The thing with Barenia is that even if you think your hands are dry, they can definitely cause a very minor smudge on the bag. I am assuming that once I or H spa go over the whole bag with any kind of baume those types of smudges will even out. When Barenia really stains I think it is from oily spills.
The "edgy fashion" thread is mine and yep, I was super worried that in my lots-of-black lots-of-edge wardrobe Gold might not be the best choice (especially having both B and K in gold), but I've seen people all in black with a gold bag look amazing. Personally I love Gold because it is the BEST with jeans. So, yes - one of my uniforms is T-shirt/jeans/scarf/boots and another is silk blouse/jeans/heels or boots - and Gold works PERFECTLY with both outfits. If I wear all black, personally I will carry a darker bag, preferably black, but that's not a rule at all.
@arabesques shows gold with black on her blog a few times, I think (Aesthetic Alterations) and naturally it looks fabulous.
I also agree that with a 14-month-old you are going to be gravitating to different bags and IF (if) the K isn't your favorite right now that may not always be the case.
I totally agree! I love Etoupe on others or by itself and do NOT like it on me at all. Gold for day, black for night, and you're covered

I wear Gold year-round, for instance if I am wearing a camel coat it's fantastic.