I would seriously like to know what etiquette book says it's OK to ask a bride and groom if you can bring an uninvited guest to their wedding. Definately not Emily Post or Miss Manners, they both say the opposite.
Soery to bump an old post but I have an update!
Recently I caught up with another old friend and the wedding came up. Turns out she was invited but her BF of several years (who has hung out with bride/groom before) was not invited either. She is quite miffed as well especially because she helped throw their engagement party. Another girl's BF was invited despite them only being together for a few weeks. Word from one of the bridesmaids is she only invited plus ones for those in a "serious relationship". Knowing that is her criteria and I was still excluded I have decided for sure not to attend. Just wanted to throw all this out there for those who had asked questions about the situation!
Is it possible that the bride and groom only invited the +1s that they actually know well? That might explain the +1 that was invited after only a few weeks of dating...
That was my original thought, but the girl I spoke with recently who has been dating her BF for several years, her BF does know the bride and groom well... and the girl with a BF for two weeks I think knows the bride and groom the same or less.
My Mom won't be attending, so I would be going alone. I guess I was wrong if you all disagree, I Just thought that traditional etiquette was that if you invite someone that you always invite their spouse or live in partner, and that typically you let a single person have a guest. I definitely won't be going if I really can't bring a guest, and it's a shame as I was really looking forward to this wedding.
Emily Post says: "Partners of invited guests must be included in a wedding invitation. This includes couples who are married, engaged, or living together."
Emily Post says: "Allowing single guests who aren’t attached to a significant other to bring a date is a thoughtful gesture, but one that is not required
i invited everyone with a guest whether i knew the date or not, and i trusted that people would use their own discretion (many of my friends were concerned that someone would bring 'just anyone' to my wedding. if a guest of mine wanted to do that, i didn't care. but no one really did that.)