You make me realize that maybe I’m the function-first person. [emoji848] it must work to make me happy, but yes, I’d be very happy if it’s cute or pretty. Actually, like I said, being cute will catch my eyes so... [emoji848] Arg! I don’t even know who I am. [emoji28]
2019 resolution - shopping my own bag and wallet collection. Any one else?
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You make me realize that maybe I’m the function-first person. [emoji848] it must work to make me happy, but yes, I’d be very happy if it’s cute or pretty. Actually, like I said, being cute will catch my eyes so... [emoji848] Arg! I don’t even know who I am. [emoji28]
I am going to do the 10 in 31 challenge. Possibly some of the others as well.
I reorganised my bag wardrobe a couple of weeks ago
I love the color of your blue bag.
I'll be doing the love it or list it challenge in January with my Valentino Rockstud tote. I have a love/hate relationship with it, which is actually pretty tragic, considering it's only a handbag.
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I absolutely love it.
I'm always in love it or list it mode. I strictly NEVER use the bags that I would never sell. As long as there are bags in my collection that I could possibly part with, I go to them to challenge me to love it or list it already!!!
I can't imagine not investing. I've been investing since I was a teenager. Even before that, my grandparents and parents set up investment accounts for me. We live off our investment accounts now. My son already has a huge retirement account and other investments.Do you know if H produce GP 36 in certain classic colour prediocally? I saw a GP in gold before Christmas on their online store but that was my last sight. What are your best practices to get one directly from H? There's no H store in my country so I've to rely on eBoutique.
Good luck with your goal! I've been wanting to start investing (not in bags though) but have been putting it of for 3-4 years now. Maybe it's now time. It's quite ardeous to find a good target, though and then you've to take a tax policy into account and file bunches of administrative papers.I'm not a risktaker so my profit will be moderate. I wonder if it's worth it after all...
Om!g! That Fornite cake! How did you bake it? It's gorgeous!
Reverse Love it or List it sounds a fun challenge and I just have a thought about your ivory Chanel.I've already almost completed Love it or List it. I spent whole yesterday just both taking and editing pics, and writing out descriptions. I'll have 9 ads up by end of the day. New Year, New Bag won't be hard.
What are your pros and cons for this bag?
I'll be doing the love it or list it challenge in January with my Valentino Rockstud tote. I have a love/hate relationship with it, which is actually pretty tragic, considering it's only a handbag.
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Happy you’re back. You were missed.
My mother is ridiculously cheap. She will never buy truly nice things but, she will buy semi nice things in categories she just doesn’t use like china or evening wear. Then they sit in cabinets and closets because they are “too nice to use”. See that as I grew up made me frustrated as she’s also a very bitter woman. I couldn’t understand why she didn’t use her nicer things and just be happy. I’d think - why not give the party you keep talkinh about instead of being frustrated you don’t have friends. Why not either buy the pretty outfit in your current size or lose the weight to fit what you bought - either way enjoying the pretty outfit.Thanks ElainePG..yes I think that will be my theme for 2019..”just use it” ...for bags as well as clothes and shoes and all the stuff I save for that grand occasion. I pulled out my wedding China and had that aha moment. “Yes this is the occasion you’ve been saving it for”..just a simple family dinner.
On not using the strap for the medium Lady Dior..I think it’s just a bit clunky for a boxy bag to hit right at the hips
It seems like self sabotage to me. So, I vowed that I’d never be that way. I use my best china for everything. If I break a price I can always go to the china specialists and get a replacement. I do my best to spend the most on the things I will use every day (bags, clothes, etc.) vs spending the most on “special” items that I won’t see but every blue none. And, if I get a special thing, I still use it in my every day life. I’ll wear my best mink coat to Target. Lol! And even with my attitude, it’s STILL sometimes hard not to self limit and tell myself to “save a thing” for ???????
This is one reason I try to wear my things right away. I don’t want the barrier in my head that it’s too whatever and then I don’t incorporate it into my daily life.
I can’t wait for your mod shots on the LD. They could help me finally pull the trigger on one for me! If I had to say what bags I’ve never owned most want to add and just haven’t pulled the trigger they’d be the Gucci Dionysus the Bal City and the Lady Dior. I haven’t added the GD because I haven’t seen the perfect material / color yet. I haven’t added the Bal City because the one I want is black and it would have to be a back up in a “use” category for me. And I haven’t added the LD because I am not sure about the medium’s opening but I feel anything smaller would be problematic. I also am not a fan of the new, thicker strap or the strap charms.
The Reverse LI or LI would be good for my ivory Chanel!Reverse Love it or List it sounds a fun challenge and I just have a thought about your ivory Chanel.
I’m realizing the color is a lot of the issue. I adore the ivory Dior that Mr. S bought me but I struggle to wear it with what I have. I only own one pair of brown heels, I don’t own any navy or ivory shoes. I own gold and that would work for my Dior but not for the Chanel which has dull shw. So since, I think that color bag would look nice with a non black shoe, I struggle. Same with clothes. I just started buying more navy and blue but I have zero earth tones in my wardrobe which I think also would compliment it well. When I wear my usual black / white / grey / red / jewel tones palette, it just is never the perfect (or even 2nd best, 3rd best or 4th best option.)
That being said, I’m all excited to buy a few more things just to wear with the ivory Diorama and headed to the mall today to do so.
Not so much with the Chanel. So I’m thinking that as much as I hate to say it, it needs to go. One of my BFF’s (who doesn’t “get” my purse obsession and only owns <gas> one bag, but who loves me enough to have learned to speak my language) suggested that instead of me looking at selling the bag as a loss of something unique in my collection that I just get rid of it and buy myself a different unique bag for my collection that I’ll actually use and love. She said to take the proceeds from the C and put it towards something else that I not only love but will feel is a cool addition to my collection. When she said that it was like rockets went off in my head. Lol! I got like a little kid thinking of how much fun it would be to hunt a very special, unique, collectible bag that I’d actually love to wear. It’s good to get input! Whoop! Let the games begin!!!!
Thanks! I was wondering where it went. Lol! But I think this will make it easier.
Beautiful! How do you decide what to leave in bags and what to display. I have all my bags on display because I just love looking at them.I reorganised my bag wardrobe a couple of weeks ago
Two bags I've also wanted to add to my collection are Gucci Dionysus and Lady Dior. Gucci hasn't made a color combination I like yet, or they put suede in the place I'd rather have leather. I've held back on the Lady Dior because I don't like the way the strap attaches and the opening is so tight. I adore the way it looks though.Happy you’re back. You were missed.
My mother is ridiculously cheap. She will never buy truly nice things but, she will buy semi nice things in categories she just doesn’t use like china or evening wear. Then they sit in cabinets and closets because they are “too nice to use”. See that as I grew up made me frustrated as she’s also a very bitter woman. I couldn’t understand why she didn’t use her nicer things and just be happy. I’d think - why not give the party you keep talkinh about instead of being frustrated you don’t have friends. Why not either buy the pretty outfit in your current size or lose the weight to fit what you bought - either way enjoying the pretty outfit.
It seems like self sabotage to me. So, I vowed that I’d never be that way. I use my best china for everything. If I break a price I can always go to the china specialists and get a replacement. I do my best to spend the most on the things I will use every day (bags, clothes, etc.) vs spending the most on “special” items that I won’t see but every blue none. And, if I get a special thing, I still use it in my every day life. I’ll wear my best mink coat to Target. Lol! And even with my attitude, it’s STILL sometimes hard not to self limit and tell myself to “save a thing” for ???????
This is one reason I try to wear my things right away. I don’t want the barrier in my head that it’s too whatever and then I don’t incorporate it into my daily life.
I can’t wait for your mod shots on the LD. They could help me finally pull the trigger on one for me! If I had to say what bags I’ve never owned most want to add and just haven’t pulled the trigger they’d be the Gucci Dionysus the Bal City and the Lady Dior. I haven’t added the GD because I haven’t seen the perfect material / color yet. I haven’t added the Bal City because the one I want is black and it would have to be a back up in a “use” category for me. And I haven’t added the LD because I am not sure about the medium’s opening but I feel anything smaller would be problematic. I also am not a fan of the new, thicker strap or the strap charms.
The Reverse LI or LI would be good for my ivory Chanel!
I’m realizing the color is a lot of the issue. I adore the ivory Dior that Mr. S bought me but I struggle to wear it with what I have. I only own one pair of brown heels, I don’t own any navy or ivory shoes. I own gold and that would work for my Dior but not for the Chanel which has dull shw. So since, I think that color bag would look nice with a non black shoe, I struggle. Same with clothes. I just started buying more navy and blue but I have zero earth tones in my wardrobe which I think also would compliment it well. When I wear my usual black / white / grey / red / jewel tones palette, it just is never the perfect (or even 2nd best, 3rd best or 4th best option.)
That being said, I’m all excited to buy a few more things just to wear with the ivory Diorama and headed to the mall today to do so.
When she said that it was like rockets went off in my head. Lol! I got like a little kid thinking of how much fun it would be to hunt a very special, unique, collectible bag that I’d actually love to wear. It’s good to get input! Whoop! Let the games begin!!!!
Thanks! I was wondering where it went. Lol! But I think this will make it easier.
Beautiful! How do you decide what to leave in bags and what to display. I have all my bags on display because I just love looking at them.
I have no desire for a Bal city. I've heard the strap length is odd. I prefer my Bal club bag, which is actually a shoulder bag. As much as I love this style, they didn't make it in many colors so I haven't found another I'd like to get. Most of them in the resale market are very faded and look terrible.
Pros:
1. Even though studs are pretty much over, I still like them.
2. The weight, which is 1.1 pounds.
3. It has a nice wide strap.
4. It's my only brown bag.
Cons:
1. The clasp is very fiddly.
2. It isn't lined (partly why it's so lightweight) which makes it uber-slouchy and also kind of lumpy looking.
3. It's my only N/S bag (taller than it is wide) and I'm not sure if that's the most flattering look for me.
4. It's my only brown bag.
So I'm going to use the heck out of it for the next few weeks, and just see what I think.
Yes, I agree! I replaced the strap on my Bal City with an adjustable fabric one, but if I had it to do over again I wouldn't buy a City bag. Mine was a birthday present from The Hubster, though, so I'll never sell it.
I am joining!! We are expecting our first little one in April and will have to learn to prioritize my finances (or whatever I get from maternity leave)! I am very happy with my collection now (except for a chanel WOC which I can live without for now...) best of luck to everyone!
OMG! This drives me crazy. I get being “comfortable” but, nice looking clothes are comfortable too. I don’t get how people will wear anything anywhere.I had to smile at your “closeted evening bag hoarder” comment. This would be me if I had any evening “events” in my life at all! Every time I’m in Bottega Veneta, I ask them to open the drawer with all the Knot clutches so I can just stare at all the pretty candies. Too bad I live in a place where “festive attire” just means, “no fleece!”
I was at the nail salon yesterday. A woman came in wearing a onesie pajama outfit similar to this except it wasn’t even festive. It was grey and black stripes. Her feet were stuffed into stained Uggs.
She looked ridiculous. There is no excuse for coming out looking like this. If you have the money to get your nails done you don’t have to wear stained shoes. You can also get a pair of jeans and a hoodie or sweater.
Also, Mr. S & I went out on Friday night. We’re still exploring our new city because we lost so much time with me having three surgeries and massive thyroid issues over the spring and summer. So we went to 4 different upscale bar / restaurants. All were listed in the city magazine as some of the top ones. People were dressed like they were going to dig potatoes. Casual is one thing but adult women in tobaggan caps and guys in plaid shirt over graphic T’s... at “nice” locations??? C’mon!!! There is nice casual. But there is also cocktail wear, date night wear, dinner wear. These categories do exist and don’t require anyone to wear a corset or a dinner jacket. Sheesh!
Again I say, Argh!This cracked me up... pretty much my situation as well!
Even when we head three hours north to The Big City, where you'd think it would be dressier, I'm constantly shocked at what people think is appropriate clothing to wear to the opera. The Hubster and I always look nice but I've actually seen men there in shorts, and women in leggings!
I think a lot of this is economic advantage and cultural on a family level. I was taught to save and invest my by parents via role modeling. I think they may have mentioned it once or twice. But it was such a strong part of our family culture that I picked it up without much tutelage or active encouragement. So, I’m big on saving and investing.
In contrast, Mr. S’s family has never saved. They were lower middle class and didn’t have much to save. Income from both parents working just covered bills for a household with 5 kids. So there wasn’t opportunity. No fault of theirs. You can’t get blood from a turnip.
But, as a result, Mr. S didn’t save at all until mentors in jobs shared the concept with him. We even struggled at first in our marriage because our value systems were so different. Luckily he’s a smart man and fairly quickly “got” the concept so I didn’t have to kill him off for the insurance money - which I would have then saved.
You can live off your investments because you had grandparents and parents to set them up for you and teach you to contribute and maintain them. I’m sure as a result you’ll also inherit. Generational wealth is a HUGE advantage that MOST people don’t have.
I’m just offering this because I think it’s easy for those of us with extra capacity, a culture of saving, or generations who paved the way to be bewildered when others don’t save. But, it’s really a huge gift and extreme advantage to be taught to invest and to be able to do so.
It's great to start somewhere, anywhere with investing!
I grew up knowing how to manage money on a monthly basis but was not taught to save or invest, as we had next to nothing. That continued into the first half of my adult life while I was a student and worked hourly jobs with very low pay. After getting a more "regular" job I was able to start peeling off a % every month to a retirement account and building cash reserves. Still need to do more (i.e. increase my annual % of savings) but I decided it was more important to just start. Really wish I had done so earlier in life but of course we can't change history. I recently changed jobs for a better benefits package and to diversify how I can build long term savings.
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Oh! and @Sparkletastic - my husband and I come from very different backgrounds. His is definitely a story of generational wealth and support whereas I had a limited amount of extras, including no help with basics like health care costs starting at a young age. We saw a financial counselor prior to getting married and it was one of the best things I have ever done. I chat people up about it if the topic is appropriate, as it's so important to figure out how to get on the same page with money management in a relationship. It was a relief to have a professional assist us with analyzing spending and debt, and to develop a common vocabulary that was not guilt- or value-laden. Seriously, it cost us all of $600 for multiple sessions and so much assistance. That was 15 years ago and I am still drawing on the information we gleaned.
I love this bag of yours but I think the issue you may be facing is the color. You have a lot of black in your wardrobe so it may be harder to wear brown.Pros:
1. Even though studs are pretty much over, I still like them.
2. The weight, which is 1.1 pounds.
3. It has a nice wide strap.
4. It's my only brown bag.
Cons:
1. The clasp is very fiddly.
2. It isn't lined (partly why it's so lightweight) which makes it uber-slouchy and also kind of lumpy looking.
3. It's my only N/S bag (taller than it is wide) and I'm not sure if that's the most flattering look for me.
4. It's my only brown bag.
So I'm going to use the heck out of it for the next few weeks, and just see what I think.
And are rockstuds over?