Un-be-lievable.

[ame]

Do you have OCD?

I have NEVER in my life seen anyone with so much obsession about her many series of e-rings and wedding rings.

Not to upset you, but you seem like you will ALWAYS find fault with something regarding these rings.

I think that's sad.

I don't think the snot is anyone you went to school with....I think the snotty attitude is YOURS and YOURS ALONE!

Get over it and enjoy your ring.

Well then.

Thanks for "telling me" what you needed to tell me and that I am an ungrateful snot and just because *YOU* told me so, Ill just go enjoy my f'ing rings!

For starters, I do have OCD, but that has NO impact on this situation whatsoever, and really none of my issues in the past have been OCD related either. EVERY SINGLE ISSUE, especially with this e-ring, has been manufacturer fault, and related to dealing with poor communicators. This last thing has less to do with OCD and more to do with insurance. If it didn't affect value and coverage, I'd leave it for a while. It needed sized up, and they removed the logo. How does that have anything to do with "finding fault" and OCD?

Perhaps I should have gone home with it and brought it back on Friday, but that is where I will get scolded for having to waste gas and time to go back there AND pick it up. Then I will be killing the planet. Will you scold me for that too?

huh??!!.....anyway


I'm so sorry this has happened! What in the WORLD was this jeweler doing?!!!! As soon as you get this sorted and you have your ring I would definitely stay away from this jeweler!

This guy wasn't really to blame, it was the people that sized it. He caught it and told me about it, and it's not something we can super easily and quickly fix. But hopefully Vatche will. Then I can hopefully close this book and do what Crystalina tells me to do with my life.

 

[skphotoimages]

Do you have OCD?

I have NEVER in my life seen anyone with so much obsession about her many series of e-rings and wedding rings.

Not to upset you, but you seem like you will ALWAYS find fault with something regarding these rings.

I think that's sad.

I don't think the snot is anyone you went to school with....I think the snotty attitude is YOURS and YOURS ALONE!

Get over it and enjoy your ring.

Did you REALLY just say that?

Wow! It's not like her "series of rings" was her choice. You pass judgment on her situation as though you know her story. I don't think OCD caused Tiffany's to chip her first e-ring, loose her second or caused a low life thief to STEAL her third ring. All she has EVER wanted is to have her set done and replaced.

"Obsessed"? Really? We are talking about prongs not touching and cracks and poor workmanship. If you pay for Vatche, it should not be crooked and uneven. When you pick a place that does repair work for Tiffany's, there should not be collapsing settings and pitted platinum.

I do think it's fair to say Ame might be jinxed that so much jewelry related goes wrong for her, but to blame it on her is thoughtless, rude, and void of any knowledge or class on your part.

And it's not "finding fault", it's expecting people to do their job right. How well do you think it would go over if you started letting your students jump out the window and break a leg, or let a kidnapper come take one, or decide to cut off the hair of the girl who takes so much care with her long locks, or you feel like taking a nap instead of DOING YOUR JOB. All she expects is people to do the job she has paid them for. This is were her bad luck Jinx comes in. She's not fabricating these stories. She doesn't want to be without a ring. If anything all she really wants is the ring that was stolen from her all those years ago.

Talk about insensitive.

I'm all for people standing up and speaking their mind, but really? Get your facts straight.

Speaking of facts..let me make this one in bold for you.. SHE CANNOT GET HER RING APPRAISED APPROPRIATELY FOR INSURANCE BECAUSE THEY REQUIRE THE VATCHE STAMP TO BE ON IT OR IT CANNOT BE APPRAISED FOR THE CORRECT REPLACEMENT VALUE. therefore she cannot just "get over it"..it has to be fixed YET AGAIN.

And hey Ame..I'm sorry someone was so insensitive to your series of frustrating incidences over the years regarding your rings and the emotional toll it has taken on you. But really I'm more sorry for the opprobrious and counter factual statement made regarding the people in your past.

Apparently boorish people are everywhere..even our beloved tPF.

Luckily they are few and far between.

 

[ame]

WOW. Don't know if I could have defended myself any better than that!

 

[DebbieAnn]

Do you have OCD?

I have NEVER in my life seen anyone with so much obsession about her many series of e-rings and wedding rings.

Not to upset you, but you seem like you will ALWAYS find fault with something regarding these rings.

I think that's sad.

I don't think the snot is anyone you went to school with....I think the snotty attitude is YOURS and YOURS ALONE!

Get over it and enjoy your ring.

That is extremely rude. You don't know her & your remarks are completely out of line.

 

[amina.pink]

Ame - I know this is slightly off topic, but why on earth would people assume you had made up your marriage and rings?! That is almost as bizarre as the tale of bad luck skphotoimages has described above, which I am very sorry to hear about. It can only be people as crazy as the women you describe that are working on your rings!

Anyway, I do hope things are sorted to your satisfaction as soon as possible and then you get to enjoy your rings for a lifetime!

 

[gabz]

Ame - I know this is slightly off topic, but why on earth would people assume you had made up your marriage and rings?! That is almost as bizarre as the tale of bad luck skphotoimages has described above, which I am very sorry to hear about. It can only be people as crazy as the women you describe that are working on your rings!

Anyway, I do hope things are sorted to your satisfaction as soon as possible and then you get to enjoy your rings for a lifetime!

actually when we first got engaged my ring wa being sized and appraised and the person i was working for at the time said i mustve made it up since i wasnt wearing it... fortunately i found a better job before i wore the ring lol!

 

[ame]

ME TOO, thank you! It's a stressful situation regarding a small inanimate object, but it's hard earned money that paid for it with, and I need the closure so I can move on. I really do feel jinxed. It's gone on for SO long now that I try to just say "well if I have it in a year then I am doing alright".

I focus my energies on other stuff while I wait but I do obsess quietly at home and to my diamond loving friends. And to you guys, though apparently not everyone here appreciates it. Obsessing about material items is one small tiny thing that I do, as maybe many other women do, but it's not who I am. I run a non-profit that I started recently to honor my friend's deceased child and bring awareness to what took him away from his mother and the world, I am chairing a charity trivia night for the non-profit and paying for it out of my own pocket, I own a small design business and I recently sold my stake in a second one, I work full time, I substitute teach Zumba as needed, and I donate my time to my "little sister".

The people who believe that I would've made up my marriage and rings are just people that have bullied me since I was a kid, insecure jerks mostly, who for whatever reason choose to have a problem with me. I was a total nerd loser in school, awkward and yet still loud. And I would talk back and Im sure that egged them on. They think I need to make up things about my life to compete with them, and that I only want acceptance by the popular girls so I will do whatever I can to get that...why they feel the need to compete with ME I will never understand. This one particular "ring leader" is probably just so unhappy with the state of her own affairs that she needs to ruin everyone around her. She's obnoxious to her own clients and to other vendors around town. It's not just me she abuses, but being that it IS me in this instance, a target of her filth, it makes it much more fun for her, and more of a thrill to have control and power of my situation. I don't bash other vendors in my industry, even when they deserve it, because that's not how I am.

Debbie I appreciate your support!

 

[ame]

actually when we first got engaged my ring wa being sized and appraised and the person i was working for at the time said i mustve made it up since i wasnt wearing it... fortunately i found a better job before i wore the ring lol!

It's so bizarre that people assume you're not engaged without a ring too. Some people are waiting for it to be made, sized, don't want one. So many things.

 

[nc.girl]

Well then.

Thanks for "telling me" what you needed to tell me and that I am an ungrateful snot and just because *YOU* told me so, Ill just go enjoy my f'ing rings!

For starters, I do have OCD, but that has NO impact on this situation whatsoever, and really none of my issues in the past have been OCD related either. EVERY SINGLE ISSUE, especially with this e-ring, has been manufacturer fault, and related to dealing with poor communicators. This last thing has less to do with OCD and more to do with insurance. If it didn't affect value and coverage, I'd leave it for a while. It needed sized up, and they removed the logo. How does that have anything to do with "finding fault" and OCD?

Perhaps I should have gone home with it and brought it back on Friday, but that is where I will get scolded for having to waste gas and time to go back there AND pick it up. Then I will be killing the planet. Will you scold me for that too?


This guy wasn't really to blame, it was the people that sized it. He caught it and told me about it, and it's not something we can super easily and quickly fix. But hopefully Vatche will. Then I can hopefully close this book and do what Crystalina tells me to do with my life.

Ugh, wtf? Your issues with the rings are not in any way OCD-related; it's about quality and you wanting the quality to match the price paid! I would be jumping up and down about the jeweler idiots too! This is becoming almost farcical...get your rings back only to have one or both taken away again and again. I'd be beyond frustrated.

ME TOO, thank you! It's a stressful situation regarding a small inanimate object, but it's hard earned money that paid for it with, and I need the closure so I can move on. I really do feel jinxed. It's gone on for SO long now that I try to just say "well if I have it in a year then I am doing alright".

I focus my energies on other stuff while I wait but I do obsess quietly at home and to my diamond loving friends. And to you guys, though apparently not everyone here appreciates it. Obsessing about material items is one small tiny thing that I do, as maybe many other women do, but it's not who I am. I run a non-profit that I started recently to honor my friend's deceased child and bring awareness to what took him away from his mother and the world, I am chairing a charity trivia night for the non-profit and paying for it out of my own pocket, I own a small design business and I recently sold my stake in a second one, I work full time, I substitute teach Zumba as needed, and I donate my time to my "little sister".

The people who believe that I would've made up my marriage and rings are just people that have bullied me since I was a kid, insecure jerks mostly, who for whatever reason choose to have a problem with me. I was a total nerd loser in school, awkward and yet still loud. And I would talk back and Im sure that egged them on. They think I need to make up things about my life to compete with them, and that I only want acceptance by the popular girls so I will do whatever I can to get that...why they feel the need to compete with ME I will never understand. This one particular "ring leader" is probably just so unhappy with the state of her own affairs that she needs to ruin everyone around her. She's obnoxious to her own clients and to other vendors around town. It's not just me she abuses, but being that it IS me in this instance, a target of her filth, it makes it much more fun for her, and more of a thrill to have control and power of my situation. I don't bash other vendors in my industry, even when they deserve it, because that's not how I am.

Debbie I appreciate your support!

Sounds like these "bully" people need to grow up and act like the adults they're supposed to be! I say Eff em! I'd actually say a little more LOL, but this is TPF and we must behave hehe. To me it sounds as if they're VERY insecure, and most likely are jealous of YOU...if they weren't, they wouldn't feel a need to compete with you.

I'm sorry that you probably won't have that gorgeous ring to make those other you-know-whats sick. That would have been a story I would've loved to have heard; the expressions on their faces, etc. Of course with them, you'd probably need a jeweler's loupe and a diamond expert on hand to prove that the thing is real! Ugh, nasty nasty people!

I cannot believe they would have removed the logo! What in the world is wrong with these people?!

 

[ame]

I am kind of embarrassed to say that I actually DO carry a 30x all around anyway... that right there is my OCD Gotta inspect if I whack something! And have a photo of my cert on my phone because it was emailed from the jeweler and I opened it on my phone HAHAHAH!

I do feel like I have my "carat" being dangled in front of me (see what I did there!) The jeweler was like "why would you leave the other metal identifier mark in tact and take this out?!"

As for this person...these people...I do wonder if there isn't some envy there. I waited a few years more than them to get married, I worked hard to get where I am, my parents handed me NOTHING but an education, and I have steadily worked since I was legally able to do so. This girl in particular has had EVERYTHING handed to her, married young to a guy she was with since 6th grade which came with baggage and drama. I have built my company to have quite a positive reputation and she cannot control me or seem to steer any clients that have hired me outside of her away from me. I try to not let it bother me because I hate to give power away...but this is just something that has haunted me forever!

 

[skphotoimages]

Ame - I know this is slightly off topic, but why on earth would people assume you had made up your marriage and rings?! That is almost as bizarre as the tale of bad luck skphotoimages has described above, which I am very sorry to hear about. It can only be people as crazy as the women you describe that are working on your rings!

Anyway, I do hope things are sorted to your satisfaction as soon as possible and then you get to enjoy your rings for a lifetime!

I'm sure Ame will respond to the first part, but just to show people what kind of things are going wrong, here are pictures of SOME of the poor workmanship they have done to MY ring over the last 8 weeks. Just so people can see this stuff isn't fabricated. I waited 8 weeks for a simple head reset and re shanking of my band. It's still not right. My band is warped and my stone is now crooked in the head. I have never had any repair job take over 2-3 days before and have never had to take anything back (much less 7 times) for redo's and adjustments. I don't expect perfection, but I also shouldn't have to settle for dents, prongs not touching, a warped shape to my ring, ect ect. Neither should Ame.

I know the simple thing is to say "find a new jeweler", but I honestly think its more than that. Ame has tried SO many of the jewelers in our city and they either crack her band, set her stone crooked, ect ect. It really is a jinx and I think somehow I got in the middle of it..lol. Also the jeweler we are using now has an excellent reputation...it's just this "thing" following Ame around. And a good way to prove it's bad luck and not our jeweler in this case, Ame's had errors made by our jeweler, Vatche and the current Tiffany's repair place (I'm guessing Ame's not mentioning their name). In my case there was the first person who set the stone (unknown who they used the first time), "bench kid", and most recently whoever they use for their laser work messed up a bunch of stuff. It does seem like quite the tale...I agree.

But it's really real for Ame.

 

[ame]

Ugh those pictures haunt me! HAUNT ME! I still cannot believe I got you involved in my jinx!

I have not divulged this other place's name. I doubt I will. They did a great job on my band despite several non-starts and a bunch of problems. I just had to wait a damn long time to get it! 13 weeks!

But I have tried nearly every jeweler in this city, and some outside of this city. It shouldn't be this hard. Too many take the "eh it'll do" mentality. The "get over the fact that I didn't feel like doing it right" attitude. And I don't live my life with the "eh it's good enough" way of doing things.

 

[amina.pink]

It's so bizarre that people assume you're not engaged without a ring too. Some people are waiting for it to be made, sized, don't want one. So many things.

I honestly don't know what's worse - the fact someone would actually make that judgement or that they would think it's ok to say it out loud. And gabz it was your employer who said that?! How inappropriate!

Ame - I am sorry that the tasteless post earlier in this thread has made you feel as though you need to defend your position to us. You have every right to demand your rings are made to your satisfaction. If you go to a restaurant and order steak but are served undercooked chicken you wouldn't expect to just sit and eat it, so why should this be any different? Whether the problem is that something isn't made to your specification or whether it be that it is not to your standards you have every right to demand that it be. Everything else aside, that's your right as a consumer. And in this case, I don't think you are talking about being obsessed with merely a material good. These rings are a symbol of your marriage and your commitment to your husband and whilst your marriage will exist whether or not you have the perfect ring or indeed any ring despite what some people might assume HA, it does not change the fact that they are important to you and that you have a right to get what you paid for after working hard for that right, as you have already said.

 

[ame]

Thank you! Well said. I definitely don't want undercooked chicken in place of my slab o meat. I probably shouldn't feel the need to defend myself, but clearly I got defensive by those words. I gave her the power! Bad Ame!

 

[skphotoimages]

Ugh those pictures haunt me! HAUNT ME! I still cannot believe I got you involved in my jinx!

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I've told you many times..it's fine. It was a good thing for me really. I hadn't worn my ring in a year and a half. I was so done and over it. I wanted to get rid of it. Because of all this I've come to re-love and appreciate it. I'm not sure I've ever loved it this much And it's finally to a point where atleast the stone is secure and it looks awesome on the finger. The rest of the repairs can wait a few weeks. I don't blame you for a thing.