2019 resolution - shopping my own bag and wallet collection. Any one else?
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Thank you for this nice reminder that people come from all sorts of backgrounds and that people have different values based on how they were raised and what they were taught, what they were fortunate enough to learn in life, and their circumstances. I consider myself extremely lucky to have a grandmother who invested from a very young age (and she is a formidable, strong, empowered woman and the greatest role model). My husband and were raised very differently and this is reflected in who we’ve become, so it’s been a journey to really learn each other, especially in the financial sense. It’s good to have diversity of thought here, and to be connected by our love of handbags!!I think a lot of this is economic advantage and cultural on a family level. I was taught to save and invest my by parents via role modeling. I think they may have mentioned it once or twice. But it was such a strong part of our family culture that I picked it up without much tutelage or active encouragement. So, I’m big on saving and investing.
In contrast, Mr. S’s family has never saved. They were lower middle class and didn’t have much to save. Income from both parents working just covered bills for a household with 5 kids. So there wasn’t opportunity. No fault of theirs. You can’t get blood from a turnip.
But, as a result, Mr. S didn’t save at all until mentors in jobs shared the concept with him. We even struggled at first in our marriage because our value systems were so different. Luckily he’s a smart man and fairly quickly “got” the concept so I didn’t have to kill him off for the insurance money - which I would have then saved.
You can live off your investments because you had grandparents and parents to set them up for you and teach you to contribute and maintain them. I’m sure as a result you’ll also inherit. Generational wealth is a HUGE advantage that MOST people don’t have.
I’m just offering this because I think it’s easy for those of us with extra capacity, a culture of saving, or generations who paved the way to be bewildered when others don’t save. But, it’s really a huge gift and extreme advantage to be taught to invest and to be able to do so.
Congratulations to both of you!!!!! We can’t wait to see beautiful baby pics!!
Yes. It’s not that we can’t be “ourselves”. It’s that we don’t get to disregard the situation, events or other people because being “us” is so much more important. There is no class of clothing that can’t be comfortable from swimming suit to gown. I’m never uncomfortable in my clothes. So no excuses. It’s just a cop out.
Ok. No more grumpy. 
Mr. S gave me my last (I think) holiday prezzie!!! 
Fendi silver calfskin wallet on chain !
Most of our furniture is light colored so I put it on one of my coats to show the color. LOL!
ME LOVE!!!!
I have a pretty red gown for NYE and can’t wait to wear this with it. Yay!!!
Mr. S gave me my last (I think) holiday prezzie!!! Fendi silver calfskin wallet on chain !
Most of our furniture is light colored so I put it on one of my coats to show the color. LOL!
ME LOVE!!!!
I have a pretty red gown for NYE and can’t wait to wear this with it. Yay!!!
That’s so smart! It’s one of the smartest thing I’ve heard on this forum. I actually have an account for DD, but it’s only a saving deposit account. I think I’ll go change it into investment account instead.
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Why you’re unemployable? But at least, they’ll pay you for being a TA or RA during the PhD program, right? And what make you think you’ll be employable with the PhD if they can’t hire you with master degree? I don’t mean to be rude, but just wonder what’s the difference? And why you think with a higher degree will likely to get you work? I’m just curious.
And I mean... at the end, even if you can’t find work at all, being a stay at home mom isn’t that bad, I think. My grandma is a stay at home mom her whole life. She’s now living with my mom. I think she’s doing fine. At the age of 92, she’s still strong, walk with her back straight, and can hear things very clearly. I think I wish I could be just like her at the age of 90.
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Oh and by the way I ended up not getting a celebratory anything. so much willpower! I ended up spending my bag money from a sold fendi and YSL on.... GRE exam registration fees and sending a chunk of money off my paypal to my bank account to make amends with my husband about overspending on unnecessary fashion purchases in November/December.I would need to sell one more bag and send the cash to our account in order for him to get off my back already about my autumn spending. THEN maybe I can start saving up for 2019 trip experiences, including family summer camp and a separate autumn trip to NYC with my eldest.... No new bags for me coming up.
But 3 totes are on the way so don’t feel bad for me. A black Gucci, a taupe Prada, and an Orange ferragamo.
Congratulations! Glad to hear that!
Same as my DH. He only wear all the shirts he got from all his races. DD even asks if “daddy has a proper other shirt to wear daily aside from these freebies t-shirt”? I’m mostly half casual so...
You make me miss mine. Maybe after I get home, I’ll bring it out.
And don’t ever excuse for the fleece. I wish I live in where I get the opportunity to wear such clothing. It’s too hot here. [emoji28]
OMG! Mr. S. surprised me with another Xmas gift in anticipation for our NYE night out!!!
I gotta take some pics and share. To be continued...
Yay! Show us!
Ok. No more grumpy.
Fendi silver calfskin wallet on chain !
Most of our furniture is light colored so I put it on one of my coats to show the color. LOL!
ME LOVE!!!!View attachment 4292421I have a pretty red gown for NYE and can’t wait to wear this with it. Yay!!!
That Is So Pretty!!!!!!
Awesome! What are good investment targets at the moment? Thanks for encouragement! This is my new year resolution.
For January challenge, I’ll go with the New Year New Bag. I’m guilty of getting a Chanel flap this month. So, I’ll wear that in January. I haven’t gotten a chance to wear it yet coz I got it only a couple of days before leaving for the this trip to DH home town and it’s a jersey flap so... definitely not a heavy weight material. I do bring my navy blue Gabrielle with me though and it’s totally love. [emoji4] It totally doesn’t hold much despite the size and how it look, but I like it on me a lot.
And I break my shopping spell on shoes! I said I only have 2 pairs of shoes and both are sneakers. Now I have 4. I went to a shopping mall yesterday and found a Hush puppies shop and they were having an end of the year sale of 50% off for everything and I got 2 pairs. One is a beige flat that looks really polish and another one is a strappy sport sandals. Both comes out so much cheaper than the price of one pair alone. I’m so happy! So, that’s a new year present for myself. [emoji4] And to think about it, maybe the jersey flap and both Burberry scarves are Christmas present to myself. [emoji848][emoji12][emoji12][emoji12]
She’s a dark navy blue all over even though she looks black here. [emoji4]
And I break my shopping spell on shoes! I said I only have 2 pairs of shoes and both are sneakers. Now I have 4. I went to a shopping mall yesterday and found a Hush puppies shop and they were having an end of the year sale of 50% off for everything and I got 2 pairs. One is a beige flat that looks really polish and another one is a strappy sport sandals. Both comes out so much cheaper than the price of one pair alone. I’m so happy! So, that’s a new year present for myself. [emoji4] And to think about it, maybe the jersey flap and both Burberry scarves are Christmas present to myself. [emoji848][emoji12][emoji12][emoji12]
She’s a dark navy blue all over even though she looks black here. [emoji4]
Do you have silver earrings to pair with the hardware? I think ivory looks good against dark/light navy or yellow blouse paired with white trousers. If you can't make it work, of course it'd be better to substitute it with the model you actually love as your BFF suggestedHappy you’re back. You were missed.
My mother is ridiculously cheap. She will never buy truly nice things but, she will buy semi nice things in categories she just doesn’t use like china or evening wear. Then they sit in cabinets and closets because they are “too nice to use”. See that as I grew up made me frustrated as she’s also a very bitter woman. I couldn’t understand why she didn’t use her nicer things and just be happy. I’d think - why not give the party you keep talkinh about instead of being frustrated you don’t have friends. Why not either buy the pretty outfit in your current size or lose the weight to fit what you bought - either way enjoying the pretty outfit.
It seems like self sabotage to me. So, I vowed that I’d never be that way. I use my best china for everything. If I break a price I can always go to the china specialists and get a replacement. I do my best to spend the most on the things I will use every day (bags, clothes, etc.) vs spending the most on “special” items that I won’t see but every blue none. And, if I get a special thing, I still use it in my every day life. I’ll wear my best mink coat to Target. Lol! And even with my attitude, it’s STILL sometimes hard not to self limit and tell myself to “save a thing” for ???????
This is one reason I try to wear my things right away. I don’t want the barrier in my head that it’s too whatever and then I don’t incorporate it into my daily life.
I can’t wait for your mod shots on the LD. They could help me finally pull the trigger on one for me! If I had to say what bags I’ve never owned most want to add and just haven’t pulled the trigger they’d be the Gucci Dionysus the Bal City and the Lady Dior. I haven’t added the GD because I haven’t seen the perfect material / color yet. I haven’t added the Bal City because the one I want is black and it would have to be a back up in a “use” category for me. And I haven’t added the LD because I am not sure about the medium’s opening but I feel anything smaller would be problematic. I also am not a fan of the new, thicker strap or the strap charms.
The Reverse LI or LI would be good for my ivory Chanel!
I’m realizing the color is a lot of the issue. I adore the ivory Dior that Mr. S bought me but I struggle to wear it with what I have. I only own one pair of brown heels, I don’t own any navy or ivory shoes. I own gold and that would work for my Dior but not for the Chanel which has dull shw. So since, I think that color bag would look nice with a non black shoe, I struggle. Same with clothes. I just started buying more navy and blue but I have zero earth tones in my wardrobe which I think also would compliment it well. When I wear my usual black / white / grey / red / jewel tones palette, it just is never the perfect (or even 2nd best, 3rd best or 4th best option.)
That being said, I’m all excited to buy a few more things just to wear with the ivory Diorama and headed to the mall today to do so.Not so much with the Chanel. So I’m thinking that as much as I hate to say it, it needs to go. One of my BFF’s (who doesn’t “get” my purse obsession and only owns <gas> one bag, but who loves me enough to have learned to speak my language) suggested that instead of me looking at selling the bag as a loss of something unique in my collection that I just get rid of it and buy myself a different unique bag for my collection that I’ll actually use and love. She said to take the proceeds from the C and put it towards something else that I not only love but will feel is a cool addition to my collection.
When she said that it was like rockets went off in my head. Lol! I got like a little kid thinking of how much fun it would be to hunt a very special, unique, collectible bag that I’d actually love to wear. It’s good to get input! Whoop! Let the games begin!!!!
Thanks! I was wondering where it went. Lol! But I think this will make it easier.
Beautiful! How do you decide what to leave in bags and what to display. I have all my bags on display because I just love looking at them.
