~Ban Island~ Moral Support! ~Let’s Resist Temptation Together!~

[bakeacookie]

I don’t know.

I bought into the “you’ll buy less buying quality luxury” and the “buy once cry once.”

It triggered a shopping addiction instead. They made it not a functional transaction, but more a collecting obsession.

[emoji23] so trying to find some balance, not to be caught up in the thrill of the hunt, the call of the next new collection. Working to get it into my mind I don’t need to have everything no matter how bad I’ve convinced myself I do.

 

[Evia]

I like the suggestion of staring at my lovely bags. I think because I have them all boxed away, I am not as mindful of the beauty and treasure in my possession. I just need to enjoy them and hold out till 4th quarter of the year. I ve been so terrible. Gosh!

I keep mine in cupboards where I can see them easily, and most of them are not in dustbags, as they’re not exposed to sun. It’s a helpful reminder to me that I already own some lovely things and helps me appreciate that fact

I don’t know.

I bought into the “you’ll buy less buying quality luxury” and the “buy once cry once.”

It triggered a shopping addiction instead. They made it not a functional transaction, but more a collecting obsession.

[emoji23] so trying to find some balance, not to be caught up in the thrill of the hunt, the call of the next new collection. Working to get it into my mind I don’t need to have everything no matter how bad I’ve convinced myself I do.

Sounds like you’re doing really well, and congrats on working through your shopping pause I’ve bought a few things this year, but I’ve also resisted quite a few barginacious impulse buys which is a first for me

 

[Emes]

Me too. I heard it on Thursday and still bought a bag yesterday! We’re supporting the luxury goods economy where fine sewers and crafts people make a better income than those at a sweatshop. I stopped buying cheap disposable goods in my twenties and realizing that every time I moved I was dumping stuff. Now I have quality items I can cherish forever and I actually shop less. Yeah a bag and nice shoes a year can be around 3-5 grand but with care we can have them for years and actually buy less. Unless you have the means of course [emoji6] no judgment just thought it was very “cheeky” and perhaps motivation to realize when we have enough.

When I first started my lovely handbag collection, it was madness. I could only think about my next addition that’ll round out the other bags I have. I think I’ve slowed down and I’m at that stage you’re talking about “quality over quantity”. I’m definitely hyper aware and thoroughly think about my purchase and its usage for the next 2-5 years (at minimum). I’d like them to be of more value too as you stated.

For me personally, I slowed down because of clutter most of all. It was overwhelming choosing from 16-19 bags which to wear, how to store it..it was stressful for me. Although the podcast did help with the financial motivation as you said[emoji23], thank for sharing!

But I love all the eye candy so no judgements if you’re able to afford and retain more lovelies!!! More power to ya![emoji4]

Speaking of which, congrats on your purchase!!! Can’t wait to see it![emoji7]

 

[GaladrielDelabois]

I don’t know.

I bought into the “you’ll buy less buying quality luxury” and the “buy once cry once.”

It triggered a shopping addiction instead. They made it not a functional transaction, but more a collecting obsession.

[emoji23] so trying to find some balance, not to be caught up in the thrill of the hunt, the call of the next new collection. Working to get it into my mind I don’t need to have everything no matter how bad I’ve convinced myself I do.

I’m with you sister. I downloaded a book and am going to commit myself to more books than bags this year. After this baby arrives I’m on ban island till 2018 at least! I feel euphoric when I buy the bag and then look at my student loans and feel the guilt of being irresponsible but the truth for me is I can die tomorrow and I want to balance enjoying my time here and responsibilities. In the mean time I’ll celebrate other purchases here with ladies and men that love bags sharing while I chant my mantra, “I have enough and am content while I celebrate what others have!” It absolutely is an obsession I have to control.

 

[pianolize]

I keep mine in cupboards where I can see them easily, and most of them are not in dustbags, as they’re not exposed to sun. It’s a helpful reminder to me that I already own some lovely things and helps me appreciate that fact


Sounds like you’re doing really well, and congrats on working through your shopping pause I’ve bought a few things this year, but I’ve also resisted quite a few barginacious impulse buys which is a first for me

I think having one's 'things' in a VISIBLE, CLEARLY ORGANIZED place really makes a huge difference. For example, just this week alone I had extra space, so I kept my herd of 'on deck' bags on my long, slender buffet. It really helps me appreciate what I've already acquired; also now that I'm 'logging' my things in a closet app, I can easily access what I'm looking for/look up similarities when attempting shopping!!! Truly eye-opening. For me, when I moved last year I realized I had forgotten what I'd actually bought or not, since I didn't have a clear place for everything. So I'd ended up with lots of duplicate/similar everything, only bc once I bought something, I forgot where it went, then thought I never bought it in the first place...

 

[bakeacookie]

I’m going to take everything out of dust bags!
My stuff is organized. Neatly lined up like a lab drawer. [emoji436]

But the dust bags help me forget what’s there. Time to uncover everything so I see I don’t need more right now.

 

[GoStanford]

Right now my life involves excess in multiple ways, including shopping. I'm finding this thread really interesting reading. My goal is no major purchases from now till mid-June. It's a flexible goal, though, because I also don't want to regret passing up a great accessory that I might have a hard time finding in the future.

Totally agree with the posts about how social media fuels the fire.

 

[taho]

I don’t know.

I bought into the “you’ll buy less buying quality luxury” and the “buy once cry once.”

It triggered a shopping addiction instead. They made it not a functional transaction, but more a collecting obsession.

[emoji23] so trying to find some balance, not to be caught up in the thrill of the hunt, the call of the next new collection. Working to get it into my mind I don’t need to have everything no matter how bad I’ve convinced myself I do.

Same thing happened to me! The balance is hard to achieve when I'm going to try and stay strong until the end of the year

 

[taho]

Right now my life involves excess in multiple ways, including shopping. I'm finding this thread really interesting reading. My goal is no major purchases from now till mid-June. It's a flexible goal, though, because I also don't want to regret passing up a great accessory that I might have a hard time finding in the future.

Totally agree with the posts about how social media fuels the fire.

I totally feel that way to about seeing purchases that you feel you may not see again in the future but align perfectly with your current collection. This happens to me so much when traveling and I feel like I may not be able to find the item again because different branches of stores have different inventory

 

[miss argile]

So glad that I found this thread!! I was never really into handbags until H, I bought like 0-1 designer bag a year to reward myself but thats it. I dont get the itch to buy or keep browsing IG, TPF whenever I have some spare time.
And it got bad all of a sudden roughly 2 years ago, and now Im 10 H bags deep...
I planned each of my purchases carefully and thought I have the perfect collection for myself (size, function, color, leather etc) already. But I cant help but continue to browse/admire... and plan my next purchase, scary thing is that my H home store is 10-hour flight away, and I literally planned my vacations around it. And I buy vintage/pre-loved as well.
couldnt agree with @bakeacookie more. This buy less and buy quality thing is really turning into a collection obsession.

 

[Stephg1027]

Ok guys. I need some moral support. I’ve been serious about my ban for 6 weeks now (embarrassing to admit that’s all it’s been... feels like much longer).

I made the mistake of swinging by my local Neimans and browsing the sale section. I found a pair of Louboutin mules that i am in love with... on sale! Although they are still very pricy.

These go against my rules in every way. 1. Impulse buy 2. Not a wardrobe necessity. 3. Ban until my birthday in October.

I don’t know why I get the luxury shopping bug so frequently! To be fair I do feel like I would wear these a ton and get a lot of cost per wear.

I’m so tempted to buy them as they are the last pair and then I could mull it over, but that process is what adds to my stress and guilt. Sigh...

Feel free to scold me or enable me :-/

 

[bakeacookie]

Ok guys. I need some moral support. I’ve been serious about my ban for 6 weeks now (embarrassing to admit that’s all it’s been... feels like much longer).

I made the mistake of swinging by my local Neimans and browsing the sale section. I found a pair of Louboutin mules that i am in love with... on sale! Although they are still very pricy.

These go against my rules in every way. 1. Impulse buy 2. Not a wardrobe necessity. 3. Ban until my birthday in October.

I don’t know why I get the luxury shopping bug so frequently! To be fair I do feel like I would wear these a ton and get a lot of cost per wear.

I’m so tempted to buy them as they are the last pair and then I could mull it over, but that process is what adds to my stress and guilt. Sigh...

Feel free to scold me or enable me :-/

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Not a wardrobe necessity and impulse buy, don’t do it. You can be strong. This is your first test!

 

[chubbyshopper]

Ok guys. I need some moral support. I’ve been serious about my ban for 6 weeks now (embarrassing to admit that’s all it’s been... feels like much longer).

I made the mistake of swinging by my local Neimans and browsing the sale section. I found a pair of Louboutin mules that i am in love with... on sale! Although they are still very pricy.

These go against my rules in every way. 1. Impulse buy 2. Not a wardrobe necessity. 3. Ban until my birthday in October.

I don’t know why I get the luxury shopping bug so frequently! To be fair I do feel like I would wear these a ton and get a lot of cost per wear.

I’m so tempted to buy them as they are the last pair and then I could mull it over, but that process is what adds to my stress and guilt. Sigh...

Feel free to scold me or enable me :-/

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I know how you feel dear. Finding things you like in the Sales are the worst! Most of my returned or regret items are generally bought in the Sale.

Think of it as money Saved if you didnt get them. That is more money towards something on your wishlist when you breakout of your ban.
If its still on your mind maybe see if you can find cheaper dupes of the mules. Sometimes it is really the thrill of the Hunt we chase after rather than the actually item.
Hope this helps you x

 

[More bags]

Ok guys. I need some moral support. I’ve been serious about my ban for 6 weeks now (embarrassing to admit that’s all it’s been... feels like much longer).

I made the mistake of swinging by my local Neimans and browsing the sale section. I found a pair of Louboutin mules that i am in love with... on sale! Although they are still very pricy.

These go against my rules in every way. 1. Impulse buy 2. Not a wardrobe necessity. 3. Ban until my birthday in October.

I don’t know why I get the luxury shopping bug so frequently! To be fair I do feel like I would wear these a ton and get a lot of cost per wear.

I’m so tempted to buy them as they are the last pair and then I could mull it over, but that process is what adds to my stress and guilt. Sigh...

Feel free to scold me or enable me :-/

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Hi, you’re not alone. You’re being tempted by something on sale. Think about why you are on a ban, what’s your motivation? Are you saving up for something big - a vacation, a holy grail purchase? Are you pausing from previous splurges/acquisitions? Are you trying to appreciate what you already have? Dig deep and understand the why, then ask yourself how making this purchase helps you toward your goal(s).
By the way, my birthday is in October so I’ll be there to celebrate with you when you make your ban goal! Nothing bad will happen if you don’t end up buying these shoes right now. (It’s what I tell myself when I’m trying to resist temptation.)

 

[ksuromax]

Ok guys. I need some moral support. I’ve been serious about my ban for 6 weeks now (embarrassing to admit that’s all it’s been... feels like much longer).

I made the mistake of swinging by my local Neimans and browsing the sale section. I found a pair of Louboutin mules that i am in love with... on sale! Although they are still very pricy.

These go against my rules in every way. 1. Impulse buy 2. Not a wardrobe necessity. 3. Ban until my birthday in October.

I don’t know why I get the luxury shopping bug so frequently! To be fair I do feel like I would wear these a ton and get a lot of cost per wear.

I’m so tempted to buy them as they are the last pair and then I could mull it over, but that process is what adds to my stress and guilt. Sigh...

Feel free to scold me or enable me :-/

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All these studs, or whatever deco they are, are very tricky, and if one falls off, that will be it - your cool and edgy shoes will turn into a mess, and hardly ever get worn again. When it comes to shoes, especially at these price levels, put practicality, comfort and durability in the first place.
what if the glitter starts peeling of?? scratch and show discolouration due to rubbing against each other while walking?? will you like them still the same??
we do bump into coaches, chair/table legs, someone might accidentally step on your foot... how would you feel then?