Does wearing your bling make you feel more confident or more self-conscious?

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#76
That site is so jacked up though. You have people bemoaning the fact that they somehow cannot afford a 5 ct upgrade from a 3ct stone because they fill the void buying other ludicrously expensive items, like 5ctw ear studs that would have assisted and the cost of said upgrade.

And then you have people who can't hardly afford the .4ct ring and are looking for ways to wow their intended recipient with that stone and want the best they can get and hope they won't disappoint.

The tone there certainly is upgrade upgrade upgrade at any cost to get the biggest most amazing h&a possible. It's ridiculous.
 
#77
ame said:
That site is so jacked up though. You have people bemoaning the fact that they somehow cannot afford a 5 ct upgrade from a 3ct stone because they fill the void buying other ludicrously expensive items, like 5ctw ear studs that would have assisted and the cost of said upgrade.

And then you have people who can't hardly afford the .4ct ring and are looking for ways to wow their intended recipient with that stone and want the best they can get and hope they won't disappoint.

The tone there certainly is upgrade upgrade upgrade at any cost to get the biggest most amazing h&a possible. It's ridiculous.
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Absolutely agree. Attitude galore.
 
#79
I think a lot could be solved by being tactfully vague on any forum where there is a large group of people with different incomes (and thus different sizes stones).

When one says 'larger stones' or 'smaller stones' there is no need to add a carat weight, in my opinion. Then most people will not get offended since they will just fill in their idea of 'large' or 'small' according to their social circle.

Of course, there are those who get offended in any case because they are over-sensitive and that can't be helped.

I think this forum is great which is why I have switched over from being elsewhere but I think it never hurts to be as tactful as possible.

That's the end of my 2cents.
 
#80
This is so sweet.
Best to you, alatrop

alatrop said:
I feel more confident. My engagement ring was honestly, my first piece of "real", nice jewelry and I love it. It looks good on my hand and I love the symbolism that, yes, I am taken, and yes, I am getting married. (not in a snotty way, but I feel very loved...we're in a long distance relationship right now since he moved for a new job and it's comforting to me since I don't see him much)
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#81
I feel confident with my e-ring when:
1/ I'm at dinner with my perfect hubby, staring at my perfect-to-me ring and thinking how lucky we are that we're together...
2/ Basically 90% of the time.

I feel self-conscious when:
1/ People paw at my ring and they JUST DON'T KNOW BETTER TO NEVER TOUCH THE DIAMONDS TABLE WITH THEIR GRUBBY FINGERS!!! My mother in law has the roughest touch and when she looks at my ring she thumbs it so hard! Like inspecting it as though she's checking if the diamonds will move! haha!
2/ People ask blatantly the price or the exact specs. Mind your own business! It's the perfect specs for ME!
3/ When I'm in a shady area...
4/ When I forget to wear it...I feel self-conscious because I feel NAKED without my ring.
5/ When idiot tactless girl friends say stuff like, "beautiful ring...my other friend has something like that --- but bigger." Haha. Cracks me up how rude people can be!
 
#82
onegirlcreative said:
omg, i just noticed your signature....you're getting married november 5, 2011??? that is our anniversary as well. this year we will be married november 5 for 16 years. eeek!!!

congrats!!! :yahoo:

sorry...:back2topic:
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Thank you! :ghi5: It's nice to hear someone else with the same day, some people think we're crazy for getting married in the late fall.
 
#83
Contessa said:
Spoken like a wise, intelligent, well-mannered, respectful young woman! I applaud you!

My belief is that manners are taught/learned at a very young age. It's near impossible to teach someone manners later on in life. Either you have them or you don't.

I think it's truly an "art" when one is able to retain who they are when dealing with someone rude or disrespectful. That is a challenge I face on a daily basis!
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The same with "class". I know a lot of wealthy people with absolutely no class and "regular" people oozing with class. Go figure...it's something in you that can't (as hard as some may try) be bought.
As far as feeling confident or self-conscience wearing my jewlery...I'm with Swanky...neither. I've worked my A$$ off and so have my husbands. I look at it like a reward for work well done. I give to charity and try to do good deeds towards others so no guilt...just enjoyment!!! :yahoo:
 
#84
At work today a lady was looking at my ring and said that it was really sparkly so I said thank you and she replied with "whats your husband do!?" in the way of saying wow he must me rich...than she went on stating how I look so young to be married..blah blah blah.... awkward!
 
#85
Swanky Mama Of Three said:
:back2topic: please. We're not comfortable discussing/gossiping about members on other forums. :-s
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Actually the only reason I made the point was I was trying to show the value of this forum. We might think specialty forums are better, but that is not necessarily the case! I really VALUE the opinions of the women here.

Back onto the topic though ;)
 
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merekat703 said:
At work today a lady was looking at my ring and said that it was really sparkly so I said thank you and she replied with "whats your husband do!?" in the way of saying wow he must me rich...than she went on stating how I look so young to be married..blah blah blah.... awkward!
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If someone asked me what my husband does, I'd have replied, "He adores me"
 
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