Does wearing your bling make you feel more confident or more self-conscious?

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#46
Contessa said:
AntiqueShopper, engagements are meant to be enjoyed.
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Contessa is so right. I had a similar situation happen to me with a coworker who was 10+ years older than me. She made me feel horrible for being younger, getting engaged and having a ring.

I didn't talk to the coworker about the engagement or wedding planning since she was so insecure. But I wore the ring with pride. Wear it and they will get used to it!

I don't wear a ton of jewelery and my e-ring is modest enough (under 1.5) so it doesn't grab too much attention. Typically I pick one area to highlight - ears, neck or arm. It seems to work fairly well. I don't wear too many diamonds. I get a fair amount of compliments from women and no stares.

Jewelry definitely makes me feel more polished. I love expanding my collection. :graucho:
 
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#47
for me, it depends on the situation. for example, I used to work with a very trailer-trash kind of woman. so sometimes if I wanted to intimidate her or put her in her place, I'd wear the "big guns" if I knew we would be in a meeting together. on occasion, however, it would backfire because she would grab my hand & oogle my rings then inevitably ask if the jewelry was real. I would jump in & either give details about the stone or change the subject...I knew what was coming next: how much? ugh...

if I'm going to be in a low-key situation, or somewhere that I think I might be asked rude questions, or around people who might become jealous, I tend to wear little to no jewelry. when I feel that I'm in a situation with my "peers," I'm perfectly comfortable to wear whatever jewelry I want. I definitely do wear jewelry to boost my self-confidence in situations like shopping in high-end stores, meeting with new or potential clients, & meeting with my superiors.
 
#48
I HATE the "how much" grr I used to work with a bounch of younger girls (18-21 age) and it was "How much,How much" with everything! My jewelry down to my socks! LOL And the "Oh I wish I could be as lucky as you are.. blah blah blah" And not the nice kind, it was very snide. Thankfully I don't see them anymore!
 
#50
I just don't think some younger girls know better, especially if they've never gone diamond shopping and they don't understand that it's not only carat that affects price.

My "crazy" friend popped into my work to chat and she said that her sister was disappointed that her now- FI didn't propose with a 3 carat solitaire and that her center stone was kind of yellow. I don't think the sister realizes how much a white 3 carat with good clarity really costs. My crazy friend asked casually if my center stone was 2 cts, and I told her that it was a little over one but that color, clarity and cut will make a stone look bigger when the time comes that she and her BF start looking for a ring...

Now, having middle aged and married for 20 years people ask about cost... That's uncomfortable! After a certain point, you have an idea range on price!
 
#51
No. My DH is the one noticed its sparkling every time we go shopping :p

Like and wear ! it is not mean you cover in expensive stuffs and you are class ! which, to me, some people may think it's called confident.
 
#52
I think age has nothing to do with rudeness(asking the cost or asking if its real). It is all about how you were raised and how much real VS fake jewelry you have seen. I am 19 and have been raised by a mother who always has on jewelry and it is never costume jewelry. Consequently, I am like her. I would NEVER ask about cost or if something was real because I know its rude.

Now back to the question. I get self conscious wearing diamond jewelry because I know people will judge me and think its fake because I am 19. Either that or they'll think I am wearing jewelry that I cant afford or heaven forbid think I stole it. But I am proud to wear my gold jewelry and don't get self conscious about that. Surprisingly, I have gotten the most comments on a pair of earrings that my mother gave me from London- plain Gold horseshoe earrings. And I have received no compliments on my new diamond studs...everyone probably thinks their fake!
 
#53
rengb6 said:
I think age has nothing to do with rudeness(asking the cost or asking if its real). It is all about how you were raised and how much real VS fake jewelry you have seen. I am 19 and have been raised by a mother who always has on jewelry and it is never costume jewelry. Consequently, I am like her. I would NEVER ask about cost or if something was real because I know its rude.

Now back to the question. I get self conscious wearing diamond jewelry because I know people will judge me and think its fake because I am 19. Either that or they'll think I am wearing jewelry that I cant afford or heaven forbid think I stole it. But I am proud to wear my gold jewelry and don't get self conscious about that. Surprisingly, I have gotten the most comments on a pair of earrings that my mother gave me from London- plain Gold horseshoe earrings. And I have received no compliments on my new diamond studs...everyone probably thinks their fake!
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I couldn't agree more. I have never or would never ask someone for the cost of their jewelry unless they were related to me or 1 of my 3 closest friends...even then, we'd have to be very very very close (& I'd only ask if I was interested in buying something similar). I've had women of all ages make inappropriate comments or ask rude questions about my jewelry. I try to remember my mom's wise advice: respond to inappropriate questions with "why do you ask?" gets them every time...
 
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frick&frack said:
I couldn't agree more. I have never or would never ask someone for the cost of their jewelry unless they were related to me or 1 of my 3 closest friends...even then, we'd have to be very very very close (& I'd only ask if I was interested in buying something similar). I've had women of all ages make inappropriate comments or ask rude questions about my jewelry. I try to remember my mom's wise advice: respond to inappropriate questions with "why do you ask?" gets them every time...
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I agree with this. Age doesn't seem to have anything to do with it. I know my DH and I look young for our ages and I have been asked (by older strangers) if my wedding set/handbags/whatever are fake. I'm usually too shocked to even respond with anything more than "no!".
I will disclose how much things cost to my family if they ask, but don't really want to share with others (unless they ask and it is really helpful to them to know). One of my friends (who I am not that close to) thought it was appropriate to ask where my rings were from, how much they cost, and how much DH makes! I know she wasn't trying to be rude, but still...Sometimes I just don't understand how people can ask such things!
 
#55
rengb6 said:
I think age has nothing to do with rudeness(asking the cost or asking if its real). It is all about how you were raised and how much real VS fake jewelry you have seen. I am 19 and have been raised by a mother who always has on jewelry and it is never costume jewelry. Consequently, I am like her. I would NEVER ask about cost or if something was real because I know its rude.

Now back to the question. I get self conscious wearing diamond jewelry because I know people will judge me and think its fake because I am 19. Either that or they'll think I am wearing jewelry that I cant afford or heaven forbid think I stole it. But I am proud to wear my gold jewelry and don't get self conscious about that. Surprisingly, I have gotten the most comments on a pair of earrings that my mother gave me from London- plain Gold horseshoe earrings. And I have received no compliments on my new diamond studs...everyone probably thinks their fake!
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Spoken like a wise, intelligent, well-mannered, respectful young woman! I applaud you!

My belief is that manners are taught/learned at a very young age. It's near impossible to teach someone manners later on in life. Either you have them or you don't.

I think it's truly an "art" when one is able to retain who they are when dealing with someone rude or disrespectful. That is a challenge I face on a daily basis!
 
#56
Its kinda ridiculous for some women who have 2-3 carat stones/engagement rings to think that women with smaller 1-1.5 stones feel like their husbands love them less. Thats a pretty egotistical thing to think. A 2-3 carat stone can run you some serious money and not every man has $20k-$40K hanging around to spend on a diamond. To be honest sometimes people with bigger diamonds may even be trying to compensate for things missing in the relationship.
 
#57
It's not those women.
I'm a woman 3/ a 3+ carat ring and I don't say that to others and I'm also not missing something in my relationship ;)
It's usually guys or young or ignorant girls that say it. Like I said before, I think they say it w/o thinking. Last time I remember someone saying it to me was a single Starbucks barista. I sat down and told DH about the stupid comment I received and he said "he just wanted to talk to you, he didn't know it would sound so stupid I'm sure".
I get equally idiotic comment about my twins. People want to say something but I guess struggle for what to say{?} and out pops something stupid like "wow! Someone must really love you!" or when they ask if boy/girl twins are identical :weird:
 
#58
lol ^ I have to think this was geared to my post, I was just going to laugh and move on but I do want to make it very CLEAR that in my personal experience it has always been females with smaller engagement rings that make that stupid comment that someone MUST LOVES me!!! As I said before I know my husband LOVES me the same no matter what size ering he could/could not have given me!!!

And to your last comment I will not partake in because it's just plain stupid!
 
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