I totally agree that the outfit that makes the person feel the best and therefore shine the brightest is the best.
Being young is all about experimentation, and wildly at that, and the vast majority of what you throw on (metaphorically as well as fashion) to see how it feels is just kind of a wild guess, and eventually through natural selection and the passage of time you find what’s really *you*. Some young women have a really sure sense of themselves and what they are all about and how they choose to communicate that through their interactions with the world and how they dress, from age 16 to 46 but I think that’s rare. I think that’s why women probably aren’t best suited to wear at 40 what they did at 20. When I was 20 as an undergrad at a women’s college I wore flannel pajama bottoms and sweatshirts to class. I don’t think I could really pull that look off without looking very bizarre and people wondering if I should be an inpatient at a mental health facility, at my age. I think when you are quite young society ‘gives you a pass’ no matter how weird your presentation, because so many young people are just trying everything to see what sticks. So, it’s really commonplace to see everything under the sun and people just shrug it off. I think if I were to wear something super out of the ordinary (that did not happen to be amazing and flattering) at my age people would feel a bit sorry for me that after all these years I’m still experimenting to try to figure out my niche. I don’t think women at 40+ ‘get a pass’ anymore without a bit of pitying looks, if the style is really wrong for her and she looks awkward. Which sucks but that’s my hunch. Maybe I’m wrong.
I ran into a 41 year old pal today and she has a turquoise Mohawk that I had never seen before. Very unflattering (I would never say that but just because it highlights a figure flaw needlessly) outfit, in my silent opinion, and zero style. BUT, she is so comfortable with herself and such a nice person and that all shines through so no one gives her a second look and I think she’s doing just fine. She’s clearly enjoying her life, and that’s the point. Happiness and self esteem can definitely overshadow any misguided fashion choices.
And turquoise Mohawks are cool.
Being young is all about experimentation, and wildly at that, and the vast majority of what you throw on (metaphorically as well as fashion) to see how it feels is just kind of a wild guess, and eventually through natural selection and the passage of time you find what’s really *you*. Some young women have a really sure sense of themselves and what they are all about and how they choose to communicate that through their interactions with the world and how they dress, from age 16 to 46 but I think that’s rare. I think that’s why women probably aren’t best suited to wear at 40 what they did at 20. When I was 20 as an undergrad at a women’s college I wore flannel pajama bottoms and sweatshirts to class. I don’t think I could really pull that look off without looking very bizarre and people wondering if I should be an inpatient at a mental health facility, at my age. I think when you are quite young society ‘gives you a pass’ no matter how weird your presentation, because so many young people are just trying everything to see what sticks. So, it’s really commonplace to see everything under the sun and people just shrug it off. I think if I were to wear something super out of the ordinary (that did not happen to be amazing and flattering) at my age people would feel a bit sorry for me that after all these years I’m still experimenting to try to figure out my niche. I don’t think women at 40+ ‘get a pass’ anymore without a bit of pitying looks, if the style is really wrong for her and she looks awkward. Which sucks but that’s my hunch. Maybe I’m wrong.
I ran into a 41 year old pal today and she has a turquoise Mohawk that I had never seen before. Very unflattering (I would never say that but just because it highlights a figure flaw needlessly) outfit, in my silent opinion, and zero style. BUT, she is so comfortable with herself and such a nice person and that all shines through so no one gives her a second look and I think she’s doing just fine. She’s clearly enjoying her life, and that’s the point. Happiness and self esteem can definitely overshadow any misguided fashion choices.
And turquoise Mohawks are cool.
for middle aged women, the next stage in life (AARP qualifiers and beyond) involves near total invisibility in society, so then you can really just let it all hang out any which way and no one will even notice.
