I'm sorry this happened to you but shouldn't the bag be in WTS? I have mixed feelings about your post. Of course I am sorry your stuff was stolen but it seems that you are more upset about your stuff than your best friend's husband being killed! At the very least, I hope you don't impart how upset you are to your friend because she doesn't need to feel worse than she is feeling already.
My prayers are with her and her family! I hope the cops find the thief soon, as well.