I’m so sorry that you have experienced this. Your are remarkable in your compassion. May we all learn from you.A little story to get off my chest that is unrelated to bags but belongs in here. I joined this thread talking about my accident, and as it is about to be locked, I'll leave this story with it so as not to carry that weight into the next year.
There's a tiny coffee shop near me that I frequent. I get on well with the owner and all the staff, bar one of the baristas who happens to be on duty at the usual time I stop by.
Now, my order is not overly complicated (black coffee with a dash of skim), and I am always mindful to be cheery and friendly with the staff as I'm aware of how utterly exhausting their work can be. Yet, this one barista has always made it very clear that she is offended by my broken face. She grimaces when she sees me, steps away as though I have something contagious, huffs and puffs as she pulls my coffee and shoves the cup towards me with such aggression that she has spilled it onto the counter and onto my hand several times.
The owner, seeing her behaviour, has repeatedly explained that there's nothing medically wrong to cause her to fear me, but my face is simply different due to an accident; this made no difference to the treatment I received. Anyway, I do not let her bother me as the rest of the team are lovely and I want to support a small, local business.
As it happens, the shop was shut during the majority of this year due to lockdowns but has recently re-opened for takeaways. I have stopped by twice for a takeaway coffee to enjoy on my walks and both times this particular barista served me with a smile, answered my greetings and questions politely, served me my coffee without aggression or spillage and has been a completely different person all around.
I thought that perhaps the pandemic has shifted her perspective on things. Until today when the owner greeted me by name as I walked in and I saw the penny drop for the barista who immediately returned to her previous ill-mannered behaviour. It baffled me until I figured out what had happened. I'm now wearing a mask. The past two times she was friendly and polite, it was because she could not see the indented side of my face and, as such, did not recognize me.
I've known all along that people have been nicer all around since I've been wearing masks but this was a reminder that many do judge rather harshly.
I never thought I'd say this but, as cumbersome as they are, I may actually miss wearing a mask when this pandemic is finally over. That's not to say I am not wishing with all my heart that this nightmare ends, of course. I cannot wait for normalcy!
I suppose I'm quite lucky that I've experienced an upside to mask-life, rather than merely feeling suffocated all the time.
And that's that for 2020. Fingers crossed for brighter days ahead!
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It really is okay, the shock has passed. Besides, that one negative experience has been wiped away with all the kind words of support I've received from all of you. I'm so lucky!
@papertiger hit the nail on the head, I believe. When people respond in extreme ways- anger, disgust, panic- it is merely due to them being triggered by their own fears or negative memories. It's impossible to be upset once I remind myself of that, and the only thing left to feel is compassion. She must be deeply afraid or hurt to resort to hostile actions in an effort to defend herself from whatever perceived danger I represent to her. She is stunningly beautiful so perhaps having her face broken is her biggest fear and I am the embodiment of that fear. Who's to say?
Posting about it cleared my head. I try my best to make her comfortable and had assumed that she'd relax in time, but I think from now on I'll just avoid her. No need for either of us to be uncomfortable.
Oh please no! The only thing anyone would learn from me is how to write posts that are far too long and how to double your bag count in 2 years!
If anything, all of your responses hold the most valuable lessons in how to be respectful of one and all. I'm the student here.
Putting it to a vote!
Which black bag should I use for the last few days of 2020? 1, 2 or 3
Mind you, they're only being used to go for short walks so none of them are actually appropriate
Which black bag should I use for the last few days of 2020? 1, 2 or 3
Mind you, they're only being used to go for short walks so none of them are actually appropriate
I love that you carried the presents in your Loewe basket. That is such a perfect example of using and enjoying bags!
Oh my God, my heart bleeds, the poor thing. That must be so hard. How is it going now?
Oh but do! I wouldn’t dream to be at home without a watch on (I sleep with one too, so it is not very hard
).@Purses & Perfumes - was it you that wanted to know what could fit in the BV Chain Knot? Probably not, since you were getting one - but I can fit my iPhone 7 and my Comme des Garcons 3/4 zip wallet with no issues - I don't wear makeup, but I could add small things easily, lip gloss, stuff like that. A packet of tissues.It's been a hectic week with a blizzard thrown in for good measure, hope you all had a merry merry Christmas!
What a beautiful knot. Each time I have a certain type of event, I think of getting one but for some reason I never have. I also do not understand why on earth they are discontinuing this...
A little story to get off my chest that is unrelated to bags but belongs in here. I joined this thread talking about my accident, and as it is about to be locked, I'll leave this story with it so as not to carry that weight into the next year.
There's a tiny coffee shop near me that I frequent. I get on well with the owner and all the staff, bar one of the baristas who happens to be on duty at the usual time I stop by.
Now, my order is not overly complicated (black coffee with a dash of skim), and I am always mindful to be cheery and friendly with the staff as I'm aware of how utterly exhausting their work can be. Yet, this one barista has always made it very clear that she is offended by my broken face. She grimaces when she sees me, steps away as though I have something contagious, huffs and puffs as she pulls my coffee and shoves the cup towards me with such aggression that she has spilled it onto the counter and onto my hand several times.
The owner, seeing her behaviour, has repeatedly explained that there's nothing medically wrong to cause her to fear me, but my face is simply different due to an accident; this made no difference to the treatment I received. Anyway, I do not let her bother me as the rest of the team are lovely and I want to support a small, local business.
As it happens, the shop was shut during the majority of this year due to lockdowns but has recently re-opened for takeaways. I have stopped by twice for a takeaway coffee to enjoy on my walks and both times this particular barista served me with a smile, answered my greetings and questions politely, served me my coffee without aggression or spillage and has been a completely different person all around.
I thought that perhaps the pandemic has shifted her perspective on things. Until today when the owner greeted me by name as I walked in and I saw the penny drop for the barista who immediately returned to her previous ill-mannered behaviour. It baffled me until I figured out what had happened. I'm now wearing a mask. The past two times she was friendly and polite, it was because she could not see the indented side of my face and, as such, did not recognize me.
I've known all along that people have been nicer all around since I've been wearing masks but this was a reminder that many do judge rather harshly.
I never thought I'd say this but, as cumbersome as they are, I may actually miss wearing a mask when this pandemic is finally over. That's not to say I am not wishing with all my heart that this nightmare ends, of course. I cannot wait for normalcy!
I suppose I'm quite lucky that I've experienced an upside to mask-life, rather than merely feeling suffocated all the time.
And that's that for 2020. Fingers crossed for brighter days ahead!
This made me shiver. The realization that for some people, wearing a mask may be a relief because of our human behaviour. Thank your for making me think of that. And kudos to you for your attitude and positive outlook, you are an inspiration.
Putting it to a vote!
Which black bag should I use for the last few days of 2020? 1, 2 or 3
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Mind you, they're only being used to go for short walks so none of them are actually appropriate
I find it all perfectly appropriate
. I say the bottom one, I like the shape.
Putting it to a vote!
Which black bag should I use for the last few days of 2020? 1, 2 or 3
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Mind you, they're only being used to go for short walks so none of them are actually appropriate
Since I was wearing a deeply inappropriate bag to the beach and park yesterday (red Gucci suede dome top-handle) I say go for the rock-lace-up shw top-left. Party 2020
I would go with the hammitt.Putting it to a vote!
Which black bag should I use for the last few days of 2020? 1, 2 or 3
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Mind you, they're only being used to go for short walks so none of them are actually appropriate
I also vote for the one with red zipper track! (This is the hammitt, right?)Putting it to a vote!
Which black bag should I use for the last few days of 2020? 1, 2 or 3
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Mind you, they're only being used to go for short walks so none of them are actually appropriate
I like them all and think they all work! Probably I’d go for the one on the top right because of the hardware but I like them all! Let us know which you pick....
Great idea so on a similar note - I’m going to an outdoor lightshow with my family tomorrow evening. It’s the only thing that’s survived lockdown and stayed on! It will be cold but hopefully stay dry (no guarantee!) so I’ll be wearing a big coat, jeans and warm boots.
Which bag shall I take?
Great idea so on a similar note - I’m going to an outdoor lightshow with my family tomorrow evening. It’s the only thing that’s survived lockdown and stayed on! It will be cold but hopefully stay dry (no guarantee!) so I’ll be wearing a big coat, jeans and warm boots.
Which bag shall I take?I would wear which ever one you find the most comfortable. I love all your Mulberry bags. They are all so lovely.[/QUOTE]
Whoops, I should have written out the bag names to make it easier.
I'll definitely let you know; it'll be whichever has the most votes in the end. The Hammitt is clearly in the lead right now.
I love the unique shape and it's one of my forever bags. It's by Sandro. They release some iteration of it pretty much every season or 2.I find it all perfectly appropriate
I like the way you work! There are no rules for 2020 anyway!
Random ebay find, can't recall the brand. Lovely feel and scent to the leather, though.I say go for the rock-lace-up shw top-left. Party 2020
Thank you.
Yes, it's Hammitt.
And a 3rd vote for the Hammitt.
I'll definitely let you know; it'll be whichever has the most votes in the end. The Hammitt is clearly in the lead right now.
The Lily would be perfect for the light show, IMO.
Steel blue maiden voyage
This is fun. I really like this vote for a bag idea!
@papertiger A moderator question for you, if you don't mind. Would it be better to have these 'vote for a bag' posts in the 2021 thread? Do you think it's worth it for you to move these last few posts we've made across?
I initially thought it more fitting in here (final 2020 bags on the final pages of the 2020 thread) but now I'm thinking it may gain more traction there. It's your call, I'm just thinking aloud.
Also, go on then! Join in with a couple of options from your collection and let us vote!
It's pretty obvious who is the ugly person in this story.A little story to get off my chest that is unrelated to bags but belongs in here. I joined this thread talking about my accident, and as it is about to be locked, I'll leave this story with it so as not to carry that weight into the next year.
There's a tiny coffee shop near me that I frequent. I get on well with the owner and all the staff, bar one of the baristas who happens to be on duty at the usual time I stop by.
Now, my order is not overly complicated (black coffee with a dash of skim), and I am always mindful to be cheery and friendly with the staff as I'm aware of how utterly exhausting their work can be. Yet, this one barista has always made it very clear that she is offended by my broken face. She grimaces when she sees me, steps away as though I have something contagious, huffs and puffs as she pulls my coffee and shoves the cup towards me with such aggression that she has spilled it onto the counter and onto my hand several times.
The owner, seeing her behaviour, has repeatedly explained that there's nothing medically wrong to cause her to fear me, but my face is simply different due to an accident; this made no difference to the treatment I received. Anyway, I do not let her bother me as the rest of the team are lovely and I want to support a small, local business.
As it happens, the shop was shut during the majority of this year due to lockdowns but has recently re-opened for takeaways. I have stopped by twice for a takeaway coffee to enjoy on my walks and both times this particular barista served me with a smile, answered my greetings and questions politely, served me my coffee without aggression or spillage and has been a completely different person all around.
I thought that perhaps the pandemic has shifted her perspective on things. Until today when the owner greeted me by name as I walked in and I saw the penny drop for the barista who immediately returned to her previous ill-mannered behaviour. It baffled me until I figured out what had happened. I'm now wearing a mask. The past two times she was friendly and polite, it was because she could not see the indented side of my face and, as such, did not recognize me.
I've known all along that people have been nicer all around since I've been wearing masks but this was a reminder that many do judge rather harshly.
I never thought I'd say this but, as cumbersome as they are, I may actually miss wearing a mask when this pandemic is finally over. That's not to say I am not wishing with all my heart that this nightmare ends, of course. I cannot wait for normalcy!
I suppose I'm quite lucky that I've experienced an upside to mask-life, rather than merely feeling suffocated all the time.
And that's that for 2020. Fingers crossed for brighter days ahead!
Hugs to you!
Does she have any bags in her collection that you want? You might offer to trade, saying "I like this bag, but I REALLY LOVE that [whatever] of yours." I don't have a sister so this might be totally wrong, sorry, LOL.