ITA, all brilliant points.
Repeating to 2.
- Take emotion out of the communication. It’s not personal.
It is hard not to be emotional when something you have been looking forward does not meet expectations and the experience seems ruined. My advice is to take time out and get over the strong feelings. Take a minute, evening, day, and calm down before you start to write. For the best results, help people help you. It's hard to help someone in hysterics, think about the objective and act objectively.
Yes. This. I’m in my 60s. When I was younger, I processed things more emotionally. It did not always work out as I’d hoped. I’m trying to pass on some hard won wisdom here to the younger peeps on the forum.
If I’m involved in a difficult situation, I analyze it and ask myself, “What is the best possible outcome?“ Then work backwards, taking into account all aspects of the problem, including what is the other person’s or entity’s point of view — and likely actions.
Also, one of my best mantras is, “The world does not revolve around me.”