perhaps doesn’t spend as much as the first friend, but she is one of the top clients of that location for many many years and the SM really likes her. I am just making a rough guess, as I truly don’t have any idea. Perhaps someone else will chime in who is more knowledgeable.
ETA: i like to walk in and buy whatever it is that I fall in love with, that I will use, that I can afford. I don’t usually ask for stuff that isn’t in the store, mainly bc I hate looking at h.com or look books, so my SAs find me relatively easy to deal with. I also am not really interested in first floor stock except maybe as gifts. When I have to give scarves or CSGMs as gifts, I often let my SA pick bc I like his taste. (Having said that, several SAs from premier luxury brands —dior, chanel, Hermes, have indicated that they are not really as fond of helping walk in clients on the first floor). Not sure if that data point is useful to you or not, but I thought I would mention it. I am sure plenty of TPFers who adore scarves, CSGM, and fashion jewelry will disagree with me though. I can only speak as to my own experience or observations

I do agree with
@showgratitude, that SAs don’t want clients like client A lol
i also agree with
@showgratitude on another point. The SAs of my friends mentioned above know my friends love and use their items IRL. I think it’s important that your SA see that you appreciate the things your SA has helped you find.
ETA: my multiples, 5X, etc., exclude leather goods. In theory all spend counts in the US. Heck, in theory there is no requirement for any linked expenditures, but for ease of my calculation, I don’t count leather. My spend is mens RTW, womens RTW, some home, some jewelry and other categories. The shoe department of the old Madison was like a hot attic, so I dint buy many shoes, but that’s changing somewhat. I’ve gotten two QBs from my FSH SA with very little spend, and I surmise part of that is whether they see the potential for spend, but that is a guess. Mainly my FSH and Madison SAs really like chatting with my DH (So arguably that may be really how I get my offers and my 5X rising has nothing to do with it)
ETA: maybe it’s more accurate to say that the friends I mention spend without worrying about prespend. They just happen to genuinely like a lot of stuff and they can afford it. My apologies for the length of this post.