^That is a very valid point, I don't want to burn any bridges because the bf and I are long term and someday I would very much like us to take it to that next level
In the beginning I tried to be someone for him to turn to when he needed something and my bf said thats why he got comfortable, because I made him too comfortable. However now that I'm on board for not making him comfortable at all the bf is having a hard time doing it
Thank you for the words Caley, spongers bother me too! Which is why I am so sad it has come to this, one in my own home.
I was thinking about just not going on vacation altogether, but that would be really crappy because I've been looking forward to it. I also shouldnt have to babysit his brother, its not my job and quite frankly I really dont feel inclined to give a rat's behind anymore. I am going to have my part of the condo locked down and also move the more expensive things to another location. I don't want to take any risks. When trust is gone, its gone.
With regard to if the behavior is just loser-ish or actually criminal. I think its the former but it could easily turn into the latter now that I've taken all the luxuries away from him. I'm sure he knows I'm angry. I just wonder what things are going to be like with my bf gone soon :cry:
In the beginning I tried to be someone for him to turn to when he needed something and my bf said thats why he got comfortable, because I made him too comfortable. However now that I'm on board for not making him comfortable at all the bf is having a hard time doing it
berlyn, i had no idea it had gotten this bad. i think you and the bf need to discuss an ultimatum for his brother, especially when he goes underway and you go on vacation. you could potentially be dealing with stolen property, damaged property, and maybe even miffed neighbors. in all honesty, your bf should be the one to put his foot down. getting in the middle of family squabbles can be quite tricky and may have horrible consequences.
the idea of him staying with friends while you two are gone is a good one. however, if he demands to stay you should threaten him with being thrown out if anything happens to your condo. like you said, you are the woman of the house. yours along with your bf's home priorities come first!
sorry, spongers just bother me to no end.
Thank you for the words Caley, spongers bother me too! Which is why I am so sad it has come to this, one in my own home.
I was thinking about just not going on vacation altogether, but that would be really crappy because I've been looking forward to it. I also shouldnt have to babysit his brother, its not my job and quite frankly I really dont feel inclined to give a rat's behind anymore. I am going to have my part of the condo locked down and also move the more expensive things to another location. I don't want to take any risks. When trust is gone, its gone.
With regard to if the behavior is just loser-ish or actually criminal. I think its the former but it could easily turn into the latter now that I've taken all the luxuries away from him. I'm sure he knows I'm angry. I just wonder what things are going to be like with my bf gone soon :cry: