Does wearing your bling make you feel more confident or more self-conscious?

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#31
We will come on March!! I have some months ahead BUT since is my first visit after 2 pregnancies and 2 children I am planning and thinking many thinks in order to impress?? (not the apropriate word that I can think in English!). I would have love your granny!! You have as far as I have see some very, very beautiful jewelry!! :tup::tup::D
 
#32
Contessa said:
I find no matter how comfortable you feel or whether you possess that, "I could care less attitude", someone, somewhere, sometime will eventually pass judgement. It's just what people do. You can prevent it, people are just people. I've learned long ago that I cannot save the world, change people's attitudes or minds, or control their thoughts.

That being said, my work keeps me humble. I give a lot back to the community and people in general- I'm a sucker when it comes to helping others......occupational hazzard I suppose.

I don't ever feel guilty or self-conscious....on the contrary.....I'm proud to wear my jewellery, especially my wedding band, e-ring, and Anni band as it serves to be a vital symbol of the commitment to the greatest love of my life....my DH. I look at my hands everyday & remain very thankful for what I have.

By the way.......there are a select group of women here that have *bling* galore but are the kindest, most genuine, sincere, and thoughtful, caring individuals imaginable.

It's all in the way you carry yourself :smile1:
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Great post!

Wearing jewellery doesn't boost my confidence but I am more aware of my personal safety when I am in a less desirable part of the city.
 
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#33
I bet you will marvel the crowds! If I'm not mistaken you will be here for Easter right? Than you should definately bring the bling along since Easter holidays demand it :graucho:!
It's my only chance to wear a lot of pearls at once and red satin coats:laugh:. And thank you, my granny is a treasure!
 
#34
I usually only pull out my real bling for special occasions and wear only a few pieces during the work week so I have rarely found myself in a emotional situation (regarding jewelry). Having said that, I agree with Contessa: someone, somewhere will eventually pass judgment on your jewelry.

It's kind of sad but I think, to an extent, it comes with the territory. Nice things will sometimes get bad reactions but I wouldn't let it change what you wear if you really enjoy wearing it.
 
#35
AntiqueShopper said:
I know as you get older, these type of situations do get better. So, wear your Rolex in pride.

When it comes to my engagement ring (1 ct Tiffany classic), I think my friend was a little upset about the idea that I am engaged, and she is not anywhere near that point. I just felt self-conscious because, I did not want to be the reminder of something she does not have coming soon. I tried to hide my ring, but it was her who pointed it out and spoke of its sparkle. I try not to talk about my wedding to her (unless she brings it up). I just don't want her to feel bad.
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AntiqueShopper, engagements are meant to be enjoyed.

As soon as you stop feeling responsible for your friend's misery, things will change for the better....and she'll respect you more. Remember.....misery LOVES misery!

Enjoy and don't feel guilty. After all, why do you feel as though you have to downplay your happiness? I can bet if the situation were reversed, she'd be doing the exact opposite.
 
#36
Contessa said:
AntiqueShopper, engagements are meant to be enjoyed.

As soon as you stop feeling responsible for your friend's misery, things will change for the better....and she'll respect you more. Remember.....misery LOVES misery!

Enjoy and don't feel guilty. After all, why do you feel as though you have to downplay your happiness? I can bet if the situation were reversed, she'd be doing the exact opposite.
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i agree!!! :tup:

this is supposed to be a wonderful, exciting time in your life, and please don't let the single status of your friend deter you from enjoying that.

when i got married, my maid-of-honor was single (still is, actually) and honestly? she made my engagement and wedding preparation hell. she did absolutely nothing and complained about anything that was trying to be planned. thankfully, i didn't learn this until AFTER i was married (from my bridesmaids), so i was still able to enjoy my happy joyous time without her bringing me down.

i honestly think she thought we would be single together forever.

needless to say, we are no longer friends.

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#37
AntiqueShopper: engaments+Wedding = enjoy and fun for your close ones (like friends and relatives). If a good friend is jealous of your happiness and joy then she isn't a good friend at all. Although I know that we (women) we are very jealous!! :greengrin:
Lily25: Easter is a lot of fun in Greece, love it and I can say that I have forgotten a little how nice was!! Anyway I will definetely bring some real jewelry with me!! :yes::blushing:
 
#39
I feel both ways I guess, depending on the occasion...

I don't mind ppl staring at my jewels and if they say something nice it is flattering but the two comments I just can't stand are 1 when they say "oh someone must realllllly LOVE you" this bothers me because I guess I feel bad for them in a way, my center stone is a 3ct and the ladies who have said this to me usually have like maybe 1-1.5cts and the way they say it makes me think they feel like their husbands don't love them as much because they don't have bigger erings... which is ridic because no matter what size diamond my hubby could or could not have gotten me I KNOW he LOVES me the same kwim???? I hope you ladies understand my point lol!

And 2nd comment I dislike is when they ask loudly "IS IT REAL"
Are you kidding me??? I just think thats soooo rude! I would never ask that...
 
#40
Sprinkles&Bling said:
I feel both ways I guess, depending on the occasion...

I don't mind ppl staring at my jewels and if they say something nice it is flattering but the two comments I just can't stand are 1 when they say "oh someone must realllllly LOVE you" this bothers me because I guess I feel bad for them in a way, my center stone is a 3ct and the ladies who have said this to me usually have like maybe 1-1.5cts and the way they say it makes me think they feel like their husbands don't love them as much because they don't have bigger erings... which is ridic because no matter what size diamond my hubby could or could not have gotten me I KNOW he LOVES me the same kwim???? I hope you ladies understand my point lol!

And 2nd comment I dislike is when they ask loudly "IS IT REAL"
Are you kidding me??? I just think thats soooo rude! I would never ask that...
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LOL......."Is it real" is about the same as asking "how much does it cost?" Totally inappropriate and out of line. But then, manners can't be boxed, wrapped, and sold!

If I had a diamond to reflect how much my DH loves me, let's just say, it wouldn't fit on my finger LOL! That's insane........my Mom has a small 0.25 ct diamond ring my father replaced after her original was stolen. Although small by some people's standards, the ring has HUGE sentimental value & she will NEVER upgrade it.

You know.....my son (who's 6) became very upset when I recently upgraded my diamond e-ring. He said I should never have gotten rid of the original stone I was proposed to with. He says, "Mama, it's not the size...it's the person you're marrying"

I started to tear up :cry:
 
#41
I hate this comment too. As if I had a smaller stone somehow I'd be less loved?
I write it off as just being a stupid comment from someone who WANTS to say something but isn't good at it.

We upgraded, doesn't mean I was less loved when I had a smaller ring when we got married, LOL!

Sprinkles&Bling said:
I feel both ways I guess, depending on the occasion...

I don't mind ppl staring at my jewels and if they say something nice it is flattering but the two comments I just can't stand are 1 when they say "oh someone must realllllly LOVE you" this bothers me because I guess I feel bad for them in a way, my center stone is a 3ct and the ladies who have said this to me usually have like maybe 1-1.5cts and the way they say it makes me think they feel like their husbands don't love them as much because they don't have bigger erings... which is ridic because no matter what size diamond my hubby could or could not have gotten me I KNOW he LOVES me the same kwim???? I hope you ladies understand my point lol!

And 2nd comment I dislike is when they ask loudly "IS IT REAL"
Are you kidding me??? I just think thats soooo rude! I would never ask that...
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No one has ever asked me about price or if it's real though.
 
#43
A thought came into my head.........was anyone self-conscious when purchasing/receiving/choosing their "bling"?? Because once you have it.....hell......"self-conscious" gets tossed out the window!
 
#44
Contessa, that is so sweet of your son, and I actually did feel a little bad picking a bigger diamond just because my friends who were already married had smaller diamonds and I guess I didn't want them to feel like I was showing off by having a bigger diamond...
 
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