Family and Friends give you grief over your Handbag addiction?

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#76
I've bought 4 bags in the past month (which is a lot for me), and I've been rotating between these newer bags. I saw my father at dinner one week, and I was using my new Tano Maid in Form. Then a couple weeks later, I saw him again but was sporting my Not Rational Frankie.

Dad: That's a different purse than last time!
Me: Yeah.
Dad: You have a new bag each time I see you! (to DH) You'd better talk to your wife.
DH: Huh?
Dad: She keeps buying new handbags! You'd better talk to her! (implying that DH needs to curtail my spending)
DH: Uh, she bought it with her own money.... (we have separate "fun money" accounts, so each person can buy whatever they want without the other person's approval)
Dad: (who is honestly hard of hearing, and DH is a bit of a mumbler sometimes) Well, you'd better talk to her.
Me & DH: :rolleyes:

In my father's defense, my mother tends to be a little bit of a crazy shopper (i.e. is seriously addicted to buying random crap on sale -- doesn't matter if it's total crap as long as the discount is large), so he wants to make sure that I don't go down that same path. But, yeah, DH is quietly bemused/taken aback by my growning handbag collection; my mother is envious; and the rest of my family thinks that I'm nuts. :p
 
#77
My family used to think I was nuts....


But then I got them HOOKED on Designer handbags, and now they're as crazy as me, lol. They've got more $$$ bags than me now, lol.
 
#78
I'm open about the costs of my purchases to my family. They think it's insane to spend that much on a bag but each member in my family sort of collects something so I get a bit of understanding as well :)
 
#79
My bf doesn't really understand my obsession, but he's getting better with time..especially when he sees that I sell some of them off to fund other purchases instead of just shelling out more and more money haha
 
#80
Everyone is crazy in their own way- this is mine! I have purchased about 5 bags on the past 4 months so I think I will be on a ban for a while as my DH says in obsessed! Gotta prove him wrong I guess, and keep him happy!!! (Also he keeps hinting that if we have another baby I can have all the expensive bags I want- and that just ain't gonn happen) He thinks its strange to spend that much on a bag but he realizes that there are things that he likes to spend money on as well.
 
#82
I´ve been crazy about bags as long as i can remember, and who taught me??? My mom of course, she had a closet full of bags AND shoes to go with every bag. She loves to see my bags when she visits. As for my husband...well he´s getting interested too and has bought a few of his own...obviously i trained him well! :wlae:
 
#83
I think it's just that people have different priorities. I have no problem spending $1000 (or more if I can) on a purse, but I pack a lunch on a regular basis and will not valet unless I really, really have to. I have friends who don't have an issue paying for valet at the mall, but think my purse tastes are extravagant. So, just different vices.
 
#84
My mom also instilled in me an appreciation for nice bags.

As for the hubby, he hardly notices them. I use my own money (not his or OURS) cause I work myself and he rarely notices if I have a new bag. This weekend, I happened to see one when we were together, and he bought it for me (a neat little coach). I immediately bought him a sweater and shirt, which cost the same thing, anyway, but it was the gesture of support that was important. And then later, when we were out to dinner he said, "hon, that's actually a pretty neat looking bag, I have to admit it". From him, who cares so little about bags, that's a huge compliment. :)
 
#86
I just don't talk about it with my parents any more. I always bring the same bag with me when I go see them. They value spending $ on their house more. So they just don't get it.

Urm... as for BF? I never lie to him (or creatively round as he likes to call it) about how much a bag costs or how many I've gotten. He tries to understand and he humors me, but he just doesn't get it. But he does try.

Here's the part where he thinks I'm crazy:

I'm not really a jewlery kinda girl. Never have been, probably never will be. I do love bags though (duh, why else would I be here?) and so I told him (as we were ring shopping) "Why don't you skip the ring and buy me an engagement *bag!* I'd get so much more use out of it and it's much cheaper than a ring." He didn't think that was a good idea. Well, actually he first said "would I have to buy you a birkin?" and I said "no. A chanel bag would work." Then said it wasn't a good idea. Go figure. Haha.
 
#88
ijmoran said:
I think it's just that people have different priorities. I have no problem spending $1000 (or more if I can) on a purse, but I pack a lunch on a regular basis and will not valet unless I really, really have to. I have friends who don't have an issue paying for valet at the mall, but think my purse tastes are extravagant. So, just different vices.
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exactly! i feel the same way.. to me, an expensive great bag is worth the price. but then other things, like paying $5 for valet for example, is just not worth it to me so i'll be "cheap" in those ways.
 
#89
Yes, my family thinks I'm nuts. I get annoyed when I go somewhere and here "is that another new bag?" so it's gotten to the point where I try to carry bags they've already seen to family functions (I'm not ashamed of my bags, I just get sick of people making a fuss over them). I don't discuss prices with them, because, as far as I'm concerned, it's none of their business.

I would never hide a purchase from my boyfriend, and if he's dying to know the cost then I will tell him (but I don't say, "Hey, look at my new bag, I just paid $XXX for it!"). I display my bag proudly in our closet, and he knows about every single one of them. I would hate to feel like I had to hide them. It would make me feel very uncomfortable to have to go behind his back or be sneaky about it.
 
#90
My friends and my parents would always tell me to stop buying things that I don't really need like more bags, more shoes, more clothes etc. But I only tell them this:

"I'm a girl, they're bags/shoes/clothes. You do the math."

They just laugh at me and my purchases but I just laugh at them when I hear them borrowing some of my stuff. Hahahahaha. :D
 
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