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MrsOwen3 said:
Hi Cafe,

I'm super busy today but find the RBF interesting. I have possessed this face since age 4 according to my parents and think that it inaccurately conveys my demeanor though I am not particularly friendly or outgoing either. I'm generally skeptical and guarded but not in an unpleasant way I don't think. I'm quite personable when it's the right situation.

I do find it to be unfairly ascribed to women only, the whole issue of men telling me to "smile" on command because they find my RBF difficult to deal with is an example of how I see it as feminist issue. Have any of us ever told a surly looking dude to give us a grin? When I was younger and the world was different I would occasionally make those men pay by bursting into tears and telling them some horrible tragic tale of loss and how could they demand that I smile in such a state. I like to think that they reconsidered the command in the future. Now I don't say anything at all but I don't smile and I have a fairly strong DFWM perimeter happening due to living in cities my whole life.

In my city there has been a public art movement about stopping the "smile" command and it seems to be having an impact on the younger community so that's great! Ok, must go back to the grind with my b!tch face on even though I'm in a good mood, tired but good.
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I actually did tell a guy in my staff to smile more, a few days ago.
He looked at me as if I was crazy. He was puzzled, and I didn't understand why. I didn't find anything strange in telling him. It was a genuine suggestion. He works in a front-facing role, and people perceive him as rude because he is always complaining and grumbling about things (this has nothing to do with his expression...).

I guess I live in my own little world.:-s
 
#14,747
Pbp, how much walking were you hoping to do with these? I would not be able to wear them, say for a day of sightseeing, or an 8.30 lineup at FSH. The hard leather soles, and the stiff uppers would hurt my feet.

I walk everywhere, often 5-10 miles a day, on urban pavement, so finding comfortable, urban stylish, non-sneaker options is an ongoing mission. Oddly enough, my Camper wedge sandals outperformed my Prada Sport ballerinas this summer. Flat/low-heel rubber soled boots are fabulous for winter, and I always keep my eyes peeled for suitable walking shoes for various seasons. I have also resorted to Teva Tirras for whole day urban walking - I love them so much, I'm on my second pair. (yes, so fashion forward and edgy, I know)

Any peeps have a favourite brand? I have not tried Taryn Rose - Cremel, thanks for the suggestion. My knees and back thank you.
 
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I swear by Tevas, too, Genie. My problem is oh-so-attractive bunions and feet covered in, apparently, tissue paper. Look at my feet cross-eyed and they blister. So my needs are less for support and more for nothing that could possibly rub. Short of buying shoes two sizes too big and wearing four pairs of socks (which, so far, I have refused to do) the Teva brand seems to be the least friction-y. But you're right, style and comfort are still hard to find in one shoe!
 
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MadMadCat said:
I actually did tell a guy in my staff to smile more, a few days ago.
He looked at me as if I was crazy. He was puzzled, and I didn't understand why. I didn't find anything strange in telling him. It was a genuine suggestion. He works in a front-facing role, and people perceive him as rude because he is always complaining and grumbling about things (this has nothing to do with his expression...).

I guess I live in my own little world.:-s
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That's a little different MMC, job performance depends on that attitude adjustment not just smiling more in that particular case.

I'm speaking of men standing on a street or walking by a woman who is unsmiling and they command her to smile because it suits them better. It matters not that the woman doesn't feel like smiling at them. It's a purely patronizing and somewhat degrading if you've had it happen quite a bit. It says to me "you must make yourself more attractive to me-a man-because you are an inferior woman whose sole purpose is for me to have something pleasant to look at and you are not a sentient being capable of having your own emotions or feelings" My favorite is when they follow it up with "what could be so bad?" I don't know dude, creeps like you harassing me on the street because you're deluded enough to think my smiling at you will matter.

Now if you told that guy to smile more because he would be more attractive to you, that's a different story. And one HR might have an issue with
 
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MadMadCat, of course it makes sense that someone interacting with clients should strive to appear pleasant. That goes for men and women. MrsO was referring to men telling women (not infrequently total strangers) to smile because, though the implication is usually tacit, women are more attractive and appealing when smiling, and being attractive and appealing to men is our, er, job. Now, you may indeed live in your own little world, which sounds rather nice, actually, but not just because you instructed an employee to stop scaring the customers!
 
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I'm really really bad ladies. I consider anything less than a 3 inch heel to be a good walking shoe. [emoji23] I used to wear higher heels nonstop. I never wore flats. I live in the suburbs now so my ever widening butt is always planted in a car and I don't do a lot of daily walking. For Paris where I walk 10-12 miles per day I will usually wear either ankle boots or ballet flat type shoes and block heels or kitten heels for evening. The problem is getting caught in the cobblestones more than anything for me. So I'll have to see what looks ok to me. If I can get a bit of comfort too even better. Yes I have developed terrible bunions but thank goodness they don't hurt. The bigger problem when I travel is that I swell up and develop Fred flintstone feet. Not attractive. But you guys would be horrified at what I consider walking shoes.
 
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I actually admire your stamina, PbP! I just can't do more than 2 1/2, and that's only for short periods. Please keep us posted on your shoe search; I know I would welcome your ideas and experiences.
 
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MadMadCat said:
All photos credit of the H website:

This is the pendant and I really like the dress, too.
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This is the gorgeous skirt that PPBP is considering, with the bracelet associated to the pendant
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and this is the dress I like
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Regarding the first two, I like the toffee/caramel color which seems to me to be a new directional color. In the 90's, color of the same color fam was more of a peanut or golden brown. And then peanut disappeared from the face of the earth. Peanut is a good neutral for light or golden brown hair. It also went well with gold scrolls and rococo effect of H scarves of that time, which may be a sign those motifs are coming back.

The length of the key necklace, the sautoir effect, is striking, I'd love to have the necklace myself. All the garments in the 3 photos are terrific. And the skirt, what a cool skirt! Love that stitching effect -- it's a rich detail that won't go out of style. The dress is a subtle color blocking -- its' understated color blocking is what makes it new. And it channels a patchwork effect which is of course retro. The dress looks fab with that bracelet. Is this from a new H designer, if so what is her name?
 
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Pocketbook Pup said:
Thank you for finding these! You are awesome. I really love the skirt. The SA at the rtw event at my local store was wearing one in brown from a past season and it was similar in shape to this black one. I think I like this even better than the pleated one. It's also probably less expensive. The pleated one with the silk was the most expensive skirt they had because of the workmanship involved. I also love the jewelry. Something to look forward to.
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I just posted to Mad Cat what I thought of the skirt and all.
 
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MadMadCat said:
you're too kind and too modest, Eagle! My necklaces are usually quite simple. I use natural stones almost exclusively, in multistrand or in very chunky necklaces.
It is a periodic activity for me. I go years without beading, and then all of a sudden I have the need to come up with something. It is directly related to my level of stress, beading helps me deal with difficult situation. It is my good place.

Ths is the Uno de 50 key necklace (credit to their website):
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I like their designs but I was told their piece would not tarnish...they do!
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You are absolutely right about beading relieving stress. I wrote but then deleted a comment that beading was excellent for curing migraines (for me) b/c of the sustained concentration it took for me to create a design -- interchangeable colors -- for a necklace. I have worked on necklaces for twelve hours and during that time, I can forget I have a migraine.
When I first got into beading I made numerous necklaces, some of which I sold to a lady in my building. I never charged her what I should have, given the cost of materials and my time investment. I just ran out and got more beads! Then one day she said to me in all seriousness that she should get the necklaces for free because we were friends. No more necklaces for her!!!! As I've gotten older I am much less interested in selling b/c some materials, not necessarily expensive, like agates or a focal bead might be in a striking cw and once they're gone, they're gone. I can't remake the necklace.
 
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MrsOwen3 said:
That's a little different MMC, job performance depends on that attitude adjustment not just smiling more in that particular case.

I'm speaking of men standing on a street or walking by a woman who is unsmiling and they command her to smile because it suits them better. It matters not that the woman doesn't feel like smiling at them. It's a purely patronizing and somewhat degrading if you've had it happen quite a bit. It says to me "you must make yourself more attractive to me-a man-because you are an inferior woman whose sole purpose is for me to have something pleasant to look at and you are not a sentient being capable of having your own emotions or feelings" My favorite is when they follow it up with "what could be so bad?" I don't know dude, creeps like you harassing me on the street because you're deluded enough to think my smiling at you will matter.

Now if you told that guy to smile more because he would be more attractive to you, that's a different story. And one HR might have an issue with
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oh, ok. I was thinking about comments like the ones addressed to Hillary *******, who many people say does not to smile often enough.
I usually don't even register what random guys on the street may say to me, but from the little I remember "you should smile more" would probably fall into one of the nicest category :smile:

A couple of years ago I was eating at the bar of a restaurant in DC, by myself. The guy sitting by my side started a conversation. He was a lobbyist for a big oil company in town for business, and he was drinking a very expensive bottle of wine on his own, so he offered some. After a bit of polite chatting he said "you're sweet". Up to that point the conversation was rather formal and that change of tone, going suddenly into personal, struck a nerve with me. I replied "I am not sweet, I am kind". Funny enough the guy stopped talking to me and left shortly after. I guess some guys think that "sweetness" in a woman is a prerequisite for conversations.... :biggrin:
 
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