I rarely shop successfully for handbags with anyone else. First of all, none of my nearest and dearest lspend as much as I do, and certainly I would never reveal to my husband what I do spend. What he doesn't know, won't hurt him, I figure. But then again, I get insecure when I am spending so much so I often take a photo and send it to my daughter both from the store, or if I'm looking on-line. And I often end up returning even bags I look at in the store. But I can report I have purchased the perfect black handbag, brown, not so much.